Why Do Young Women Fall In Love With Older Men?
Women and men contribute love in different ways. Women are more emotional so touching, saying I Love You, and doing things for us are acts of love. For example, cleaning up the dishes or cooking dinner is acts of love. For men they contribute love with respect and sex.
A good example is that women want men to say “I Love You”, however, if they do not tell us they love us then we fall apart. If we do not respect them, and love them then they start to become defensive. That is when the fighting will probably start.
An age difference of 7 - 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don’t choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.
Most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age, they are looking to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs. In most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30; therefore, most women are just wasting time with men under 30. Most women over 25 believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long-term relationship.
Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability, so older men are a better choice for a mate. Many young women say young men their same age don’t respect them, but older men do. Younger women enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability and emotional maturity.
Younger women and older men are capable of sharing similar life views and goals, despite their age differences. Younger women and older men have no problem accepting each other’s friends. Younger men and older women share the same principles when it comes to family.
Age difference makes no difference, and can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to work at it. Younger women and older men don’t choose to fall in love with each other; it simply happens. Younger women who fall in love with older men have father issues that can sometimes border on the psychotic. Younger women say that older men make them feel special, give them everything they need, give them so much attention, make them feel wanted and needed, and make them feel like a queen.
Younger women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are older men who are established, and in a much better position to take care of a wife than young men. Older men are often more patient, and actually listen to what younger women have to say and respect her opinions–qualities younger women appreciate in older men.
Older men–unlike young men–know what they want in a relationship; they can entertain, wine and dine a young woman–court her the old-fashioned way. Older men know what they want out of life; they are not uncertain about themselves, as younger men sometimes can be and can help bolster a woman financially as well as bolster her self-esteem.
Older men are more experienced sexually and tend to have less of a sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be.
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I came across your article via stumbleupon this morning. I am an older man (55) who has a budding new relationship with a younger woman. She is age (43) so we have a 12I year age difference. We have been talking about all the same issues you mentioned here. In fact you have almost copied our thoughts along this line so it’s good to know we have independent confirmation of our feelings. I have been the one reluctant to believe this could work for us as I had excluded any woman of this age difference in my thoughts towards finding a partner. This of course was a big mistake on my part as it was excluding everyone under a certain age for me. I had stated no one under age 50 would be a consideration for me. The way we met was casual in a business setting. We knew each other casually for a while before we actually decided to date. Actually we did not really date per se as you might imagine it. We talked, we decided to be a couple and just dived right into a relationship. Neither of us wanted those frivolous things we both wanted love and affection and true commitment. We had all those intimate conversations it usually takes years to achieve upfront. No games, none of the so called niceties we stated who and what we wanted honestly. We exposed our shortcomings decided not to judge each other or to engage in jealous behavior. We did not let our children or family influence our decisions and we let our hearts do the talking.
This is the female counterpart talking now.
So now that he has said what is so true for us when we read your blog it has truely amazed me that I have found this most sensitive man. He feeds me emotionally and has given me something that I actually thought I would NEVER experience. When I awoke this morning to him it blessed my heart to find that he stumbled upon “why”. To say the least He completes me, but more than that He says that I complete him. Thank you so much for making our day.
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My wife is 11 years older than me. Explain that.
How exactly does someone contribute love? It’s not a non-profit organization! How could anyone read the first paragraph of this article and take it seriously?
In teenage years, all of us experience aggressiveness and thats is normal.
we feel but we dont realize the real love because of that,, and the intimacy because of the younger age..
Say, how old is that example “young woman” in the picture? Has she made double digits yet? I’m perfectly willing to date women younger than myself, and even form a deep attachment to one! But my lawyer tells me she needs to be at least 18.
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Hello I am 12 ( almost 13 ) and I am in love with someone who is 17 ( almost 18 ) what does that mean?
First an answer to Joele: It means you have a crush (perfectly normal at your age!) and if he pursues you, he is a child molestor. So keep yourself safe.
Second, I can’t believe that all young women are stupid enough to believe that maturity only comes with age.
If any of you didn’t know I can tell you that: not all old people (men and women alike) are mature and one can find a great deal of maturity amongst young people (men and women alike).
And finally ( I know that denial is the new opium of the masses so I’ll be gentle) the main reasons why very old men pursue younger women are perversion, control and lack of maturity. And the main reasons why women sell themselves… I mean marry a very old man are money, stability that comes from one’s very old partner having money, power that comes from one’s very old partner having money and money.
Hie..Im 18 this year.I join a band group that need a female vocalist.They my mum’s fren.
Im not sure of my feelings actually.Maybe fall in love with this guy,same age as my dad.He’s turning 58.I kept thinking about him.I just love to talk to him.He understand me well.I just feel that he’s the one that really knows what I want although i have a boyfren.help me clear my doubts plz…
I am falling for a man. He is 53. I am 20. He is beautiful and soooooo sweet. I encounter huge obstacles. He is married. He is my professor. I don’t know how this works. Would he get in trouble with the law if he were to persue me? He has stayed married but doesn’t have a relation with his wife. He gets nervous around me. Gives me a ride home after school…………. idk. Give me your opinion.
Johanna has some valid points..she also reveals the truth about denial being the new opium for the masses..The fact is many older men seek younger women simply because they have a fresh outlook on the world (big difference between naive and fresh) and have not become jaded and bitter as Johanna seems to be…calling a 17-18 year old boy a child molester right off the cuff certainly speaks volumes. Older women seem very vicious in attacking an older man for seeking a relationship with a younger woman. I wonder why ?
ever consider the biological drive to propetuate your line. Older men are driven to seek out females who are still in child bearing years just as many animals do. it is not perverted it is a natural drive that accurs in all male creatures. Lets face it at the age of 30+ females have a harder time with pregnantcies. and that increases with every year after 30.
Also I will add that younger women are less likely to have the emotional baggage that comes with older women.
In my case I do not have the time nor the energy to deal with problems created by old relationship. I guess I am just selfish that way.
i like younger ones too, im 48 but, i seealot of them in decoption, and blinded by look’s, or money,or things
and not looking at the persons heart or the way they act,
scatrterbrained ones that dont know where thier going, and alotof them dont care,
I mean id like to have a younger one if she would act ok to me, and be a person i could trust and her not get off track in some way trying to be cool or ignorant like the soche, crowd,
i need her to know Jesus and not be prideful or arrogant,
Not really! Older men always make lots a lot of efforts and tend to spend a lot of money on entertaining a younger woman but it gets bored after a while.. as you can cheat the nature
we are always attracted to the guys of the same age - younger body, the same interests, the age of friends etc.. I could only go with an older man for a short fling, but never long term!
I am 25 and have seen that most of the girls who are 22 or below get attracted to me these days. During college days, it was hard to grab their attention. Now, I probably know the reason!
Hi, I am 24. I like a man who is 33 years old. We have age difference of almost 9 years. My parents are afraid that he has grown really old and will not be able to satisfy me sexually. I was also confused with this statement and now I am engaged with other boy who is just 1 year elder than me. But, I still like my previous bf. I am still confused with my parent’s statement that he has grown old and will not be able to satisfy me. Can you please give me your opinions if males sex drive reduces after age of 30 and will that affect me.
Hi rucha,
im 48 and i still feel really turned on all the time, I like younger ones and i like ones that are down to eaerth and talk to you and dontr just act stupid all the time to get atteention,
Im not married yet, so i dont think ive had the chance to be romantic and Im a christian , so i feel alot of frustration ovewr intamacy and getti9ng to know a nice girl or lady,
No rucha my sex drive is not slowed down, i feel like its up from my past yrs,
I mean i wanna make it with every nice lady out there and alot are married eveen whenn i was outta high school,
so If you wanna talk some more get back to me on this and well talk some more on this ok,
Hi rucha,
im 48 and i still feel really turned on all the time, I like younger ones and i like ones that are down to eaerth and talk to you and dontr just act stupid all the time to get atteention,
Im not married yet, so i dont think ive had the chance to be romantic and Im a christian , so i feel alot of frustration ovewr intamacy and getti9ng to know a nice girl or lady,
No rucha my sex drive is not slowed down, i feel like its up from my past yrs,
I mean i wanna make it with every nice lady out there and alot are married eveen whenn i was outta high school,
But alas I cant do that, so its kinda hard for me to open up at times and trust a girl to act right when theres soo many turkeys out there,
so If you wanna talk some more get back to me on this and well talk some more on this ok,
Thanks for your comments
I was 18 when I married a 43 year old man. We were married 13 years. We have been divorced 3 years. We divorced over his relationship with a 24 year old lawyer in his firm. I am still attracted to men who are older than me. I currently am 35 and have a 58 year old “bed buddy” who is divorced also. I do not know why I am attracted to older men. I see younger guys and think they are handsome, but have never sought relationships with them. Wish I could pen point why I am so attracted to older men.