Why Do Young Women Fall In Love With Older Men?
April 27th, 2008 | 
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Women and men contribute love in different ways. Women are more emotional so touching, saying I Love You, and doing things for us are acts of love. For example, cleaning up the dishes or cooking dinner is acts of love. For men they contribute love with respect and sex.
A good example is that women want men to say “I Love You”, however, if they do not tell us they love us then we fall apart. If we do not respect them, and love them then they start to become defensive. That is when the fighting will probably start.
An age difference of 7 – 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don’t choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.
Most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age, they are looking to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs. In most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30; therefore, most women are just wasting time with men under 30. Most women over 25 believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long-term relationship.
Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability, so older men are a better choice for a mate. Many young women say young men their same age don’t respect them, but older men do. Younger women enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability and emotional maturity.
Younger women and older men are capable of sharing similar life views and goals, despite their age differences. Younger women and older men have no problem accepting each other’s friends. Younger men and older women share the same principles when it comes to family.
Age difference makes no difference, and can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to work at it. Younger women and older men don’t choose to fall in love with each other; it simply happens. Younger women who fall in love with older men have father issues that can sometimes border on the psychotic. Younger women say that older men make them feel special, give them everything they need, give them so much attention, make them feel wanted and needed, and make them feel like a queen.
Younger women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are older men who are established, and in a much better position to take care of a wife than young men. Older men are often more patient, and actually listen to what younger women have to say and respect her opinions–qualities younger women appreciate in older men.
Older men–unlike young men–know what they want in a relationship; they can entertain, wine and dine a young woman–court her the old-fashioned way. Older men know what they want out of life; they are not uncertain about themselves, as younger men sometimes can be and can help bolster a woman financially as well as bolster her self-esteem.
Older men are more experienced sexually and tend to have less of a sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be.
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I came across your article via stumbleupon this morning. I am an older man (55) who has a budding new relationship with a younger woman. She is age (43) so we have a 12I year age difference. We have been talking about all the same issues you mentioned here. In fact you have almost copied our thoughts along this line so it’s good to know we have independent confirmation of our feelings. I have been the one reluctant to believe this could work for us as I had excluded any woman of this age difference in my thoughts towards finding a partner. This of course was a big mistake on my part as it was excluding everyone under a certain age for me. I had stated no one under age 50 would be a consideration for me. The way we met was casual in a business setting. We knew each other casually for a while before we actually decided to date. Actually we did not really date per se as you might imagine it. We talked, we decided to be a couple and just dived right into a relationship. Neither of us wanted those frivolous things we both wanted love and affection and true commitment. We had all those intimate conversations it usually takes years to achieve upfront. No games, none of the so called niceties we stated who and what we wanted honestly. We exposed our shortcomings decided not to judge each other or to engage in jealous behavior. We did not let our children or family influence our decisions and we let our hearts do the talking.
This is the female counterpart talking now.
So now that he has said what is so true for us when we read your blog it has truely amazed me that I have found this most sensitive man. He feeds me emotionally and has given me something that I actually thought I would NEVER experience. When I awoke this morning to him it blessed my heart to find that he stumbled upon “why”. To say the least He completes me, but more than that He says that I complete him. Thank you so much for making our day.
My wife is 11 years older than me. Explain that.
How exactly does someone contribute love? It’s not a non-profit organization! How could anyone read the first paragraph of this article and take it seriously?
In teenage years, all of us experience aggressiveness and thats is normal.
we feel but we dont realize the real love because of that,, and the intimacy because of the younger age..
Say, how old is that example “young woman” in the picture? Has she made double digits yet? I’m perfectly willing to date women younger than myself, and even form a deep attachment to one! But my lawyer tells me she needs to be at least 18.
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Hello I am 12 ( almost 13 ) and I am in love with someone who is 17 ( almost 18 ) what does that mean?
First an answer to Joele: It means you have a crush (perfectly normal at your age!) and if he pursues you, he is a child molestor. So keep yourself safe.
Second, I can’t believe that all young women are stupid enough to believe that maturity only comes with age.
If any of you didn’t know I can tell you that: not all old people (men and women alike) are mature and one can find a great deal of maturity amongst young people (men and women alike).
And finally ( I know that denial is the new opium of the masses so I’ll be gentle) the main reasons why very old men pursue younger women are perversion, control and lack of maturity. And the main reasons why women sell themselves… I mean marry a very old man are money, stability that comes from one’s very old partner having money, power that comes from one’s very old partner having money and money.
Hie..Im 18 this year.I join a band group that need a female vocalist.They my mum’s fren.
Im not sure of my feelings actually.Maybe fall in love with this guy,same age as my dad.He’s turning 58.I kept thinking about him.I just love to talk to him.He understand me well.I just feel that he’s the one that really knows what I want although i have a boyfren.help me clear my doubts plz…
I am falling for a man. He is 53. I am 20. He is beautiful and soooooo sweet. I encounter huge obstacles. He is married. He is my professor. I don’t know how this works. Would he get in trouble with the law if he were to persue me? He has stayed married but doesn’t have a relation with his wife. He gets nervous around me. Gives me a ride home after school…………. idk. Give me your opinion.
Johanna has some valid points..she also reveals the truth about denial being the new opium for the masses..The fact is many older men seek younger women simply because they have a fresh outlook on the world (big difference between naive and fresh) and have not become jaded and bitter as Johanna seems to be…calling a 17-18 year old boy a child molester right off the cuff certainly speaks volumes. Older women seem very vicious in attacking an older man for seeking a relationship with a younger woman. I wonder why ?
ever consider the biological drive to propetuate your line. Older men are driven to seek out females who are still in child bearing years just as many animals do. it is not perverted it is a natural drive that accurs in all male creatures. Lets face it at the age of 30+ females have a harder time with pregnantcies. and that increases with every year after 30.
Also I will add that younger women are less likely to have the emotional baggage that comes with older women.
In my case I do not have the time nor the energy to deal with problems created by old relationship. I guess I am just selfish that way.
i like younger ones too, im 48 but, i seealot of them in decoption, and blinded by look’s, or money,or things
and not looking at the persons heart or the way they act,
scatrterbrained ones that dont know where thier going, and alotof them dont care,
I mean id like to have a younger one if she would act ok to me, and be a person i could trust and her not get off track in some way trying to be cool or ignorant like the soche, crowd,
i need her to know Jesus and not be prideful or arrogant,
Not really! Older men always make lots a lot of efforts and tend to spend a lot of money on entertaining a younger woman but it gets bored after a while.. as you can cheat the nature
we are always attracted to the guys of the same age – younger body, the same interests, the age of friends etc.. I could only go with an older man for a short fling, but never long term!
I am 25 and have seen that most of the girls who are 22 or below get attracted to me these days. During college days, it was hard to grab their attention. Now, I probably know the reason!
Hi, I am 24. I like a man who is 33 years old. We have age difference of almost 9 years. My parents are afraid that he has grown really old and will not be able to satisfy me sexually. I was also confused with this statement and now I am engaged with other boy who is just 1 year elder than me. But, I still like my previous bf. I am still confused with my parent’s statement that he has grown old and will not be able to satisfy me. Can you please give me your opinions if males sex drive reduces after age of 30 and will that affect me.
Hi rucha,
im 48 and i still feel really turned on all the time, I like younger ones and i like ones that are down to eaerth and talk to you and dontr just act stupid all the time to get atteention,
Im not married yet, so i dont think ive had the chance to be romantic and Im a christian , so i feel alot of frustration ovewr intamacy and getti9ng to know a nice girl or lady,
No rucha my sex drive is not slowed down, i feel like its up from my past yrs,
I mean i wanna make it with every nice lady out there and alot are married eveen whenn i was outta high school,
so If you wanna talk some more get back to me on this and well talk some more on this ok,
Hi rucha,
im 48 and i still feel really turned on all the time, I like younger ones and i like ones that are down to eaerth and talk to you and dontr just act stupid all the time to get atteention,
Im not married yet, so i dont think ive had the chance to be romantic and Im a christian , so i feel alot of frustration ovewr intamacy and getti9ng to know a nice girl or lady,
No rucha my sex drive is not slowed down, i feel like its up from my past yrs,
I mean i wanna make it with every nice lady out there and alot are married eveen whenn i was outta high school,
But alas I cant do that, so its kinda hard for me to open up at times and trust a girl to act right when theres soo many turkeys out there,
so If you wanna talk some more get back to me on this and well talk some more on this ok,
Thanks for your comments
I was 18 when I married a 43 year old man. We were married 13 years. We have been divorced 3 years. We divorced over his relationship with a 24 year old lawyer in his firm. I am still attracted to men who are older than me. I currently am 35 and have a 58 year old “bed buddy” who is divorced also. I do not know why I am attracted to older men. I see younger guys and think they are handsome, but have never sought relationships with them. Wish I could pen point why I am so attracted to older men.
what is the stupid thing about some woman thinking they have to have this or that in a man and so picky it stinks and i want this or that and I WANT A tall handsome, shining armour and ride into the sunset,
I mean whats wrong with woman anyway
i see this all over the place and it makes me totally angry at the satupidity that some woman think of,
Like a man that treats you nice and does things for you, Liike what you dont want that , are you so stinking independant that you have to do things yourself, well then you wont find anybody as your too picky and too not knowing what you want, out of anything, I see this alot with business or self emplyed woman that think they can so called be anyway they want and they end up losing and getting nothjing, I was hot for my moms friends but i cocundnt do anything and theie rhubbies were always boring and into just the social junk of working or stupid football or golf, or no personality
I feel lost now and i dont know whoi to talk to that cares what you say and ISNT SO STINKING BUSY or says things to act stupid,
I mean i want sexd and affection too but in this world ,go figure and im a christian too and i feel frustrated by alot of this stuff
hello,,Im 26 and have a crush on a older man,I came cross your article and It explained it all to a tee…thanx.
Hi,
there is this guy that i am into….i am 20 and he is 29……i mean some friends say pursue him but others say that he is “WAY TO OLD”. he acts mature, yet funny. he is so sexy, sweet, caring, and just not the normal guy! I like him but i dont kno what to do….The thing is we hang out and he said this could work that we could make it work…he loves the way i am and act and he says i make him a nicer person! WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?
Hello boys and girls,
I am just turning 57 this year and my secretary 25 years old has declared her love to me about three years ago, Fist I did not want to beleive it she is too beautifull for me even i am physically still in good condition I could not see what she is feeling for me also I did not want any relationship with my staff.
I must also explain I am married well was married and busy divorcing not because of her at all but because I was not happy and looking for happiness wiht other woman yes.
She nearly commited sucide and landed in hospital as I was feeling too old for her and thought love would be impossible.
Then I separated from my wife and she came closer and closer to me and now I am also in love with her even she is also married and also separated from her husband few months ago to be able to live with me.
to day I am a very happy man and not worried about people’s look while wolking in the street hand in hand going to restaurant or visiting friends
I am even older than her mum and dad have not met them yet but they have heard of me for sure what can I do she trully love me and now I truly love her and not looking for any other woman any more our love is very strong and our complicity and intimacy is very special
It is not a money issue I know i like simple thinkg in life of course I can afford certain luxury but she never ask me for money or other things I must insist to pay for her hairdressing and beautican because I am nproud of her and proud of been loved by such a lovely woman how do care about me and not screeming ar trying to boss me around we communicate and compromise like any peacefull couple.
What more to say my 22 year old son living with me is also accepting her more as a good friend than a step mother.
Love is beautifull what ever the age is that is for sure
Funny, this article is strange. I alway’s loved older men. Right now I am in love with a man who is 48. I am 31. Oh well. I know he wants me too. It just is a little presistence, and encouragment. Sometimes older men do not really know when younger women are interested. Plus, I look 18 not 31. Tha knd ok makes it worse.
HI Alexandra,
Yes age does not make any difference in love, what make a man of my age group to accept with a certain resistance love from a younger woman of your age is perhaps the fear of a failure we do not have room for mistake any more, in my case been divorced once and busy divorcing a second time after respectively 17 and 13 years of married life an experience I do not want to go through again, but after 3 years of concubinage (oups is this a french word? I am french speaking) I am now convinced I am in love with my young and loving lady and I want to spoil here and leave peacefully with her.
In our case we also have a culture barrier she is indian with all her religious beleive and tradition that she is been brought up with,, and I am european and not practicing at all, at first I thought it was more an attraction for a different ethnic group but three years down the line I have to agree this is not the case it si just two human been loving each other giving the best of we have to the other. We are living in the indian ocean!! so I am the visitor here and I accept all these tradition. Indian culture is a culture of love they make movie and stories of love only they do not make war movie (or very little)
So we forget the look of the other people in the street and we only look at each other never mind the jealous and all the gossip going around us. We are happy.
Is it true that most women who prefer older men have issues with their father?
This is definately the case for me. I have always been attracted to older men and I never liked my father, he treated badly when I was a kid and always put me down which destroyed my confidence and made me depressed. Nothing I ever did was good enough. He always favoured my sister ‘the intelligent one’ over me.
Alexandra
I know how annoying that is. I’m 26 and I look about 18 as well, maybe younger as sometimes I get asked if I’m over 18.
I currently fancy this guy I work with, not sure his exact age but I would guess he’s in his late 50s. I want him to know I’m interested in him but don’t want to make it too obvious.
I have been dating a man that is 12 years older then me for over 6 mos. At first I was just attracted to stability and the fact that he treated me like a queen. Now that time has continued, I am finding more and more enjoyment from just being with him and spending time talking, going on walks, and just “being” with him.
Money is nice and yeah he has defiantly showered me with quite a few luxuries, trips, food. Yet, the truth is money can only go so far in life. Another fact is no amount of money is going to buy this girl!
What has and continued to draw me back again to this man? I think it’s more about his kind and gentle ways. His understanding looks and the touch of his arms around me. At this point in our relationship, I can seriously say I am just as much into him as he is into me.
Last night he told me about going all over town to find me reiki massage table. This was his Christmass present to me. He said he had to research and drove all over the city of Denver looking for the perfect table and it took him about two months in doing so.
No there is no age that can be associated with true love. Also in saying to me there is something to be said for wisdom. Oh and that I believe often comes with age. We all learn by are mistakes and over time it only enhances who we really are (if we learn from the mistakes). My boyfriend is pretty incredible!
Oh and he is also a reiki energy junkie!
Hi Girls i get more aroused and feel more peace from an older woman than my age, I guess its the thing that ive been around them alot with my parents and feel close to them and not so much my own age 48,
I feel good around this one here in town as shes had an accident yrs ago but she is soo loving and sweet to me wothout reservations that i like it alot and id bring her home if my honey wasnt here but not to cheat on my honey though,
I like this woman alot and feel warm around her shes 61 and fit and always loves me without reservation, so at6 least i know there someone ion this worrld that cares about me as a person,
I am 63 years old my girlfried is 43 we are having a wonderful and fullfilling time together.
Where do all the older women go? Out to pasture?
Hi liz,
honey i like woman like you and if you want to keep writing we can do that as you souind all alone and wondering as i am,
all i ever wanted was someone to love and share things and do things with,
Im a christian and i want to see people saved and delivered from thier pain and other things to ,
I like younger girls but they are half the time into junk and making bad decisions about life and guys,
I like cooking Liz and ive always liked that name liz i think its really sexy and traditional too,
get back to me if you want ok,
Kirk,
It seens that the artice has hit every aspect of what is going on.We are real into each other and the 20 year span dose not seem to matter at all.I asked her about it and she said what gap. Great lovin.
Hi recently i have found that i am really atttracted to an older guy there is a 12 yr age gap im just 20!!!he has kids though and even though i dont mind this when the talk of a relationship comes up between us this really makes me consider everything twice…i have been asked out on a date with a younger guy who i think is sweet and everything but this older guy is always in the back of my mind!!My family would kill me if they knew what will i do?
im 23 my boyfriends 46 we lovee each other i got sick of imature men using and the still live at home with momy and daddy it ok for a girl to my boyfriend a gormet chef im the model he fell in lve with my legs i always wear heels we meet online well my family didsnt like at first but they were the ones i got away from they would tell me what to do and not care about me he cares i couldnt have sex for awhile i never cheasted on him cause i love him my mother was a cheater but i guess i learned that bad and hurts people and my mother died she was mean aosl but i moved on found a mature guy that lovrs my ever move said yummy cause i am is yummy i will always love him no matter what i dont care if i have his kids when im 40 my grandmother 88 she was 18 her husband was 50 but he diesd she remarried she was happy i guess i got it from her she told me what was best in life and i did im mature veary lady like and danty and submissive he cooks i clean we love to watch movies and he loves to take me shoping other younge men never then i wearit for him i love him tell the day he dies god nos this i will never leave or even cheat on him he looks like a baby when he sleeps he looks like a gerge cloony to me my cute older man that i look up to my father was never around but this has nothing to do with this all i wanted to be looked and looked and and touched and i get that
I don’t think this applies only to women with older men. but to younger men with older men too. I found my soul mate and i am 22 and he is 54. There is a tremendous age gap but we share many things in common such as hobby, respect, love , goals, and gratefulness. We have many moments where we laugh because we say the exact thing at the same time . I do not think that age matters at all also. I remember I dated a younger guy and all he did was sleep around with everyone and did not have the responsibility to lead on a relationship. Actually now while thinking about it. I think that young men and women with older souls fall in love with older men. But anyway all I know is that it is the best relationship I have ever had. However I do not agree with the financial stability part my man is not made of gold and neither am I we actually struggle sometimes to make ends meet. Its the willingness to stay together that keeps it strong.
Tim, that was beautiful. I agree 100% about young persons older soul contributing to why they are attracted to older men.
I’ve dated old my entire life. The oldest age difference was 18 years.
Now for some reason more than double my age, I get that childishness in my “pants”. OMG. WOW. lol.
why do us teens want older men in their 20′s&40′s??????
Here I go again my relationship is so wonderful when are together.She works fulLtime.She also has a daughter 17.She always has time to spend with me.But I always put her wonderful daughter ahead of me and she knows this really well.I love them both we have grown to understand this. We have a wonderful time.
hi, I just want you to know. Men have no emotions especially older men. They will make you feel important and desirable till the time they get you. Please save your life. Its happened to me. Do not ever get involved with a older man. Better go for a handsome hunk of ur age as he will also give tough time as a old man. THIS IS THE FACT>>>PLS DO NOT SPOIL UR LIFE AND GET MARRIED TOP A OLD MAN
My 18 year old daughter is in love with the 43 year old church camp advisor that she met when she was 13. My husband and I are devasted. She has turned her back on us and believes this manipulative predator is her prince charming. He is divorced with 6 children, 3 of whom are older than our daughter. He does not work, he still lives with his ex-wife and 4 of his children. His mother gives him money. We have tried to reason with her but she is totally under his influence. I think his attraction to her is because his wife dumped him for his best friend, and his ego is shattered. Any advice is appreciated. My heart is broken and I am not sure if my relationship with her can ever be restored. We have assured her that we love her and are here for her, but that we will not accept him in our home or family.
This one is for Kay.
When it comes to love there is nothing you can do. Your daughter is balancing a point in her life when she is going to jump. She is not a little girl anymore. Women mature much faster then men, and if she has seen him this way since she was 13 then her mind is made up. Right now she is getting attention, experiencing making her own desicions and trying to take control of her own life. If he is as bummed out as you say he is fine. That is your opinion. I can’t say that I don’t agree with you on the fact that he is not a pot of gold. However when it comes to love it is not your bussiness. You are only going to destroy your relationship with your daughter. You have said how you feel, SHE knows how you feel. So my advice here is if you love your daughter take her the way she is. She is still young and needs to learn things for her self. Give her a few years. She will wake up and if she hasn’t This guy might be the best thing for her. She might influence him to get a job, pick the pieces up and in return have someone that loves, respects, and protects her. At least the man is not a mass murder. Your relationship with her is fragile right now. Do not make it worse than it is. Just be there for her and tell her you love her. I know that you didn’t listen to your mother either. You picked the man you wanted and married him probably. Also remember that a Daughter is always a Daughter. She will always come to you.
–Tim
Hope this helped a little
After reading this artile, it all makes since. I am 25 and dating a 43 year old male who also has a 15 year old daughter from a previous marriage. We have been together for 2 months shy from being three years. There is a huge age gap between us, but we love each other very much. You can say that I have even taken on the role of a step mom. I love his daughter very much and have put her above me. At first, my mom did not approve of it and tried to break us up numerious of times; but nothing worked. There are times when she still tries till this day; it still doesn’t work. In mine and my boyfriends’ eyes, age does not mean nothing; it is just a number. We have grown to love, honor and respect one another. We argue, but we settle it in a calm manner. I thank god every day for having him and his daugher in my life.
I am 18 and I have an attraction for this man that is 40! Would you say that, there is to much of an age differance?
I like ones that are oldrer than me 48,
I dont care that tye have a line or two in thier faces or skin,
I like trhem as they are alot more down to earth and alot more normal that the so called ones my age or younger that are so pent up with kids or self centered,
I have this thing for this woman thats 62 and Im so hot for her its rediculous,
I mean shes in love with me and ive got a nice lady but this woman treats me alot better in some ways that my honey does,
I get along better with this emmy than my honey7 alot of the time, i mean i can talk to her about things that I cant talkk to my honey about,
I mean whats wrong with me anyway,
i am only 17 and have a huge attraction to a much older man, whom i think is in his mid to late 30s. Every time i see him, i get extremely nervous because he is sooo good looking. And if i’m not mistaken, he gets nervous too. There is a way he looks at me that just kind of pulls me in, then i start to give him the same look. But he is married with kids… Even people who know him and have seen the way he looks at me says hes attracted to me, and he even offered to drive me home one night… but nothing has happened yet. what do you guys think
i am only 17 and have a huge attraction to a much older man, whom i think is in his mid to late 30s. Every time i see him, i get extremely nervous because he is sooo good looking. And if i’m not mistaken, he gets nervous too. There is a way he looks at me that just kind of pulls me in, then i start to give him the same look. But he is married with kids… Even people who know him and have seen the way he looks at me says hes attracted to me, and he even offered to drive me home one night… but nothing has happened yet. what do you guys think
stay away from him hes got family and hes married too,
If he did anything he would be wrong too
as hes a father and has a famiily
if you wanted to you could be friends
but that all,
hes already taken with a wife and kids so i think its an empty situtation,
Many truths are touched on in this article and in the subsequent responses. Many prejudices as well. The problem with this discussion is that it is very, very subjective…but some truths cannot be ignored, no matter what.
The first truth, there is a biological imperative for the older male’s attraction to younger females (i.e. fertility, even if the male is not interested in children, his biology is).
The second truth, younger females often seek older males because of the perception of stability, wisdom, and patience. This is both biological and societal programming. We are taught that “older” is better and more valuable (from cars to wine to furniture).
Now, while these two truths are important, it is just as valid to say that some younger women seek older men for money and status and that some older men seek younger women for sex and secret desires.
In my opinion, the above cases are rare. As are the cases of older males and younger females with poor relationships with their fathers. THAT being said, I did not have a good relationship with my father and have always been attracted to older men. I think this can be a correlation, but only slightly more so than females who have had loving relationships with their fathers. The truth is that we all look for parental qualities in our mates (our parents are our first examples of maturity, stability and security…good or bad as they may have been). But NONE of us wants to screw our Mothers or Fathers (unless we have unspoken psychological issues…which is another story altogether).
At age 14, I was dating 18-25 year olds (statutory, I know…wasn’t my concern or problem). I was also exceptionally mature and had an amazing IQ. I don’t think the men who dated me were pedophiles, I think they fell into the trap of my demeanor before they truly understood my age. I was also very sexually mature and aware (I was a victim of precocious puberty at age 8). Although my first sexual experience wasn’t until age 14.
I am now 32 years old and I have two older males in my house. The first is my husband, who is 45 years old (and who fits the stereotypical: “he’ll not be able to satisfy you and get too old for you” adage…I didn’t listen to my Mother, alas). The second male is my lover (condoned and conceded by my husband who has no interest in sex), and he is 52 years old.
I have never in my life been so fulfilled emotionally, sexually, or mentally…We have been together 2 years now and I fall more in love with him every day. My relationship with him has enhanced my marriage and understanding of my husband more than the nearly 10 years of marriage!
I’m sure there are many who will judge my situation, but I have no interest in your religious hang-ups or arm-chair psychology. It works for us.
To everyone else…don’t examine it too much. Its sex. Its love. Neither of the two are very dignified or make much sense. Enjoy yourselfs and be good to each other. Be honest and open and caring. Hurt is bound to happen, but so is healing and joy.
Peace, all!