Comments on: Why Do Men Cheat On Their Women?

By: Danyeil

Danyeil — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 08:10:49 +0000

I am talking to this boy and he got a girlfriend,but we have been friends for yr’s that come.We have had sexual affairs, and he is dating this girl that he always say he loves.But he always be with me and I am deeply in love with him,he calls me late at night comes over my house we watch moves together and have lots of fun.And he never be with her,I was just woundering do he love me instead of her.But he never brings her name up around me and the only thing im trying 2 figure out is do he love me.

I need help!

By: Ray

Ray — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 04:01:57 +0000

Wow, Let me first start out by saying that I have been cheated on numerous times by women. Yes, oh yes it has happened and I tell you, I find it amazing how a person, be it male or female can come to terms with themselves and not think for one moment that their is something wrong between their ears, but it must start with the building of how the relationship began.

Either gender, must get laid, relationship, laid, kids, laid, life, no so happy laid and then divorce or what started out as something amazing for both moved with a focus of sex and being instant happiness.

There is no foundation of friendship, real honest open and caring communication. There is no teamwork between the two that is based on a basic caring of each other, the person. Gee, why then does the relationship you ask. Can you build a house on a little bitty foundation and expect it to last.

To many people today on both sides of the gender table continue to remind us that love is blind and it makes you crazy. Well, think of people you know and how they repeat love with the same methods of sex and expect some type of different results. Humm, if I recall right, the defination of insanity is to do something over and over again and expect different results. Yes, they have to be blind and with a no hearing since they have seen the same ending over and over again.

Remember, I started out these comments to provide you knowledge that I have felt the pain that only lost love due to cheating can bring, but let me add just abit more pain as the knife enters your heart, I even have lost my children in the process, because this cycle has been affecting the next generation since the 60′s man, Yea, Man 69, upstate New York, Woodstock, Hendrix closed on Monday. Because we have stopped talking Man, Shit man, no one is real anymore. So WoodStock was the real happening of all the concerts that followed. But what really happened when we took free love, remember it was beautiful?

The genders lost each other and it seems, have not been able to find its way back to the work required of something real, anything with while, takes work and we have to start back from the past talking, developing friendships and having real talk that allows love to grow with time. The genders need to see man needs women and women needs man. Or do we continue to look at each other as the enemy and remain insane.

Now come on, sit down by the fire, I’ll grab my guitar, grab a beer for me and let me enjoy you for sitting down and just sharing, Ok Juliet, Hey cool name.

By: kelly

kelly — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 22:45:46 +0000

my boyfriend cheated on me and got the other woman pregnant,she had a miscarriage,we are still together,i know his first marriage broke up because he cheated on his wife.he finally moved in with me after 4 years of dating,and i suspect he is still seeing his lover,and i have been told they stil keep in touch,he keeps his phone on him all the time and i am not allowed to touch it,although he can go thru mine.should i trust him,will he cheat again?

By: jasmine

jasmine — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:02:33 +0000

I just don’t undestamd why men cheat. if he loves you he’s suppose to be your only one………………….

By: Penny

Penny — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 18:54:25 +0000

My husband has had several affairs the last one in 2006- 2007, i wrote him a letter in April 2007 and told him it was over beause of the affair. he said he wants the marriage to work. but this last one haunts me everyday, i can forgive him but can’t forget it. well one night several months ago he mad i had a few bottles of wine and type my feelings on my private documents on the computer. well he found it by accident on saturday night. now he want talk to me won’t accecpt my calls or text. in the document i wrote how i wonder if he thinks of her when we make love, wonder how often he still talks to her, if they still have their private email address, plus some other stuff.I did nothing wrong his affair has torn our family apart, because he spent so much time on the computer with her he ignore me and our children. i put a bug on the computer so i know more details than i need to know, maybe that is why it hurts me so much. oh i forgot to say she lives in Ohio and he paid for her to fly here several times plus he got a cell number added to his plan and sent her the phone so they could talk when they wanted to. Why do i feel bad i was not the one that had the affair.

By: elwood

elwood — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:09:33 +0000

I also have this problem. I have had a few affairs and don’t want to marry my fiance. I want to have sex with any female who gives me a second look. I had an affair with my neighbor for 2 yrs. She was a friend of my fiance. She told my fiance and my fiance just stopped talking to her and we are still together as if nothing ever happened. I’m sure she doesn’t even care. I got my lover pregnant, but she had a miscarriage. I didn’t even care. I told her it wasn’t mine that i was “fixed”, but i’m not. Now…i’m back to having sex with my ex-wife. Guess i don’t really know who or what i want!

By: hotmomma

hotmomma — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 05:55:08 +0000

Troubled one, I think that you are an appreciative man of the female species. You just need to learn to control your feelings and seek out some kind of activities that can utilize this powerful energy you have. You are excitable! You have a strong desire to please a woman and when you start to substitute this energy in a productive manner you will have the opportunity to meet someone who is on your level. Someone who shares a common interest. Yeah? Until you can stop the fantasical thinking you will be subjected to pain. Turn it around and make this passion a part of you… It is who you are, and can be a gift. You need to find an outlet for your desire by focusing on an obtainable. Ever played pool or golf, any sport??? Night clubbing? I can guarantee you two things. If you tap into all thos girls that are makin you nuts you will end up on the high list of aids sufferers, or never able to obtain a satisfying relationship due to a lack of control. It is your call. My words speak out to you alone because I have felt that way at times. It is normal. You are a man…so that makes us a bit different. But maybe you will see what I am saying as a valid remark. Best wishes to you and never stop loving that which is beautiful!

By: Troubled One

Troubled One — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:41:29 +0000

hey everyone, im a guy at age ~20 and i have a problem

i get really aroused, really fast and start thinking sexually and begin to fantasize about the attractive women i see. i feel pain throughout my chest all the way down to my genitals while i feel nausea unless i do something about it and pursue her.

i feel the need to SCREAM out loud everytime i see sexy giant breasts, firm fatty booty, and a “to-die-for” set of pedicured feet.

i am so horny that it hurts and my sexually appetite is enormous.

i have always been a horny guy but recently its been getting out of my control and i dont know what to do. i have been taking painkillers to calm myself down.

i need help please!

By: beth charles

beth charles — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:27:49 +0000

its degrading

By: kelly

kelly — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 00:19:20 +0000

I don’t have much respect for the other women who help these men cheat. It is one thing if they are lied to and deceived into thinking he is available. But if they know the men are taken and they chose to be in an affair, I think that is just plain rude and selfish and even lacking in a bit of self esteem. Two people who cannot commit or don’t want to and don’t respect their partners enough to talk it out or break up belong together. Those “exciting” times are really negative and cruel. Sure, some people deserve to be cheated on as much as they really deserve to just be dumped. I think you hurt yourself, too, by cheating.