Why Do Young Women Fall In Love With Older Men?
April 27th, 2008 | 
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Women and men contribute love in different ways. Women are more emotional so touching, saying I Love You, and doing things for us are acts of love. For example, cleaning up the dishes or cooking dinner is acts of love. For men they contribute love with respect and sex.
A good example is that women want men to say “I Love You”, however, if they do not tell us they love us then we fall apart. If we do not respect them, and love them then they start to become defensive. That is when the fighting will probably start.
An age difference of 7 – 15 years can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to. That’s because we don’t choose who we fall in love with, it simply happens.
Most women over 25 and single are already disappointed by men of their age, they are looking to find a mature man that can satisfy their needs. In most cases men reach their maturity level after the age of 30; therefore, most women are just wasting time with men under 30. Most women over 25 believe that older men won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long-term relationship.
Age indicates maturity, and decision making ability, so older men are a better choice for a mate. Many young women say young men their same age don’t respect them, but older men do. Younger women enjoy having someone take care of them and are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability and emotional maturity.
Younger women and older men are capable of sharing similar life views and goals, despite their age differences. Younger women and older men have no problem accepting each other’s friends. Younger men and older women share the same principles when it comes to family.
Age difference makes no difference, and can lead to a really great relationship if both partners are willing to work at it. Younger women and older men don’t choose to fall in love with each other; it simply happens. Younger women who fall in love with older men have father issues that can sometimes border on the psychotic. Younger women say that older men make them feel special, give them everything they need, give them so much attention, make them feel wanted and needed, and make them feel like a queen.
Younger women usually prefer men who are financially stable, and in most cases the most financially secure men are older men who are established, and in a much better position to take care of a wife than young men. Older men are often more patient, and actually listen to what younger women have to say and respect her opinions–qualities younger women appreciate in older men.
Older men–unlike young men–know what they want in a relationship; they can entertain, wine and dine a young woman–court her the old-fashioned way. Older men know what they want out of life; they are not uncertain about themselves, as younger men sometimes can be and can help bolster a woman financially as well as bolster her self-esteem.
Older men are more experienced sexually and tend to have less of a sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man their own age tends to be.
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I am 17 and falling for a 25 year old. I met him a month at a camp in which we were both counselors, and we had a great week together. We would talk and laugh, he would walk me back to my cabin at night, and on the last night we went off on our own and had a romantic hour together of hugging and cuddling. There was some kissing, borderline sexual, but nothing over the top and certainly no below the waist or chest touching. It was very sweet and respectful and the next morning we were still full of happiness. I miss him a lot and find myself thinking about him constantly. We briefly talked about how I will be 18 next year, and therefore it will be legal, but he has a live-in partner and though the situation is not “ideal”, it is possible that they could improve their relationship and end up engaged, married, etc.. what I would like to know is what other people think and I would like to know what you would think if you were friends/coworkers with a 26 year old who started dating an 18 year old.
Thanks!
Is it bad to be 38 years old and be attracted to a 19 year old who may possibly be attracted to me?
38/19
its normall for 38 y/0 2 b attracted 2 a 19 y/o
But @ 38 U should have enough sense & control 2 keep it @ friendship level.
She has too much growing to do;
therefore the reltionship wouldn’t work out any way so Dont blow it.
Younger women all they care about is money, someone to take care of them, there is no love there, why in the world would you want to date an older men, alot of younger women are breaking up marriages, they just do not care, what is happening to this generation, my husband who is 58 years old, we been married 37 years, and he found himself a young women of 25 on internet, and left me. With younger women they do not care whether he is married, as long as he has money, thats all it is about, I always believe what you due to others will come right back to you, because there is nothing like an old fool. When someone is married, they should respect the marriage, and it should be off limits, but it is not like that, it is all about money.
I would agree with Genie’s statement;
if there is 20+ yr difference between the younger woman & the older man, for the woman, it is primarily about the $ & the security 99% of the time.
Harry
I disagree with your comment Gennie. I’m a younger women and I do not care about money whatsoever. I have a crush on someone who is 58, same as your husband. I’ve fancied him for nearly a year now but because I’m shy and scared of being rejected I haven’t acted on it. I don’t know whether he is married or not. He doesn’t wear a ring so I’m guessing he’s not but I still haven’t got the courage to ask him out. I don’t know whether he is rich and couldn’t care less. In 2 months time I’ll be 28 so I’m worried that he will think I’m too young.
I do agree that most young women are only interested in money and go for older guys but I like older guys because they respect women more and I think I would be a lot happier in a relationship with and older man.
I’m sorry to hear about what happened with your husband and I hope everything turns out well for you in the end.
Money can’t buy me love.
Peace xx
Chezza,
Unless he is creep he will be very flattered & treat U like princess.
enjoy the moment & the experience.
But don’t look 4 long term…. do the math.
Harry
Okay. Harry gave his opinion on a 38 yr. old being attracted to a 19 yr. old. Anyone else? If the opportunity opened up, should I pursue it?
I say do it. I much happier with my older man, have never felt this way. He dosent have money, but respects me so much more than any other man i have EVER been with. I was scared too but the first step is always the hardest. I mean im 26 and divorced two kids why in the heck would a guy want this baggage especially at 48. But he has taken it all in stide and makes me happy. GO FOR IT!!!
Thanks Nikki. We’ll see what happens. If it’s meant to be, it will be, right?
LOL well when my older husband ran off with my x sis in law 16 years his younger I met a man ten years my younger and watched my x cry like a baby. Dont get mad get even
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Older guys with younger women – The older guy is flattered and thrilled he can attract the affection and attention of a younger woman. He may also think he’s found someone with whom he shape into the kind of woman he’s always wanted. Problem is, the younger woman eventually comes into her own mind and ideas, then leaves the older guy for someone who treats her as an equal.
The comment made earlier that the older guy respects the younger woman isn’t exactly accurate. He likes how she looks and how she makes him feel, yeah, younger. But the mirror doesn’t lie and the wrinkles are there. If he’s in love enough to have children, the only person he’s looking after is himself. He won’t likely be around long enough or healthy enough to be a real father. Women live longer than men and this creative process mustn’t be so selfish. Then, what if he gets ill, or loses money like many of us did in the past year. Will the young woman go back to work AND nurse maid her man? RETHINK THESE MAY DECEMBER RELATIONSHIPS. Most of us aren’t the Hollywood wealthy who can pay to have someone else do nearly everything. Think about a long loving relationship with someone closer in emotional and chronological age.
I am about to get into a relationship (wasn’t looking) with a 27 year old …I am 49, I am in the best shape of my life, I hang out with my older children, listen to the exact same music, most importantly this girl and I get each other, simple lives, simple pasts…although mu life (other than a divorce) has been very smooth sailing…hers, although she could get any one she wants, has had a less than perfect life…but that she can correct (and wants to) on her own…she is beautiful (but she is not the only beautiful woman I have been with, so not a mind blower for me)fun, smart…I am more worried she will hurt me not the other way around. I do have some stability and a fun job but not sugar daddy level…and she has always known this…am I going to get in trouble with this one?
I AM A 16 YEAR OLD GIRL THAT HAS LIVED A SHORT BUT EVENTFULL LIFE . I ALREADY KNOW WHAT I WANT IN LIFE AND I AM FALLING IN LOVE WITH A 35 YEAR OLD MAN.
I KNOW I LOVE HIM AND ITS NOT JUST FOR PROTECTION OR MOST OF THE FACTS LISTED ABOVE. I LOVE HIMBECAUSE OF THE INTIMACY WE SHARE WHEN WE LOOK INTO EACHOTHERS EYES.IM STILL A VIRGIN SO I KNOW ITS NOT JUST FOR THE SEX THAT I WANT HIM. I LOVE HIM AND IM SERTAIN OF MY FEELINGS. IF YOU ARE YOUNG AND LOVE AN OLDER MAN OR OLDER AND LOVE A YOUGER MAN DONT QUESTION YOUR FEELINGS. IF THEY ARE TRUE YOULL KNOW THAT ITS MEANT TO BE.
I’m in love with a 44yr old man and I’m 29. He’s amazing, but the differences between us, within respect to our generation gap, show their true colors sometimes. I’m a mature person for my age, although he calls me “kiddo” and his jokes are my father’s type of jokes. I love him so, but how can I bring this up to him without upsetting him?? He gets defensive about his age.
this guy sounds like a jerk, hes got an attitude problem and hes to old for you in the 1st place, get someone you own age and youll be better okk,
and more compatible,
I am dating a 62 yr.old guy for approx. 11 years I am 45 yrs old the relationship is cool but I love him only because he takes care of me I feel like his big daughter but he respects me and my children but i am tired of this relationship but i cant come out of it now i need the helda lot sex is a big problem for me he is diabetic but still wants to do things like sex
L~
I have to disagree with edward on your boyfriend. Getting with someone your own age doesnt mean more compatible, my ex husband is 10 yrs older than me and is the biggest a$$ on the planet. When we started our divorce i went with someone my own age and what a mistake that was. My boyfriend now is 20 yrs older than me but we can talk openly and honestly about EVERYTHING. If you truly love this guy and he loves you he will be able to take your “critisizim” and work with it. And if he gets upset maybe hes with you for the wrong reasons.
I’m 18 years old and have a habbit of falling for men a good 7-15 years older than myself. I realise that this can be a dangerous road for someone just coming out of their teens, but I don’t wish to change this about myself. My siblings are much older than I, and I contribute my attraction to older men to the fact that I’ve always been around an older social groups than that of my own. I am not souly basing my attraction on physical attributes, but real mental connection. I find my situation very troubling, and a bit of a strain on my emotions due to the fact that I’m hesitant to pursue relationships out of these situation because I’m afraid of rejection due to my age. I’m not sure why I’m writing this, I guess I just needed to vent.
Hi Nikki,
ok its edward again,
I go gaga over this young girl in twon here shes my niece on another side of the family, but shes pretty, tall, as me and i think 16, or 17,
I mean im 49, but not taken yet and all the ones i see are either so hyper its rediculous, or just dont give a darn about anything but themselves,
I can talk to her about things that i cant talk to others about without them making a joke or mockery,
shes understanding got bedroom eyes and styled hair that goes down around her face like alot of HSers have these days,
I know Im too old for her but I feel at ease around her and shes really understanding,
dont swear, and looks at me when I talk to her,
and is really personable,
I’m 56, and have met a very mature 24 year old woman. I was 32 years old when she was born. We are just beginning to date, and I have to admit, she is more in tune with who I am than the women my age are, and I relate very well to her, I think, because I have never let go of my youthful mentality, and she is mature for her age, so we essentially overlap in the middle. This may sound like a pure lie, but the conversation is as good as the sex. I get equal pleasure out of being able to hold her attention and laugh with her in conversation as I do just holding her. My heart says to love her with abandonment and know when to close the door and let it end gracefully, and my mind says to stay out of it because it can’t end well, but frankly, I have been wrong before, and this time, life and joy are too precious to waste, and I’m going to roll with it and make it clear that she’s free whenever she needs to go. It can only add to each of our lives, and I don’t see a downside to it. She’s not a gold digger, we go to parks, she gets low cost hotel rooms cuz she works for a major chain, we eat at modest but nice restaurants and I love to pay and hold the door and treat her like the precious girl she is.
The real crime is that younger guys can’t understand what we older guys know, but if they could, guys like me would not be with their potential partners!
Do I love her? Don’t know yet, it’s too early, that takes time to develop. What I do know is that there’s no puppy love going on, I’m simply enjoying her company and she mine. We connect strongly on many levels, conversation is wonderful, she’s flexible, easy to be around, not demanding, it’s all good.
If you are a young woman interested in an older man, think of a gracious way to tell him, and don’t wait. Just tell him something like this: “…I realize I’m much younger than you, but I am interested in seeing you socially, if you share that interest…” Chances are, he will be flattered, and probably won’t sleep for a week thinking about you. He will feel like the heavens opened up and gave him a new life. Trust me on this. But do watch that he’s a gentleman, this probably does not work well with men that are creeps.
If you’re an older guy interested in a young woman, you won’t need to tell her, all you need to do is treat her like a precious creature she is, and make it clear to her that she is appreciated for whatever your relationship is with her. If she is interested, well, see paragraph above…it will happen. if not for some reason, it’s ok I think to tell her that if she’s open to dinner with an older guy, you would love to be the one. It should be a no-strings thing so you give her a way out if she gets in too deep, remember, that’s just another way of treating her like the precious person she is.
Hi edward,
Ive said i before you cant help who your attracted to. Yes shes younger so what. Today everyone is so busy worring about everyone else but themselves that they are forgetting to make themselves happy. Its “can we keep up with the jones” not sitting back looking at the big picture and realizing hey did i do this cause i wanted to?, Is this a love or lust situaion?, What do i care this isnt there life they want to judge fine, I DONT CARE! Everyone is wound so tight anymore that its hard to “Catch” the big picture. Everyone says i have a daddy complex. I dont care. He dosent take care of me i hold my own for myself and my kids. Nobody can help how they are or why they like or love who they do. But if everyone could slow down and look at the big picture of happiness i think nobody would have a problem with age differecs. Its just what we are programed to think this is bad dont do it.
I am 44 years old and am very much attracted to a man i think is about 65 years old. He is charming, worldly, and is well known. He is a calm,confident, mature man that knows what he wants and is not afraid to get it, me.I can’t help but believe that he is a better match for me than a younger man.
hi edward! i thought you dis agree with young women dating with a older women. ha!Ha! when you yourself is old too and you yourself is attracted with young women. Actualy im 18,lady and im in love with my P.E. instructor. i have a feeling that he know my feelings for him because he looked at me in a someway. well i gues its very obios cause when we are practicing and it so happens he glanced at me i stop dancing and just blush and look in another direction. huh its some kind of a romance story like those we read. but that the magical part of being in love. i know i cant be with him cause no1 reason he is a teacher on our university and a popular one! hes soooooooo handsome and aaaaaa ggggood dancer.
Im Steph and I’m 18 years old and I am very much in love with a man who is 29 years older than me. at 46 he is healthy respectful caring and such a man that younger guys aren’t because of his age.I have dated many of guys my age but none have made me fill the way that he does. before we saw one another on a regular basis we talked on the phone for 2 hours or more every night and despite the age difference we do have many things in common.
I don’t understand how I feel for a man so much older than myself but he is the love of my life and he treats me in a way a younger guy my age had never even attempted. he recognizes the age difference and at first it made him think but it doesn’t bother either of us and I hate to let him spend money on me because of what many of you had said earlier, younger women only want to be with older men for their money. I like to buy HIM things and just be in his company and thats what makes it so different. with him its not all about the fast lane and sex. we have fun in other ways such as grilling and cooking or watching football together or going to get a movie. I know it sounds cheesy as ever but its very true and my friends know about him and they accept the fact that he is 46 and that I am 18. I know that I have a lot of life to live and I live it every day but I couldn’t possibly think of not talking to him everyday such as we do. since I have been here at College he back home we talk every night and its painful to be away. I just don’t understand it at all the relationship we have because as a young woman I don’t fit any of the gold digging cliches that have been put upon younger women. but I say for people who find themselves at a young adult age such as 18 or older, attracted to older men then I wish them the best of luck and encourage them to be safe in all their decisions and as much happiness as I have with Thomas.
I am a 50 year old man, I started falling for a woman actually the first day I saw her. She is 22. Now this age thing does not really bother me. I’m afraid if I approach her about it I will scare her away. Because I think if things didn’t work out we could still be friends. We seem to have alot in common.Someone Help Me Please!
Really I can’t get her out of my mind. What can I do? I have not dated in along time, mostly because i have not met any on that I was attracted to, until she came along.I have not longed for someone, in this way for a long time. And really I do not think I have felt this deeply for any woman prior. I work with her, and that could be a problem. Because the owners do not like their employees dating, married, etc.. But they work there and they are shacking up together. Kind of a double standard.
love…..love…love.. its very mysterious, we never know when it will come nor will it ever knock on your heart.Sometimes i think being in love is such a wonderful gift and also a worst curse but what ever it is, love is something that can not come twice nor trice in your life.It brings so much pain and suffering but the mystery of it is it give us some kind of a feeling that is very unique, that even if you try to hunt it in another someone you can never feel the same, you can not also buy it and even you have to much power you can never have it.So if love knocks on your door wrap it with your strength,warm it with your hugs and drank it with your kisses until it decided to stay forever cause you never know it will never knock again.
I think “much older” is a loosely applied term. It’s true that there are some age differences that are ridiculously big and some that are reasonable. But if a man finds himself asking “I wonder if she’ll think I’m too old” then either he really IS too old or she’s too young or the age difference is too much. I’m 42 and I’ve been attracted to this smoking hot 27 year old at work. There was an attraction from day one and we’ve both known about each other’s ages since the start and nothing has waned. Our mutual attraction is still there. I don’t wonder what it is about me that attracts her. With this young lady a relationship would be long term. On the other hand, any relationship with someone much younger than 27 (to my 42) like 20 would be strictly for the sex. (Assuming I were to get lucky with a 20 year old.)
I have recently met an older man who is 13yrs my senior. He is really good to me and my two kids. I am a single mother of two who recently finished nursing school. I am not with him for financial purposes I am capable of taking care of me and my kids. He makes me feel special and so loved and important. I am 25 and he is 38. He doesn’t look his age and as far as sex its awesome, No guy my age has touched me the way that he has…its just not sex it love making. Most guys my age are juat out to have a good time….they are not looking to settle down. I am sorry to read about the woman’s husband leaving her for a much youger womanm but everyone has a choice he had a choice as well. In situations like that God will see you through it and give you someone who is worthy of you and will cherish you, He might even be younger than you,
Thought I liked being single up to about a month ago. There is this woman, she’s been driving me crazy from the first day I saw her. I can’t get her out of my mind.no matter what I do, so I stopped trying. When I see her, I can’t help but smile. My heart races when I hear her name. My appetite has changed. My sleep pattern has changed. My sexual appetite has skyrocketed. She is half my age, but I do not care about age. The signals I have been getting from her tell me she is interested in me. She wears a ring, but from what I can tell it’s to keep away the jerks. I feel that when I ask her out I might screw up or maybe she thinks that I may be to old for her. And if I don’t I might be missing out of one the only true loves I may meet at my age.
this is not my first older man experience my first one i was 18 he was 34 and that realy sucked he wanted to be with me cuz of MY money .i paid his bills, vacation in 13 difrent countrys cuz my credit was so much better then his ..I buyed for him 2 cars Audi TT and a BMW and and I been a woman who always takecared her man .I was the main provider for everything after i left him i find out he opend a life incurance on me ??? whatta hell fake my signatures and clean my acounts >>>>>older man right sometimes they trick you !
eventualy that didnt work .then i meet a younger man when i was 21 and he was 26 so it was pretty much the same i end up paying for everything buyed him a car aswell give him everything he wanted .paid all the bills . We where together for 8 years i still married him .he is a coumpelsive lair .i forgive and forget over and over … i mean things he done and said it just brooke everything i had for him . abuse abuse abuse
now i meet someone who actualy sees through me and knows things i never knew of myself .He shows me life diffrently and understands me and the pain i have and everything around He is willing to give me everything i want and need .Love understanding someone to fall back to .and this time he is 30 years older then me .He even said iff “i want to i can go and fuck around ” just to be honest with him iff i do soo.
…lol but i respect him so much that is ofcorse out of option
i sometimes think iff this is normal .
i mean i never realy had a father he was a looser in our fam. woman where the strong and smart ones
my life experiens as a teenager realy realy suked at 16 first boyfriend killd him self cuz of me .i been through ALOT I grow up with grandparents and that give me a difrent value of life
i always feelt like older ones get me better and i always learn from them my best friend is older then me aswell
So all i m trying to say is .Sometimes we all go through hard times and we all wish there is someone who helps us to get the happyness back that we once feelt . for some is younger for some is older
And the only thing in life is that makes us equal is that we all want to be happy !!!!!
some old relaitions they hold crouches to each other and that is what causes it to fail .
woman wants “this” man wants “that” .we all have to learn to meet up in the midel .
iff you scared your man is gona leave you for a younger one ,hey get up and clean your act be nice again and be who you where 20 years ago dont forget who you are and try to become who you where long ago
that easy ……
and iff your not happy and just trying to hung on that relaitions then your just selfish
first learn iff your happy then he is happy
iff your not happy why hung on it why point the finger to others and say they golddiggers they stole my husband or what so ever ..
iff the mind clicks and there is happyness who tha hell are you to juge someone else ..
find first out where you made a mistake and try to fix it .
your saying he is to old . so does he deserve to die alone ??? and unhappy ????
or are you worryd about your own security????
so who is a golddigger here
you rather let someone suffer…….
i feel like everybody here think life is sex but thats not true life is the feeling that makes you copliet
the feeling when you had your first icecream and you fall inlove with it .
the feeling when you suck on your favorit candy
the feeling of a perfect fall afternone that you never wanted to end …
To Joseph,
I am 60…she is 28. We love each other deeply. I said to her I’d would like to go out with you. She said, “ok”.
Johni
Good for you Joseph, I’m a 28 year old woman interested in a man that’s about your age but I’m too scared to make a move. So are you dating now?
Am 23 and my girlfrend she is 18,honestly i ril love her,b4 her i was dating with a girl of same age as me and the relationshp was not good and then we break up,but since i found ths younger girl i feel like am born again,she makes me happy,she knws how to care..i love her so much.
i have a question? i am a teacher, and i think i’m falling in love with my student. there’s a gap of our age. I’m 13 years older than her. I don’t know how it happened but I’ve been thinking about her most of the time. And we mostly talked and eat lunch together, we often laugh together when we are having a conversation.
Chezza, no I’m obviously ignorant when it comes to women. Any suggestions.
I am a 44 yr old woman dating a 70 yr old man. I have asked God why he sent me someone this old, but I have to be honest, I am falling in love with him. I enjoy traveling with him, I enjoy laughing with him, I love talking to him and I love loving him. Sex is not a factor in our relationship because we share the same sex drive (almost non-existence)but when we do share ourselves with each other, it’s wonderful. He doesn’t have a lot of money and neither do I but we have plenty of other things that we like to do. So, I think age is just a number used to enslave us. We don’t worry about that because neither one of us know when the good Lord will call either of us home, so we enjoy the moments that we have now.
hi ed,
well how ironic, i hope that my teacher would have the same feeling with me as you do with your student. my only advice to you is just that learn to wait, if you really love her then wait for her dont rush her to become a lady to you. always be there for her until such time that you know she has become a woman. as they always say dont fall in love with young girls because you will only corrupt their future, they say you had your share when you are of the same age as she is now but the thing is if you love her and she was the same to you why should you go away. always be there at her side and show the better world you wanted her to have. that the most reason why young woman like us love to be around with you because you had your share of youth, you had more experience and you know what should be done and what is not. i hope i am of help to you. Good luck and wish you the best.
hi nassdida
lucky you mostly inexperienced lady like her would give anything to you so i hope you wont take advantage of her. the love she offers you is real no doubt about that because she dont have any experienced fooling around with any men.
hi! joseph!
go for it! when your feeling wont change after sometime then go for it! you dont know if she is the right woman God has sent for you. their is no harm in trying just be sure your intention is good. then why in the world God wont answer your prayers to be with this woman. patient and prayers is the best ingredient to win the heart of your woman. i my self was in love with a man twice my age, in my case i never see him old for me but i see him as a man who had enough knowledge to take care of a lady like me. you see when you love somebody all you just see is the good side of him. that will be your capital. make the best of him out of it. start thinking of ways to gain your interest! its not because your both in love means everything is ok but that love will be your foundation to face every challenge that will occur in your life. goodluck in courting her! i wish you both happiness.
Hi Sam,
Kirk c here from kansas,
I totally agree with you on the spirtual part of a relationship hon,
Ive known the Lord since 86 and God is so merciful to us if we put him first,
If youve prayed over this and then met that person
and have a peace in your spirit, and are in agreement on alot of things and like to talk to each other and share things,
then I think thats God answering your prayers for the right person,
God dont want you with the wrong person as that will lead to dissapointment and totAL MISERY,
it dont really matter much if your off in age much as long as your in agreement in the spirit and agree with alot of other things in each others life and both are saved then it will be a good union and youll be happy together
I am 17 years old working for a large Corp. I believe my manager is in his 30’s. Ever since I was introduced to him, he’ve been very kind and respectful. A few days ago, he told me that there is something really special about me and he doesn’t know me that well but he feels connected to me. Ever since, I’ve been feeling very different in a good way. I find him very respectful and attractive. Feel free to express your opinions.
i have always dated younger men; the answer is easy. they are not controlling and are more easy to deal with.. older men (my age) are often set in their ways and abusive.. i dont need a father or a control freak, than you
i have always dated younger men; the answer is easy. they are not controlling and are more easy to deal with.. older men (my age) are often set in their ways and abusive.. i dont need a father or a control freak, than you
I’m 18 years old. I started my interest in older men when I was 17 because of a 33 year old man I thought was 23. At that time I just fooled around with guys between 26 and 33 (after I meet this man, it made me want more!) Thats just to ease you in, my real deal is that I meet the most amazing man in the world! Being 18 and independent I was not looking for love or a relationship, felt I was to wild and way to sexaul to stay with a any man. Then I meet mi amor joe, and at first it was a thrill and jsut that cause older men turn me on, But he expressed truth to me and cared for me. He is 38, and if I had payed attention to his age I would have never fallen for him. He speaks spanish, and luckily I’m half PR because we would never have meet.The age can be tough I will admit, I often wonder what our love will be when I’m 48 and he’s 68 but that gap doesn’t seem to much at that point as it does now. I love him, and for once I can love a man with all I am and Know it’s returned. I don’t want to lose him, and he’s mentioned how heartbroke he’d be without me. My father is not down with it, my mom seems to be cool because she’s meet him many times and she would not let me be with a man she thought was an idiot. When I told my dad he was mad and concerned, mainly because he feels/felt me being with him was an exscape and that I wanted to have kids and get married soon but even though that would be beautiful, I know it’s not realistic since my man and I have only been together 4 months. I assurred my dad that this man isn’t taking me from him and that although I love him I plan on marriage and kids way down the road or at least once I’ve finished Mortuary school and have been able to start my career. but before I write a book, I mainly wanted to write this because I look for inspiration and someone to relate to in my cituation and my age that is not a gold digger or a silly little girl “in love” that is really to young and being used as a matress. I’m a smart young women in love with a wonderful older man 20 yrs my senior. I feel love will help us make it last for many years.
I notice alot of older women on hear that are really pissed because young women( like myself) are stealing their men. I jsut want to add I do not get with married men that s**T pisses me off since I see how my mother felt when her boyfriends and my father cheated( not neccessarily with young chicks but it’s not cool in general) I used to be real attracted to a teacher of my n HS since I was 17 til I graduated (18) and although we would flirt harmlessly, I respect a man with a good wife and kids and would never persue, although its a sexy fantasy, think about if you were that mom with kids, I would hurt could’nt we agree? any ways My boyfriend like I’ve mentioned before is 38 I’m 18, and he did not have a wife nor was ever married but he does have a 16 yrold daughter, which we do look at how he and I could be father daughter, but thats not were I was headed. To all the older women although society makes “cougars” look so bad I disagree, I mean why do men get it so easy, they never get called sluts or get a bad rap for dating younger chicks? I feel that in so called “older women” 30-50 is BS I don’t think that 30-50 is old at all, there are many sexy older women I aspire to become myself. hell 60 on a woman if she is living happy and full can be beautiful. My boyfriend is not a pig, nor does he use me for sex, he caan be prude sometimes lol but in respect to him and the older men I’ve had before, older men can be idiots no matter how old, and yes there are old bitter men and women but older men need to stop getting it so easy, it’s one thing if it’s love with a gap, (that is the case for my love and I) but I hope in the future young women wont completly give themselves up for some older man. Although my man is honest true not rich and not a pig, I love him yet I make sure (and I let him know ) I’m getting my life together first, and if it works and a man loves you he’ll be there for you understand and once a young woman get her life on track and understands that even if its good or bad, he should always keep in mind and take care of herself, Can you feel me? If you like to respond to me please do so at LAngelala27@aol.com so I can get your advice and feedback if it’s not to much trouble
im 34 i look like im 25,iv dated alot of girls my age or a little ypunger. in these past 3 yrs iv been single, an belive me i tried to find that long term i even thought about just finding someone to settle down with but i never could because i was in love before an i know what it should feel like. a few months back i met this girl i thought she was 23-24, didnt do nothin jus talked, then i see her again an get her number we talk i start to like this girl then i find out shes 18, but by this time i like her alot, so i say to myself shes too young. so i never make a move she knows everything about me she knows my age an she dosent care she still wants me, an i havent felt this way about anyone for 3yrs this is that feeling that i had before the love, she kissed me first we never had sex but its almost been a month weve been talkn , i really like her i wanna be with her but i know my freinds will talk shit, what should i do??
I am a 32 year old woman. I have been dating a man who said he was 49. We have fallen in love with each other and everything was going great. I just found out that he is really 54 years old. I am hurt that he lied to me but I know why and understand that part. I am having a hard time dealing with the age difference. He says that age should not matter. We can not help who we fall in love with. My father is 57 years old. I keep thinking about what he would think. And if that means that I have issue. I am sure a phyciatrist would have a feild day with this one. the other issue that I am dealing with is that I want to have at least one other child and I am afraid that his age might become a problem as the child gets older. Some one please give me some opinions. I am so confused