Why Do Young Women Fall In Love With Older Men?
April 27th, 2008 | 
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Women and men contribute love in different ways. Women are more emotional so touching, saying I Love You, and doing things for us are acts of love. For example, cleaning up the dishes or cooking dinner is acts of love. For men they contribute love with respect and sex.
A good example is that women want men to say “I Love You”, however, if they do not tell us they love us then we fall apart. If we do not respect them, and love them then they start to become defensive. That is when the fighting will probably start.
An age difference of 7 – 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don’t choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.
Most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age, they are looking to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs. In most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30; therefore, most women are just wasting time with men under 30. Most women over 25 believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long-term relationship.
Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability, so older men are a better choice for a mate. Many young women say young men their same age don’t respect them, but older men do. Younger women enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability and emotional maturity.
Younger women and older men are capable of sharing similar life views and goals, despite their age differences. Younger women and older men have no problem accepting each other’s friends. Younger men and older women share the same principles when it comes to family.
Age difference makes no difference, and can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to work at it. Younger women and older men don’t choose to fall in love with each other; it simply happens. Younger women who fall in love with older men have father issues that can sometimes border on the psychotic. Younger women say that older men make them feel special, give them everything they need, give them so much attention, make them feel wanted and needed, and make them feel like a queen.
Younger women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are older men who are established, and in a much better position to take care of a wife than young men. Older men are often more patient, and actually listen to what younger women have to say and respect her opinions–qualities younger women appreciate in older men.
Older men–unlike young men–know what they want in a relationship; they can entertain, wine and dine a young woman–court her the old-fashioned way. Older men know what they want out of life; they are not uncertain about themselves, as younger men sometimes can be and can help bolster a woman financially as well as bolster her self-esteem.
Older men are more experienced sexually and tend to have less of a sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be.
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hi Kirk c,
im so happy with your response….
yes! indeed if you trust the Lord on what ever decision you make then everything will be just fine..God wont make any trials that He knows we cannot overcome! we just need to put our fate in Him!!
i’m 30 and engaged to a man 19 years older than me. And we do love eachother very much. I have a child from a prev marriage and so does he. there is’nt a day that goes by that i dont see him as my equal, i dont notice or think about our age. And i hate to brk it to young ladies that are seeking,but some older men have the ability to behave just as a younger man would and same for older woman and younger woman.Maturety does’nt always come with age.personaly i dont see what the big deal is. A man in his mid 3o’s could provide just as much to a woman of his age as a man in his late 40′s if he’d get his act together early.Persoanly the intimacy is WAY better too, i believe that men that age take the time to listen to what his mates body is saying. What is “older” anyway?? 40 to mid 50 is’nt old, its not like there 75 and cant leave the rocker.
Ok ok looking at some of these Im seeing older Women bashing girls my age because are as you put it “homewreckers” Well I can tell you something not all of us are like that. Im a 19 year old girl who was engaged to a 30 year old single man when i was 17.He was single no wife no kids. Now I have found me a man in his mid thirties with two kids and is divorced. If I was going after money do you think i would date a guy with kids? hmmm I think not. I have always found men older then me attractive I started dating older men when i was 14 and i dated a 19 almost 20 year old. No my life was not bad or did i have any family issues I simply find older men to be the most compatiable with me. So I would like you all to think about that when your talking about younger women being home wreckers and just wanting money. There are some of us that really and truly want love.
I am 16 and I am head over heals in love with a man who is 29. I haven’t told anyone, not even him because I know I’m still young and people will tell me that I don’t know what love is. But like the article said…I never meant to fall in love with him. It just happened. I don’t know what to do because I think he thinks I’m too young for him. I want to tell him my feelings but if I get humiliated by him, it wouldn’t be like I could just avoid him for the rest my life because our familys are very,very close….I see him at least 1-3 a week. What should I do? Right now my only option is to wait till I’m 18 and then tell him how I feel but it might be to late by then. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!
I am 32 year old and she is 23. I proposed her i think because of age difference she rejected me.What I can do?
I crave for and older man is their anyone out their like me? Iam now in my thirties and have been married for 14 years, i married a man my age and we are now both 35. But deep down iam not happy, i feel that iam lacking or have lacked for something i always wanted.Since i was a young girl i was always shy and quiet, and always wanted to be with and older man, even before i really understood about sex. I would fall in love with my school teachers and dream about him holding me in his arms, i even used to cry myself to sleep sometimes, when i was around 13 or so. I sometimes wounder if it was my father who caused me to be like this, as he never showed me any love, and was always very strict and hard on me, he wasnt an english man, but my mother was english. he was from the middleast and had strict old values and always was telling me not to talk to boys and that it was a shame to even look at one before marriage. of course i was a good girl in that way and had respect for myself as i got older. sex did come as a shock to me though when i married my husband, but he was a very good man and never forced me he was very patient with me and did things slowly and gradually in the first weeks of our marriage,as i was too shy even to look at him. well i had three children from him and he has always been a good husband in so many ways. But when we make love he is more lustful rather than attentive, he doesnt hold me for long and those kind of things, he just feels horny and wants us to do all sorts of different positions in bed and playing sex games etc..i dont mind that but i just feel that being with an older man would have been different, i crave for affection sometimes and still have dreams about an old man making love to me and holding me tight in his arms, all i ever wanted was those things even though i do enjoy sex but the affectionate side is more important to me than the lustful side. sometimes i think if i ever met a man 50+ i would leave my husband for him, as iam sure the relationship would be more special and he would give me what a younger man coulndt give. I dont know how to solve my problem, i thought about telling my husband how i feel but then on the other hand he doesnt appeal to me in that way as we are the same age and he couldnt make me feel or fulfill the emptiness and craving inside me. please advice me if you understand or know of similar circumstances like me.
Any man that is “in love” with a woman 20 years younger than him is actually “in lust” with her. “What’s love got to do with it?” Stop fooling yourselves and grow up.
To Sam,
Its kirk from kansas,
I just got the email and your totaly right on waiting on God to find a person a mate, only God knows how you tick and knows exactly what kind of person will be right for that guy or lasdy,
If we loook in the world all we do is get frustrated and dissapointed, its not worth it, than to find a person with God’s help that will be right for you and in agreement with you in life,
Sam Im here if you wanna talk or ask me something ok,
Kirk C,
To Sam,
Its kirk from kansas,
I just got the email and your totaly right on waiting on God to find a person, or mate,
only God knows how you tick and knows exactly what kind of person will be right for that guy or lady,
If we look in the world all we do is get frustrated and dissapointed,
Its not worth it,
We need to find a person with God’s help that will be right for you and in agreement with you spiritually, physically, and fianacially in life,
Sam Im here if you wanna talk or ask me something ok,
Kirk C,
I am 37 and my girlfriend is 22. That’s 15 years difference. We just click. She tells me that I have the maturity and depth of conversing with her that makes her feel wonderful – something she finds lacking in most younger guys. On my part, I find her precocious, and most importantly we could talk about anything under the sun – and for some reason, the difference in experience is not a barrier. I guess sometimes these things just happen.
Hi Sam its Kirk C, in Kansas,
i just saw a totally vivacious woman on senior meet,
sam she had a wonderful smile incredible eyes and
personality was really something,
BUT??????
even If theres a person you see like this and he or she makes you go gaga and lose all control,
Its still not safe to get into it before you Go to God and see what he think’s about it,
i mean god see’s thru things that we cant see, and if a person is used to having things and life a certain way and its not that way when you meet?
it could be disasterous to you and them too,
we often get swayed by looks and personality without thinking if the person is in spiritual agreement, or even able to talk about things and after you meet them, they see something in you that you dont feel a peace about,
wisdom is the key and waiting on God is the best way,
I dont care if the person makes you do sumersalts when you see them , wait on God and then youll be on the safe side and protected by God’s wisdom and knowlege in the spirit realm,
Ive seen WAYYYYYYYY too many situations like this and then the person is all alone or dissapointed as the lady or guys kids dont agree with the mother or Dad, and then theres no peace as the kids even if you dont see them that much,
and the lady is saying that It dont matter to them ,
they may not show it,
but it does matter to them,
Im never been married yet and still i know this Sam, as seeing it in different places,
Hi Sam,
ive read your comment here and i think maybe,( but it is up to you to take it serious or not)that maybe you look at that way to your husband because you were grown by your parents as a very fair, faithful, sweet and good woman. the way your husband react towards your intimate times with you is that he was not grown the same as you are. So taken as what you said here better talk to him about it besides lets take his side maybe he think as time goes by you like what he is doing, that you do not feel any emptiness but he satisfy you. you should let him know that you wanted something from him that you believe he can gave it to you. i do believe that he will listen to you because he loves you.Husbands do not know sometimes what their woman needs and wants because by nature men are very aggressive and straight minded they think that what they do always make their wife happy. sometimes its up to us to vocal our wants and needs for our husband to understand us.
Approach them warmly and sweet. sometimes talking with high voice misunderstood by men they may even think that we are angry.
But its very important to pray before starting a conversation. it help but you just want that your implying something but you just want that he will know what your feelings and wants as long as your needs also.
Being open and honest makes us better person and building our trust to each other especially us couples.
Prayer is powerful especially when you have faith in our God, Jesus Christ. Love comes from Him. He always listen to our sorrows and cries. He is never asleep.
i hope that this advise can help you a little bit.
How can you be so sure that it is lust? based only on the fact that the person is younger. You do not know these people or share in their discussions or the time that they spend together(without sexual contact). How can you be so sure that it is lust?, if they have never had any type of sexual encounter or intimacy. How can you be so sure that it is lus?,t if intially there was no physical attraction, none whatsoever and after getting to know this person in time you find that they have more wisdom,insight,compassion, and humility than most older people than youve encountered. How can you be so sure that its lust?, when you fight your feelings because you know that society will judge you, condemn you and look down upon you and accuse you of lust, but the feeling grow stronger. Its not always lust, although there are ocassions that it may be, but who are you to judge me. I dont believe love is a sin, however there are those that believe it is a sin to love someone younger and to them I say, if you are without sin cast the first stone, and know that although it can be lust, there is the possibility that it can be love. Becareful how talk about someone elses shoes, and dont say you cant understand because the best way for you to find out is to walk a mile in their shoes and like me, you might find, you dont understand the feelings that you are having yourself.
In additon me and this person were not dating, we studied and prayed together. I eventually became physically attracted to this person as well. I have made a conscience decision to stop interacting with this person all together, not because I dont love them, but because I do and I know that if we pursued a relationship we would be faced with so much oppostion because of people who think the way that you do?
hello…!!
my self ranjit
i am a student i am in class 12th
i am a young boy i am 17 yrs old…….
how can i tell u
but i am fallen in love with a teacher
her name is NEETU…..!!
she is a married women…….
i don’t care./
but i don’t know how did it happen
i don’t know wat she thinks about me…….but i want her…….i love her but don’t know tht she also love me…….
she is a very friendly minded person she is very cute and inocent………
plze tell me howz could i make her to fall in love with me………
this is my last year in the school tht’s why i am scared tht after passing the school i couldn’t see her….so plze her me out……..
I am 27 years old and I have been dating a man 22 years older than me for the past year and a half. It is by far the BEST relationship I have ever had!! We get along perfectly! I agree with alot of things in this article, he makes me feel like a queen, he is very intelligent, financially secure, caring, affectionate, and the sex is AMAZING!! For a long time I did believe that when he said he was in love with me it was just lust and he admitted that he does lust for me but he is still very much in love with me. But I have never felt this way about any man before. He is so understanding and has truly become my best friend!
@Ranjit
Stay in the college until she says I Love You.. Don’t try pass..
I am 45….he is 51. Doesnt seem like much of an age difference…but it is! I never dated anyone older than me until now. My last boyfriend was 30 and I was 44. He was so immature! I can see how dating older men is an attraction. Sure there are disagreements and differences such as music, they sleep more Lol!, technology ect. But we now live together and I have never been so in love!! And yes….7 years can make a BIG difference in the way people do things!
This is for Kirk C
Hi, I totally agree with you on waiting on god to see what his plans are for someone.
God already has a special person picked out for everyone, our job is to trust god that he will bring that person to us.
By the way, your last name wouldn’t be Cameron would it?? Just wondering
god bless!
Ranjit,
Falling in love with a married woman is not the wisest thing to do..
The bible says not to Covet your neighbors wife, not to lust after any woman, and not to commit adultery
I know how hard it is to let go of someone you love very much but right now I think thats the wisest choice you have to make. She is married, so forget about her.
I have been attracted by your good message about loves:
Iam male of 29 yrs old,from Tanzania already married
Iam interested to add some points to your topic/motion which says “Why do young women fall in love with older men”.
You have given out some points to support your motion/topic,please also come to my points
Ahaa Ahaaaaa (laughfing first),I think you have done this research in europe but not in Africa.let us talk about Tanzania, all young women who falls in love with older men there is a reasons behind
(a)young women is there for the purpose of money only and that old men(in Tanzania we call older men “Mzee”or”Babu”) must be well in financially
position,and she is ready to stay with that old man but it is must for her going out to find agement man for love. That means Older man for money and young man for Love.
(b)young women always demand of money or needs is always high,at the same time young men also demands of money/needs is high,suppose and they are in relation,so what will happen? failling to solve problems for the young women 1,2,3 times it means you have said the “door is Open”
(c)there is big gape of older men and young men to care a young women,more than 95% of older men who falls in love with young women they have already family at they are home,so if they get a young women
actually they know they are old so only solution to catch a young women is provide a house or to rent,car etc just all things which will attract her.
for the young men is diffucult to provide those items,because that young men also is fighing to get a good car,house,while that older men has already done those things for him or even for his wife at home.
So when older men provides/supply those items for the young women actually they have “nothing to loose” is ok for them and i support them because
they have already sent children to schools,have houses,cars and a lot of money,what extra?tell me,let them enjoy life is too short in Africa i do not know in Europe
Hi Sam Its Kirk C,
I wanted to touch bases with you and talk to you if you want ok,
I have a lady in my life,
I met her about 9 yrs ago, she was my Pastors sister and a widower,
we get along good and I know she loves and cares for me as ive bought her alot of things and she helps me on different things too,
but thier s things i cant talk to her about seriously without her making a mockery about it, or saying something stupid,
Like sexual things, or relationship stuff,
i feel edgy about this,
I know im not supposed to think about other woman , and look or even notice another womaan when Im with her,
but sometimes we dissagree on things and i have to calm her down as she wont listen or pay attention to what im saying and then gets huffy if I dont understand that shes not paying attention to me whenm im talking to her, and shes off in lala land when i need her attentiom,Sam please I need your help on this ok, get back to me on this ok,
Kirk,
Real Tough One-Been married for 46yrs am 74.Wife is 10 yrs my senior.We do not have sex anymore Never really talked opennly with each other.Even different interests.
Met a lady 50 yrs old.We met fell madly in love with each other.Live 2500 miles apart.She has come up twice in 2 mnths to see me & I am visiting her in a couple mnths. Have even explained this love I feel to wife.
Want this other woman Yet my love for her is so strong I do not want to tie her down to what I consider an old man. No I do not own anything to attract this other young lady I live on pensions
She owns her own home business ect wants me to move down & live with her.I look ahead 5-10 yrs & cant see me doing this as she would end up being my keeper. She says age means nothing to her.
Try figuring out an answer to this one
I must say that I have yet to know a more mature woman who married an older man years ago and is now happy. Unless she’s waiting for the insurance money and has either no sex drive or has a younger man on the side. Sad, but true.
Daddy’s happy girl just ain’t so happy when Daddy is all wrinkled, retired, and no longer someone to look up to but instead someone to look after. Every single one I’ve known cautions other young women dating older men. Do they listen? Of course not. That’s why we have articles like these.
IMO, the true losers are the men themselves. I’d hate to incur the karma they incur by stealing someone’s youth. Perhaps if you leave her and her boyfriend or next husband a nice estate, you help make up for it.
Many men date or marry younger women b/c women closer to their own age just don’t idolize them the way that only a naive younger woman can. When she grows up a little, there’s usually trouble in lala land. Some couplings are so incestuous that it can be sickening, but that’s a whole other blog.
Still, I can honestly say that I’ve yet to witness a truly mature, healthy male date or marry much younger women. There’s always something wrong with him that older women can spot much more quickly. And the younger woman is always damaged in some way or trying to escape something as well. That’s been my observation anyway.
My personal experiences/observations:
A very intelligent Chinese Suzuki instructor married to a white psychiatrist who was an awful doctor. Her own words about him once “He not too bright.” That was an understatement. My husband and I still use that as a catchphrase sometimes. She was not a pretty woman, but very nice and highly educated. Still, she cared for her father in her own home while teaching Suzuki and raising two young children. Her husband never helped with either. Her brother, also a physician, had an Asian wife who homeschooled their children. They were more affluent, yet never aided in any way with the father’s care. It was assumed to be the daughter’s responsibility. Everyone in her life took advantage of her, IMO. When she had barely entered remission from breast cancer, they all still expected her to assume her previous roles. She was dutiful and bore it.
A friend with a long string of failed relationships with American women finally married a quite younger, educated Russian teacher. Despite their having a young son and despite his affluence, he made her work the night shift at the grocery store. She hated this and was very verbal about it. He was the quiet, shy, really neurotic type with all of us, but not with her. He really lorded his power over her.
Until she got her green card and could teach. Boy, did their relationship dynamics change. Now, she works him to death. He is frail – diabetic, missing one kidney – but he works fulltime and then all weekend renovating their home. She bosses him around like you would not believe. But, she is definitely much happier these days.
Another friend who travels overseas in his engineering work for a computer company married his Chinese colleague (she was his inferior, however) when she became pregnant. She’s 33 years old, very plain, 15 years younger than him, and basically waited him out.
He slept with her whenever she travelled here or him there and despite having secured her a Fiancee Visa for her trips here, continued to have relationships with American women in the hopes of marrying one. He’s been married 3 times already and guess what? His relationships never last.
Still, she just waited and did whatever he wanted whenever they were together. He planned to break it off with her and then she became preganant. Now he’s married her and he’s miserable. His daughter hates her and sees her as a sex object (which she essentially was. That and an ego booster/stroker). Besides being pregnant, he said another reason he was willing to go ahead and marry her was because she would be less likely to divorce him due to her culture. Now, he only wishes that she would go ahead and just divorce him! LOL I kinda see that as poetic justice. She nags him endlessly, alienates all his friends and relatives, is always upset about something, usually a Chinese custom he’s forgotten to observe. He’s in a living hell.
The baby’s cute enough, but he is funny looking to be honest. I’ve never seen a curly haired Asian before and he is a chunk, so he’s going to look like Sean Lennon if you put a curly wig on him. Not so bad, but he will definitely stand out in a crowd.
A colleague’s son basically ordered a Filipina bride. He was a very shy, but highly critical computer wonk who had a string of failed relationships. They’re still married. She tried to get him to bring her whole family over to live with them, but he refused. She’s extremely ambitious materially and academically, to the point of annoyance to all but the most ambitious/social climbing American women. They seem happy enough together.
I wouldn’t call any of these particularly inspiring or uplifting examples. Granted, the same can be said for many same culture relationships, but on the whole from what I’ve seen, same culture relationships fare better and have a lower divorce rate. I believe statistics still bear that out. And I’ve yet to know a white guy marry a foreign girl who was not very awkward socially, to the point of being noticeably different by American women. Those are simply my observations.
hi Kirk C,
I’ve just read your message here you know what relationship is really like that sometimes your expectations with your partner were not as you have expected how she would turn out to be. Somehow you need to extend your patients and understanding since you are the male in the relationship you had. ask your self if you really feel that you wanted her on your side. ask her also if she really wants you to be with her. dont be so shy to ask her or think any negative point just explain your side why you wanted to clear out things like. that is just a common things to do when your in a relationship. a beautiful relationship have a very basic ingredients to make it successful and happy:
1. put God on the center of your relationship,(as they say when you are in a relationship, when you had taken your journey together you were not just two walking but you are three, it was you, the person you love and God himself helping you and giving you guidance as you take the path of being one and building a family to honor Him.
2. have respect with each other. do not forget that wneh you did not met yet you and she have lived an individual life concerning on what you want, on what you really were. now that you share your life with each other, take time to know each other of you really are and even she, what does she really want and what does she dislike and same as to you. tell her what you really are inside Show it to her and encourage her also.
3.Have trust o each other. Dont forget to build this up in a relationship. Never something that will make your trust to each other fade. trust is something you can never put back if it was destroyed already.
4.Be a friend and a brother to her. a woman is so much fragile they wanted to be protected and wanted be treated as a princes sometimes and a very dominant woman sometimes.
5. Treat her as the most precious woman in your life. In doing this she will learn also how to treat you thesame. You should always know that woman respect their man so much when they were treated as they should beb.
6. Always have Patience, Understanding each others differences and be pessimistic. this is very difficult to do especially when both of you have so much differences but you know “true love endures pain and is patient in all things”.
This is easily said but difficult to do but i trust God that if you ask Guidance and Strenth to Him your relationship will be a success not all the time but well enough for both of you not to be separated from each other.
Don’t over look also with her reaction and then judge by the way you fell but try to know what she really want and what she really thought about your relationship. Don’t be afraid but always be positive. you know what sometimes better communications with each other makes a relationship grow more and stronger. as for sex don’t hesitate to ask as long as you are not disrespecting her, as long as you know you are right. oh don’t forget maybe your getting her actions into wrong thoughts so better yet ask her it’s nice to be open especially with her who else would understand and give your needs and build your dreams for having a family isn’t she.
i hope that this well help you, i would like to be friends with i hope somehow we could introduce each others self even just in here. Funny but somehow thats how you can earn friends enough to share ones problem and joys of life.
i hope that i well get a positive answer to my invitation and i pray for you and your love to have a successful relationship and i pray that your differences and misunderstanding won’t be the cause of you to have separate ways but well make both of you to know each other and well make your relationship on many years to come
Your sincere friend Sam.
hi Kirk C,
oh je,je,je, i did not mean to say pessimistic but what i mean is “BE OPTIMISTIC IN ALL THE THINGS THAT YOU DO”. sorry about the wrong words that i’ve used.
hey, im 17 and live in a completely different country to a man i am completely obsessed with. i met him a few times, but we have talked since and i cant forget him. i need advice to forget him, or advice to get him. problem is he is 34.. its bad and im sure if he felt anything the same he wouldnt be able to do anything about it, because he knows my family and its illegal. ADVICE PLEASE!
John, you don’t say anything about your older wife’s response to your relationship with this younger, other woman. Have you separated from your wife? Getting a divorce? Do you have an open marriage? ??
I’ve met this certain man when I was 22yrs and he was 35yrs, but he was married and I had a boyfriend. I did not think twice about him, my only concern was doing music and him producing me.
My boyfriend stop supporting me and the older man became extra friendly, but it was attention I craved. He claimed they were seperated and I felt confussed, but shortly afterward we became intiment. Soon afterwards music waspushed back and all of a sudden we’re now a couple.
I had no choice but to brake up with my boyfriend and adventually his divorce was final, but thats when the drama began! My family got involved and I kept doing immature things he couldn’t undrestand, just being a 22yr. We argued everyday and I began to feel like I wasn’t good enough. I lost my famiily, my friends,and my sense of self all to be the wife he tryed to mold. He says I’m selfish and not supportive. Two years later we have kids now and I gained weight, and we still have problems.
Hi Sam,
Its Kirk,
I was just thinking about you,
and wondering what your doing?
I was going over thngs last night with my girlfriend hon,
i was on the internet and thispic came up of this other girl in town, I guess it was that silly facebook stuff,
so i wanted to clear it off and she though there was something on there and i wanted it off so she didnt see it , she starts to gwet paranoid over nothing like its my business what i do in this PC
but i was telling her I include her on things too whatever im doing to include her so she feels cared for and if i need her on something,
I had to talk her out of it for an hour and then she gets huffy with me about nothing as there wasnt anything to be sam,
Ive had this alot with her Sam and I get tired of it really quick,
Sam what do i do,?
shen had bad things happen with her first hubby and her second worked all the time so there wassnt any time to do thngs or go see things,
I feel aroused all the time Sam Im not gonna lie to you hon,
I meean i know Im not supposed to think about this stuff and be with a christian woman till were married and ITS MAKING ME NUTS Sam,
Please help me on this ok,
kirk,
hi kirk C,
ive nothing to say here, just go on and tell all the truth. their is no problem their. just let her understand that it was just nothing and mind you friend she was just jealous. i admire you for your principle not touching your woman until marriage. you’re the man cuz in this age if men were to be sure to marry their lovely woman they dont think twice to do that thing. becuz in the back of their mind they will get married so why wait. and about you;re getting aroused thats natural as they say in psychology were alived and so does our senses and that includes being aroused. we christians wee not except in that of course were are the same as other people but the difference i we beleive in Jesus Christ. you feel that kind of feeling becuase you love your woman, if you dont then why would you feel that. just spend a couple of days to think over things again as they say love is patient. ohh! you know go over with youre bible their you could read some lines for love if im not mistaken it should be on corinthians. just be patient to her my friend.
My youngest daughter who is 14 is head over heels over a married man in his 70′s. This was a bit surprising (obviously!) but after a while it all made sense to me. She is a very sensitive little thing, extremely bright in terms of schoolwork (skipped six grades in school), and always associates with people in their early twenties. However, she is naive when it comes to life matters and totally admires people who release an aura of control over their life and who seem to know exactly what they need to do.
WiseFemale: Alot of your observations seem spot on but when you describe the kid you sound like such a critical b*tch. And bitter to boot too. The guy was an ass to marry the plain jane and marry whom he was attracted to; end of matter. Dont marry for anything but for love, understanding AND attraction.
Babyblu:
Grow some guts – lose the weight and start getting your own interests. LOSE weight and your gonna gain some confidence. Why do women let themselves go ? I have never understood that!
I’m 52. I’ve loved women twice my age and women half my age. Love is love. The people who criticize it are all wrong for saying age or anything else, such as in days of yore when mixed race relationships were frowned upon, is wrong, or doomed to failure. There is not enough love in the world, why on earth would anyone condemn it? For those of you who want to condemn me, I’m in a relationship with an intelligent, attractive 19 year old Asian woman, who I love more than any woman I have ever met! She is my soul mate.
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I’m 20 yrs old and in a relationship with a man who is now 50 yrs old. We are not on the same race, but we really and truly understand each others company. He is more willing to adjust on the situation or so do i. We like hanging with each other without people around us. I just don’t like people talk about ours. They always condemn us for being couples. No matter how far he is, i will always be here for him, even though I came from Asia and he is from America. No one can separate our feeling with each other. I hope other people will open their eyes and see what is the meaning of real LOVE.
I am 22,he is 62.We are together pretty good.We love each other.
I am 62 years old now , I was married to a woman for 35 years then she joined the johova witness cult and she devorced me .I did not want it , but there cult is so wicked that they do not want to have any thing to do with you .but anyway , I met a girl on msn from China and at the time we met I was 55 and she was 32 with a 5 year old boy , and we talked just about every day and webcamed so we saw each other and for a bout a year, and she invited me to come to china and so I did and we got married about 3 weeks latter. and we have been marred ever since, and we have our ups and downs , but we are happy , And i have adopted her son as mine , and he loves me .so it does work if you want it to , and love is what you have in your heart for another person.
hi well im 16 i fell in love with a guy thats was 36 he was married and had a kid i thought the world of him i still do and his name was mike.
My heart aches everytime i think bout him and your article was true he did treat me like a queen.
Everytime i saw him his face and my face immediatly lit up and smiled. We played pool alot we never really focused on the game we focused on each other i now am ripped up inside because he said on xmas eve morning his other half was suspicious of him. I still cant believe it ended so quickly.
Thats the one and only time ive ever felt like this towards a person in my entire life and its only just beginging.
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I am in love with a guy exactly my age (20) and yet I am afraid to move forward with him because I worry that he’ll eventually be attracted to younger women and not to me anymore. Do relationships with people of the same age work too?
i am in love with a 25 yearold woman that lives in the same town i do i am 44 years we have one problem
the staff at the place she lives is a group home and the staff run her life and won’t let her do what she wants to do all she does is work and i only see her when the place she work at is closing down for the summer i try to spend as much time with her as i can i even tell her how i feel in my heart but then the staff at the place shew lives at think we are not right for each other but we are both adults why can’t they let her makeup her own mind on who she see and not sees i live in a group home to but i am more independent then she is i work and make more money she only make 10 dollers a week where i make 20 a week but i do meet her and her friends for coffee at the place i work at i would like to spend my life with her and start a family but i think i am to old to start a family at my age i want to marry her to but the staff just tell her to give the ring back and she does what they say
I”m 53 and have been seeing a lady 46. We fell head over heals for each other, but we live over 600kms away from each other. The sexs is like nothing I have ever exsperinced before. Hears the clincher, she is living with a man 13 years older than her. She tells me that he treats her good, takes her place, buys her things and gives her sex when she wants it…Why me?
I am 16 years old and have fallen in love with my Latin teacher who is married and has a son. I can’t get him out of my head and I admire him more than anyone I know. He’s smart, funny, I can talk to him about anything, and I mean anything even about the time I was being sexually harrassed by a kid and he comforted me and told me he’d stop whoever was doing this to me. He relates to my situation of being in a new school and not knowing very many people. He said that he’s glad I can feel comfortable enough to talk to him about anyhting going on in my life. I am also his favorite and most talented latin student. And I know that he’s not just saying that because I took the national Latin exam and got a 100 on it. He says he enjoys my company and that he loves that I ask so many questions about Latin and I seem very passionate. I know that it’s really discuation to fall in love with a 39 year old man and I’m only 16, but I can’t help it. I even dream about him kissing me and holding me in his arms and just leaving his family for me. Could I be any more selfish? But I want him more than anyone. I look up to him and see him as a man with experience and plenty to teach me.
I am a 32 years old woman and in love with a 55 year old man. He is loving and treats me great. The problem is he has two sons from his previous marriage 9 years ago. The Boys are grown and at times wonder if the they would treat me with respect if i got married to their Father. He keeps telling me the boys will be fine but am not sure? just thought i get it out my chest.
To Stephanie O…I know your comment was like last year, but im in the same exact situation as you are or was….Idk if you’ll get back to me if you do then ill talk more lol
I’m 43 she’s 21 I love her! she says guys her age just want sex!she says I treat her with respect!we get along great! but get the scrutiny of others.this may not be for everyone.if its not don’t judge!
When I was 49 I fell in love with a woman that was 20. I really felt awkward about it. But after 2 years we get along well and really enjoy each others company. I think the difference in age has opened up our communication. I work , she goes to graduate school. So far everything is great.
I try not to think about it to much anymore and quit worrying about what people say.
She doesn’t hang around me because I’m rich that’s for sure. I just try to be a good partner.
Lately we have been talking about kids and I’m going to have to do some thinking on that. Is it fair to the kids to have a parent that’s as old as me.
Hello, I am a 23 year old female. I have been seeing my boyfriend now for 7 years. He is one year younger than me (22). Recently a new friend came into “our” lives. He is 40 years old. We have spent time together alone and yes it did lead to other things. He told me he really likes me and is very attracted to me. Now I love my boyfriend we have been engaged now for 4 years, but there is something about this new guy that i just can’t get enough of. He treats me with alot of respect and we can sit and talk for hours. My boyfriend and I share all of the same interests, that is part of the reason why I love him. We have spats every now and then and I really love him. This new guy has money but that isn’t even the reason why I like him. (he hasn’t bought me anything) He just has the things my relationship now is lacking. I am very confused and don’t know what to do. Any advice?