Why Do Young Women Fall In Love With Older Men?
April 27th, 2008 | 
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Women and men contribute love in different ways. Women are more emotional so touching, saying I Love You, and doing things for us are acts of love. For example, cleaning up the dishes or cooking dinner is acts of love. For men they contribute love with respect and sex.
A good example is that women want men to say “I Love You”, however, if they do not tell us they love us then we fall apart. If we do not respect them, and love them then they start to become defensive. That is when the fighting will probably start.
An age difference of 7 – 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don’t choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.
Most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age, they are looking to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs. In most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30; therefore, most women are just wasting time with men under 30. Most women over 25 believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long-term relationship.
Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability, so older men are a better choice for a mate. Many young women say young men their same age don’t respect them, but older men do. Younger women enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability and emotional maturity.
Younger women and older men are capable of sharing similar life views and goals, despite their age differences. Younger women and older men have no problem accepting each other’s friends. Younger men and older women share the same principles when it comes to family.
Age difference makes no difference, and can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to work at it. Younger women and older men don’t choose to fall in love with each other; it simply happens. Younger women who fall in love with older men have father issues that can sometimes border on the psychotic. Younger women say that older men make them feel special, give them everything they need, give them so much attention, make them feel wanted and needed, and make them feel like a queen.
Younger women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are older men who are established, and in a much better position to take care of a wife than young men. Older men are often more patient, and actually listen to what younger women have to say and respect her opinions–qualities younger women appreciate in older men.
Older men–unlike young men–know what they want in a relationship; they can entertain, wine and dine a young woman–court her the old-fashioned way. Older men know what they want out of life; they are not uncertain about themselves, as younger men sometimes can be and can help bolster a woman financially as well as bolster her self-esteem.
Older men are more experienced sexually and tend to have less of a sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be.
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I’m 21 almost about to turn 22. I have always had a huge thing for much older men. Ever since in my late teens. Because they have the more charming, and sex appeal that just gets to me. (No offense to the younger men!) I no whatsoever desire of becoming a cougar not ever…SORRY!
Jane // Mar 9, 2009 at 11:22 am
I am 18 and I have an attraction for this man that is 40! Would you say that, there is to much of an age differance?
Jane,
I would have to say that being 18 years of age and having an “attraction” for a 40 year old male is too much of an age difference. However, I am not the type of person to judge. Some men who are around 40 or older would not care about the age difference between them and an 18 year old female. There are also some men out there around the same age who would not attempt to date an 18 year old because they are not the legal age to drink alcohol.
I didn’t start having attraction for older men until I hit the age of 21.
hi im a young 15 yr old girl and for some reason im just attracted to older men…. i dont try to be i just am. maybe its because i never had a “father” figure in my life.Whenever i think about a boyfriend i just blow off the thoughts of one my age since they just seem so immature to me. pls give me some advice..i mean is it normal?
Hello everyone, I am a 30′s guy who likes older woman but I have noticed every single message here doesn’t talk very much about guys who are in their 30′s.
It’s either 20′s for 40′s and up.
I had it all in my 20′s since I hit 30 life sucks feel like I have to wait till I am 40 for something to happen.
So older and younger seems to go from one side to the other.
So if this is the case why don’t older woman like 30′s or younger woman don’t like 30′s?
why do 20s woman fall for goofballs that are a nobody,
i saw this girl in the bank yesterday and i was thinking nthat maybe i could talk to her about somethings but she showed me this ring that someguy gave her and she was all goofy eyed over it and she showed me and I saw it and I said to myself well theres another one thats went for a nobody , some people never wake up,
will a person please get back to me on this as i feel as a 48 yr old man that i cant trust alot of woman out there to be true to me after i doll all over themand do things for them unlike alot of sefish jerks out there,
all I see is married woman or ones that fall for a turkey and find out later they did something stupid,
Id like to have a nice younger blond girl to be close friends with like the one on the front of this webpage,
I mean Is that too much to ask,
i’m 25 and have been going out with a man 12 years older then me since i was 14! Our realtionship is amazing!
I am 18 y/o and i am inlove with a 27y/o thug. I just had a baby by him. I already have a 1 y/o. I stay with a friend. I got pregnant the first time we met and slept together. He went to jail a month after being with me because he jumped on his baby mother so he was in jail for 9 months. His baby mother had a baby boy exactly one month before I had my daughter. His ex is 32 y/o. He got out of jail and he told me he was inlove with me but he also love his baby mother. He left her for me she was doing everything for him do that mean he really loves me because I am homeless staying with a friend but she lets him come and stay with me too. He chosed to be with me and I have nothing opposed to being with her. I was raped when I was younger. He listens to me and he constantly tells me he’s inlove with me. I don’t care if he don’t have money as long as I have him. Do you think he will cheat on me for his baby mother I am younger and smaller then her but I don’t have my own place and nor do he, he can stay with his mother. PPPPPPLEASE HELP ME.
im confused and looking for answers!! Someone help!
I am a 23 yr old woman who has falling in love with a 49 year old man. I am ready to give this my all but he has a lot of concerns which kinda hurts me. He is very attractive for 49 and has 2 children both from different previous women. His son is 25, 2 yrs older than me and his daughter just turned 9. He says he would have more children with the right person and does see himself getting married. It is very important that he wants these things for I have not experienced either. I have considered even being willing to adopt if later down the road he’s not able 2 concieve a child with me. I guess my questions are
1. why he’s so hesitant in taking us to the next step?
2. Am I too young for him?
3. Is this wrong? And if it is why does it feel so right?
And last…
4. How do I tell him I love him and be taking serious by everone?
Ive just turned 18 and this friend of mine is turning 16. Shes okay but i like her friend rebecca better whos turning 15. Shes beautiful and i mean beautiful! and shy aswell. I want her bad maybe bcoz shes hot and sexy and gorgeous and i want her to know that i like her. Was i just blinded that i dnt see other girl bcoz rebecca is hot?
idk wat to do. Should i pursue her or just leave her alone?
…Three words—GO FOR IT!!! To me age is just a number. Just as long as you’re not falling for someone whos too old, or too young. ( say by 30 to 40 years younger/older! )
I am a 37 year old male who has dated a young (now 23 year old girl )for 4 years but recentky have fallen in love with a younger 21 year old girl. For the first time in my life I feel that age is important and that in time I cannot share her interests or passions as a grow older. I know can say that hand on heart it is wrong to be with some one so young as they will lose out on their younger years being with me while I will have had the memories of having lived my wild twenties as a young person should. Younger women as I know fall in love very easily with nice mature guys who are now settled in life and comfortable financially but I feel in my heart that I must break my new lovers heart so that I can free her to live her young years as she should…. It is very hard to give up love but it is for her that I feel this must be done. The alternative is that I delude myself into thinking it is right but years down the line when I have gone she will spend her latter years lonely and old with out a partner to love into her twilight year…
I have been reading the comments above and whilst I am happy for those of you who have found happiness with your younger or much older partner, I am not sure if I agree totally with the maturity thing.
I am now 25 and I have been dating the same guy for at least 5 years now. I met him when he was 35 and was 22. He was married once and had no kids.
He can be a very loving person however, he simple fails to listen whenever try to talk to him. He is so self-righteous and defensive about everything. He shouts at me and verbally abuses me when he is angry, then he tries to pretend nothing happened the next day. He is also controlling and manipulative in many ways.
As for the sex, the guy seems like he has no idea what to do.
I am beginning to wonder if older men are not all that after all or if this guy is just immature
That is so true. As us older men get older the women our age become less attractive. Some women think that their so independent that they forget about the person they are in the relationship with. Like they don’t won’t older mens to buy them anything. like they slow stop coming with the problems that they’re dilling with. While there are some young women that what someone to care for them,to talk to, love them, and to treat them right.
I know because I’m a relationship with a women that is 3 years younger than me.
I’m 23 & I’m in love with a man that is 70 (doesn’t look or act that old!)….in my opinion, age does not matter. You don’t choose who you fall in love with, it just happens.
Wow, all the talk I read about older = not able to satisfy sexually. There’s alot of myths to that notion contributed by the sexual aids industry. Most men do not have anymore troubles at 45 than they did at 25 unless there is an underlying physical problem. People in this society, both men and women, younger and older, are so obssessed with sex and not the love that ought to be attached to it that it seems to have ruined people and certainly destroyed relationships and nearly destroyed the possibilities of having a decent relationship. As for financial considerations with an older man, women do naturally desire a sense of security, but there is a big gulf of difference between security and wanting $. True security comes in many forms all founded on love. I personally am not the sort of man who prefers younger over older or vice versa. But I would like to have children with the right woman. I am 45. Would never even pretend to be interested in someone 18, however, most 45 year old women cannot have or don’t want any more children. I get knocked a bit for even talking to someone in their late 20s etc. Why is that? Is this society so sick with itself that it so readily accepts promiscuity(even promotes it TV, movies etc) and yet people would throw such a fit when a respectful loving man shows interest in a younger lady? I think people in this sick culture in America need to start to take a good look in the mirror at themselves and their warped sense of priority and life in general. Very troubled country I live in.
Hi, I’m Lily and i was in a relationship from when i was 15 till 19. I was in that relationship for over 3.5 years. But i thought I was in love and cared for this person very much, but when i was about 4 years old I met a kid he was 7 years old at the time and he has had a crush on me ever since we were kids. Then when I wasaa 13 and he was 16 he still continued to see me with googly eyes and was very nice to me, so we started dating. We only went out for a few months because we lived so far away from each other, so i decided to call it off. Then 5 years have gone by since i had seen him or even said a word to the boy. Then sometime in January my cousin was speaking with his mom. (We are all really close like a big family), but i hadn’t spoke to any of them in years. So i told my cousin to tell his mother Hi for me. Then she wanted to speak to me, so we talked then told me that her son was there if i wanted to talk to him. I said no just tell him i said hi. and she said no ill give him the phone, so ever since January we started talking again. and he has told me he hasn’t been able to get over me since we were younger. That god only indicated one women for him and that was me. So now I am 19 going on 20 this year and he will be 23, So what do you consider from all this crazy/ wierd life?
i am dating a 50 yr old man and im only 28…its my first time to do this….can you advice me with the do’s and dont’s?
I am 28 and now having a long distance relationship with my 50 yr old boyfriend. Both of us are professionals at work. We’ve got kids and both were separated from our partners. We only see each other once in a while. I know he is 22 years older than me but i don’t feel that way maybe because on how we connect with each others thoughts and feelings. He inspired me so much and has helped me changed my views of life in positive ways. But actually I have this big fear inside of me coz i am not really expecting for us to have a long lasting relationship, i am still hoping this will work for both of us… but I am just always thinking that whatever might happen with us, i should be ready for that… i am so glad that he came into my life and made me a better person… I love this man for loving me the way i want to … Now i do believe that when it comes to love, age doesn’t really matter!!!
I’m 63y.o. and I fell in love with a 23 y.o. woman with a child of 4 y.o. single mother. I met her when I hired her as a sex partner and I fell for her……I’m a widower of a 35 years of marriage.
My heart aches and I feel the blues when I can’t see her or when I think about her type of work. I feel foolish and hard on myself because of how i feel.
I realize how much different we are and how society deals with working women in that profession, but my heart doesn’t care and longs to be with her hold her and tell her how much I love her…..sex is not on the top of my list …..however I have great sex with her and enjoy her body , but what i feel in my heart is what drives me , my days are long without her and my nights are filled thinking of her and how I would love to be with her caressing her and loving her…….I don’t care who says what , I have to follow my heart and how she makes me feel……..moibus
How to reject an older man (25 yrs older than me) without hurting him? He is my superior.
he is so stubborn and tenacious. He keeps sending me gifts despite my objection.
tiara stay away from this jerk,
hes nothing but trouble and hes a whiner and a no gooder, ill write to you if you want ok, im here I unserstand and will listen tiara ok,
edward,
im married 12 yrs and recently met woman in her late 20s. she is workmate of my wife. im54 my wife is 60. im lovesick and am really down about it so any advice is welcome. i really instantly liked this woman and have never cheated on my wife. im very unhappy and unsettled and dont know what to do ???
Hi Desperate,
what pray tell are you doing?
what are you doing with another woman?
i mean when your married?
really fooolish and unthinking to your wife,
get away from the other woman and tell your wife you love her and go on with it in your marriege
take your wife on a vacation and make love to her every nitre as thats whats wrong with alot of marrieges the intamacy is lost on stupid carrers, or useless things,
Get rid of the other woman and dont be led away by lust of another woman as it will only curse you and then your life will be over with your wife of your yrs,
be smart and take your wife out and do things for her and only her,and NOT STUPID MAN THINGS LIKE GOLF OR BARS, OR GUY STUFF,
Im single and i know this about woman and how to treat them you give love your wife and she’ll make you feel like the best man in the world,
I dated a guy who was 62 when I was 31. Talk about age diff! haha. It was the best sex for both of us! He was feeling a lil “cocky” and free, and I felt sexy… it was a match. Sorry to say, I made a monster outta him. LOL. He is now still very confident, and now dates only younger women, although I hear he still gives me props. (Thanks!). It’s OK. I still give ‘em back. I wish he would’ve committed, I really would’ve liked that. I also got along well with his child. (Why not, we were same age, almost). Anyway, huge age differences also work well.
i got a girlfriend who is 18 and im 21. But i hate how she tends to be so bossy and controlling. it tends to be one sided. but i do love her. i think she was mostly attracted to me because im older and she expects me to offer more than someone her age. any advice, if so email me some. thanks
Hi! I’m 21and I lost my virginity with a guy in his late 30′s, though I have a boyfriend and he doesn’t know anything about it. I had the best time of my life.
Maybe the reason why I even considered ever going out and doing it is the way how he treats me like a princess. Sure, my boyfriend of 23 does the same thing, but the older guy does things a lot gently. The older guy just looks damn hot and he is so confident with himself and that just makes me want to melt when we’re together.
I think that older men (beyond 30′s) had already surpassed a certain phase which many girls of my age (early 20′s), find very attractive.
Hey,I m 15 and im engaged wid 31 year old guy(cousin bro)………actually wen i was 12ve he proposed me i expected it !!!….later we said it 2 my parents and i was engaged …….since past 3 yrs we r in a relationship(nothin like dat sex n all) b’coz we respect our morsl vaues……he really loves me very much!!….Helps me wenever i have a problem ,his family also loves me…..i also loves him,our marriage fixed after next 3 yrs…my frieds ,relati es say dat he is of older age……..but i never mind it ,i know we oth love each other….but now i feel awkward!!!……WAT SHUD I DOOO?
So, these older men treat you special and make you feel like a princess. Just wait till you have a couple of children by them. Your body is no longer the “hot” thing they signed up for.
Even a trip to the mall can be excruciating. There you are with your kids and him and he walks around eyeballing every young thing in the place. Don’t give yourself too much credit just because you’re young and look good. This, too shall pass. So will his sex drive. If he wanted a real relationship, he would have found someone closer to his own age that he had things in common with. It’s easy to impress a younger woman. So, go ahead and dive in. It might be great for awhile. But all the Viagra in the world cannot compensate for a man with a strong sex drive and who is truly attracted to you for the long haul.
I struggle with what to do about my boyfriend of 8 months. He is 26 years older than me – getting close to retirement – and I am in the prime of my career. I have two elementary school age children and his are grown and long gone. Everything with him is perfect, yet the age thing holds me back. It is true in this case that he is so different from the men my age – he is so supportive and makes all the time in the world for me and is open with his emotions. I just wonder what life could be like 10 years from now, if I were to commit to the long term with him. He wants that and I think it would be lovely right now … but how lovely in 10 years? It is so hard.
I’m 62;
For the lst yr I have been dating a 25 yr old young lady.
We have good relationship.
But I’m considering breaking it off due to the age differnce.
Let’s face it ; how long can this last ?
…ike, why don’t you just enjoy and let it work itself out, if it comes to that it will happen and that’s that , but because something is not forever doesn’t mean it can be enjoyed…..nothing is forever remember…..i too have a 23 y.o and i’m 63 and i really feel great being with her as she makes me feel young and I love her….so until something happens i will enjoy being in love until whatever……good luck….moibus
I’m 18. And I’m one step behind from falling for a guy who’s gonna turn 30 this year.
I once dated a guy who was 7 years older than me. But 12 years of age difference really shocked me in a way. It is weird because I don’t know why he’s attracted to me. I’ve accepted the fact that strong feelings are developing for him since he really is a sweet guy. I’m just scared that the relationship won’t work out and that he’s maybe not taking it seriously or just using me to have sex with a young “girl” (so to say).
Hi to all,i am a 51 year youngish male and i married the dream of my life!Let me start @ the beginning.I was married for 18 yrs, divorced for 14 yrs.My ex was 1 yr younger than me.We have a boy and girl who are respectively aged 23 &25 yrs of age.I,ve had a wonderful marriage from the start and it lasted for appr 6 to 7 mnths.I”m thankful for the wonderful children that i have,they”ve met my wonderful 24yr young wife and we”ve spent some great times together.My 24 yr wife is about half my length and she looks like a 14 yr old.We”re married 4 yrs now and i love her unfathonably o sooo much.So all u old young guys out there give the young old girls what they need,love,security and trust.
angela be careful theres alot of turkeys out there that use younger woman for just a flingt and then forget them,
theres alot of liars out there to to deceieve the younger one and then say one thing and do another,
be weary of guys that try to act slick or like they know it all,
they are massively insecure and they are in stupid pride, sayingt cute things and then when thier with you they act like whatever ,,, just to get at you but in reality dont care or listen to you whats on your mind,
Hi Iam 23 male Iam in lovecam imagez with a lady who is 37yrs. Iam in touch with her since last 2 yrs none of us have ssen each other beside pic and web cam image. Iam going to meet her next year. So wht shall I do plz help me. I think I have proven worng to ur survey
I am 15 years old, and for the past 3 years i have been dating someone that is 5 years older than me.We are deeply in love and
He has proposed to me, We plan to get married the summer after i turn 17 and we plan to get our own place that following year.
i donot know if iam still with relation with one women older than me she is in 52 and i 29. we spend more than one year follen of live and now she want me to love her as her kid
hi to all i am 26 years old who fall in love with a 63 years old man….it is true hard to believe right but i am in love with him for 2 years now….
Your answers are really interesting. Do you have anymore information more scientific? Is there any scientific reason?
i know this man name joe, he is a bus driver, 46 years old had a good and beautiful wife and kids. he cheats on her with 15 teen year olds to 17. he finds neglected,run aways, abused and homeless young women that really dont know any better. so what would u call that? preying on the weak, in the community.
That’s called a pig. That has nothing to do with love or falling in love with older men. That is just a old bus driver taking advantage of young girls. Just like a a man of the cloth takes advantage of young biys and girls in the church. Its not love.
hi chelsea…what i wrote here is really true im not just making stories. the scientific reason why i love a 63 years old man because i truly love him. i know he is old for my age, im just 26.
for me, i dont worry what other people might say. i know one thing about love is, when it finds u, its truly grabs u.
i love him very very much…. he is my everything.. i will fight my love for him… no one can separate us. he is my one and only love till the end of time..i will die if i lose him.
Inlove, you can’t help who you fall for and sometime you do fall for people a lot older than you. I’m 27 and I’ve fallen for someone in their 60s, not certain how old they are but I’d like to find out. I would guess he’s between 62 and 65.
Anyway I’ve had thing for him for a long time and we’ve flirted a lot but I’m too scared to take it further as I don’t want to freak him out. He might think I’m too young or might be spoken for I don’t know. I also care too much what other people think.
Anyway I hope it works out for you and your man.
I’m 63; My girl friend is 26.
Do the math. 37 yrs difference.
We hve been dating for just over 1 yr. & the relationship is growing better & stronger.
I really love her…
The ? I have is how can she love me with such an age difference or Y would women her age love a man my age ? (if she does)
I’m financially comfortble, but she didn’t know how
comfortble until a few weeks ago;
So, while it is a perk, i don’t think its all about the money.
I love doing things for her & buying her presents & more importantly I love treating her with tenderness & love.
i need an advice can u all help me….
i really love the man but i dont think if he really believes in me coz he is 63 years old but to be frank and to be honest i truly love him….
i dont want to end our relationship i want it to stay forever…
is he loves me?
i really dont know what to do i really miss him so much….
inlove, if he doesn’t believe you’re for real, you’re going to have to prove it to him. Explain what attracts/attracted you to him in the first place and what you like most about him.
Age is just a number folks. If you love older men you do! if you don’t love older men then you don’t! I happen to love older men. I’m not gonna stop loving older men due to a age difference. I’ve been happy loving older men since, I was 18- Now 22!
I am a 26 yo woman with a 48 yo man. My ex husband is almost 12 yo than me. AGE IS JUST A NUMBER PEOPLE!!!!!!!!You cant help who you like or love it just happens. The man im with now, the 48 yo, makes my ex husband look like a two faced snake. Honestly, eveything happens in life for a reason so its your life do what makes you happy i say, If people have a problem with, look the other way. If your happy in your relationship, whether it be older man,younger woman, older woman, younger man, lesbians, or so on, just do it. Your happiness is all that matters in this case no one elses.