Why American Women Don’t Like Asian Girls?
May 23rd, 2008 | 
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Any man who has dated Asian girls who live in the United States, has witnessed the wrath, jealously and prejudice of American women towards Asian girls.
The stereotypical has some merit: American women can’t compete against the Asians sexuality, American women feel threatened and some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men. These all bear some truth.
If we frequent a typical American club, I have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American lady being threatened by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just isn’t their nature. The crowds in these clubs are usually Asian girls and American men.
They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United States with their military husband. Consequently, you’ll meet Asian girls in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian girls that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful.
This unfaithfulness is how Filipina girls are branded as whores by American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians sexuality. However, there are many Asian girls who want to meet a sincere gentleman for a relationship.
As attractive as Asian girls may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found by American men in the Asian culture.
You’ll hear American men call these values traditional values because at one time these were the values that held the American family together.
In turn, these men are happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere for this appreciation.
It’s chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a better life. It’s probably true.
I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of which you are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment.
Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an Asian girl does, his appreciation is certain.
For an Asian lady, the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round with respect and love as its focal point. She wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, and she loves him for showing he appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their exceptions. There is no doubt; there are bad men in every country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the money or to get a free pass to the United States.
If a few instances define the standards, then just getting a marriage license in the United States should have a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals and mistreatment.
The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advice about how to meet and marry a woman is the United States “is there any other country whose divorce rate is higher?
The Philippines and Far Eastern countries do not condone online dating sites. For that matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women despise Asian girls. Not all American women, but a lot. But the discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media, politics and indeed in their own country.
The people, who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to be together, why the media and politician think does they know better. Take your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let us find love “even if we find it on the internet.
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BTW, to anonymous.. WE DONT ENVY AMERICAN WOMEN… geez!! ur embarassing urself too. What is it that you have for us to envy you? Because you are living in America and us in the Phils.? it never even cross our mind.. come on gurl.. Walking around at the mall with American white husband twice our age whom we love so much is NOT just gratifying but PROUD as well.. aren’t you proud when you are walking at the mall with the man you love? hmm..
I am a filipina so I know how the filipino relatives or especially women here treated a foreign women or men.. probably u were acting like a bitchy gf thats why. And probably ur bro treated that filipina badly and acting like he is the superior and that filipina is his subbordinate. Marriage is an equal relationship…, Filipina gurls will love you if your good to them but can also kick some assess if your bad to them… We will not just say “yes” to our hubby or to everyone even they are wrong already.. if thats the case its not marriage.. it is a GAME.
I am a white american girl and my fiance is chinese (from china not american born) and he and i couldnt be more happier. i love how he treats me and how he is helpful, before i never got any help from these american men who think that its the womans job to do everything. When i went to china i couldnt believe how utterly rude the women there are and how masculine they really can be, they spit on the streets, yell loudly when they speak and the dont even shave! i was so surprised because hearing from some of these american men that apparently worship these masculine figures i was blown away and in shock when i saw differently.i can understand why he doesnt want such a creature,now as for pinays, they are the ones that are stripping on cam on programs liek yahoo and cam frog. i get many messages on yahoo from pinays who are looking for money and what not and it doesnt bother them to beg for it! my best friends uncle had an experience with a horrible pinay wife. the only thing i can say is i am happy with my asian fiance and asian male/white female relationships often end up better the other way around ends up nasty!
Oh and just to clear up the whole jealousy thing, american women arent jealous of asian girls we have nothing to be jealous about.They are always the ones wanting to look more americanized and we have no desire to look like them.American women are diverse and unique and all look totally different.American girls are nobody’s door mats and we would more then likely kick you out if you cheat on us! Asian girls are different, they will put up with more and they are more naive.If you treat an american girl right she will always stick by your side, you have to be nice to them for them to be nice to you!
hello…i liked asian women before i moved to asia. i had no problem with them.. however, while there i developed the “wrath and prejudice” you talk about because of their behavior…not because they were with an american guy..i’m western girl..they were so whinny..they played so many games..they had no respect …just “appearance” respect..totally superficial..highly competitive..and extremely vindictive…they got off on causing “wrong” to other women..it was a bit sick..of course..they re a few nice ones..but in general not..but im all for them hooking up with a white guy and moving to the usa…the women still are not treated that well over there..they have to tend to their husbands parents..and a lot of sacrifice is expected of them with out being too appreciated..the work place is not equal in the higher positions…and their husbands are always getting drunk all night with their buddys in establishments where there are “paid” women…so it sucks for the wives
Well said Rianne. You are on mark when you say that a marriage is an equal partnership. I couldn’t agree more. As an American male I believe we are easily fooled into marriage by American women who learn to manipulate us into marriage, them knowing divorce is always an option. Maybe its the American way. That is when the equal partnership is no longer equal. The man always loses in one way or another. “IT IS WHAT IT IS.”
The Filipina learns at an early age divorce is not an option and has the attitude to treat their men as the head of the house hold by not being his subordinate. She offers love and respect with a caring attitude for family with genuine warmth and retains her independence from her parents and siblings.
Go Philippines
“American women are diverse and unique and all look totally different.”
Absolutely right! There are white American women, Asian American women, African American women, Jewish American women, Arab American women, Native American women, Hispanic American women, etc.
Oh dang, that’s a whole lot of anger from anonymous. I agree with rianne on this situation. Marriage should be all about equality. I would hate to marry a woman who bitches a lot and somewhat enslaves me with her demands. (especially when she won’t do the same good deeds for me) I’m also a person who believes in treating others the way that he’d like to be treated so I won’t expect for my future wife to be overly submissive either.
A lot of you are right when you say that american women can be real bitchy because of this whole “women’s rights” ordeal. I’m all for women’s rights. However, I don’t like women who are overly feminist, and by ‘overly feminist’, I mean that they embrace feminism up to the point where they become paranoid. It’s really the paranoia that repulses most men. Although women may have rights nowadays, somehow they will always feel as if they’re discriminated against no matter how much gestures of equality is given to them. There’s always the possibility that these gestures are just fake ploys to shut them up. Sometimes these gestures are fake and sometimes they aren’t so I would not fault them as much for this distrust. Overall, it’s just really a matter of paranoia over whether they feel equal to men or not.
About most Asian women, you guys are right about a lot of them being brought up with the notion of being a submissive wife. (something which bothers me a whole freaking lot) From my point of view, I really think that a good percentage of them are just passive aggressive. Most of them probably secretly agree that marriage should be about equality and not about male dominance and female slavery.
Therefore, from a whole lot of men’s points of view, it is so much easier to obtain a happy marriage from Asia because of this cultural difference. It’s way easier to teach a formerly submissive woman to speak her mind and be at your own level than it is to calm a paranoid feminist. This is why white male/ asian female relationships work out well. A lot of white guys know better that they should not be rude to their wives. (all due to their upbringing in American society) However, they are still scared away by the white woman’s paranoia which is a really great push factor. At the same time, a lot of Asian women prefer the equality that American men offer rather than the male dominance that Asian men try to shove down their throats. It’s like freaking electromagnetism.
Lastly, before anybody types flame mail to this comment, I am aware that not every white male- asian female relationship is like this. There are good people and bad people everywhere. A significant percentage of the men who marry Asian women are just sexist pigs and a real good percentage of the Asian women they marry are just freeloaders. If these two kinds of WM and AF get together, the marriage is on the road to hell. If one of each is present in a pair, the relationship is still on the road to hell. However, if two benevolent people (one good WM and a good AF) then there should be nothing to fear. There’s a roughly approximate 1 in 4 chance that the marriage will last.
Please don’t bash on all of us. I’m dating an asian girl who’s the same age as I am. We are both currently pursuing higher education and we both know that there is absolutely zero social or finacial gain available if we marry each other. Yet we’re still together despite the fact that there is no material gain from this relationship. Otherwise, I’d have been dumped long ago. This proves that not all people are in it for the money or social status. I’d hardly say that there’s any social status gained since we’re probably viewed with scorn and contempt.
As I read the thread the comparisons mentioned were in an over all attitude why American women are or are not jealous. At the risk of getting too personal I think American women should be jealous. Asian women are more sexual and sensual than any American female I have been with and there have been plenty in my lifetime. I have dated Cheerleaders, law students and hard working country girls all American. Small medium and large women who have take pride in their appearance , but there is always an underlining odor that seems to follow intercourse. Asian women by far take care of themselves and their personal hygiene far better than American women. My girlfriend will wash several times daily and always is as fresh as spring rain. It’s not all about appearence geeze American females should take better care certain areas and American men may want to visit their more often.
Guys… before u say anything about Asian women and White women… u should think first. Not all people are same situation.. And DONT EVER COMPARE RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. If u want an Asian or white women to marry its depend on how u build trust and faithful..because trust and being faithful are good foundation of LOVE…. Dont say that ALL Asians are Gold digger of course NOT.. All people have different personalities and characteristics …and those asians who did that maybe they are not professionals OR maybe because the white men spoiled them in material way just to please and love them.. ALL women want to treat in a nice way..Dont ever think that women whos only stay at home and doing household things … Women is a lifetime partner and NOT a servant.. White men think that american women jelous in asian girls …I think its not.. because some american woman want to married an Asian man bec. they feel the importance of being a woman and sincerity of Love, and have an equal treatment… I think that personalities is lack in white men thats why the percent of divorce is getting higher.
MEN… TRy to lessen ur Ego its not Good in a relationship dont think that men always is a boss…. Relationship should be GiVE AND TAKE… BE SURE THAT YOUR FEELINGS IS REAL AND NOT INFATUATION …
HAVE A NICE DAY!!!!!!
Well, I can’t speak for most asian women but we have to keep one thing in mind. We should look not at a culture but the individual. Many asian women have no desire to marry a white men until they met the right one and that right one happened to be white. We should keep in mind not to shoot everyone just because a small percentage of the asin female popluation are that way. Same with the american women. Let’s face it, there will always be a small group that makes the rest look bad.
I’m black north east african i’d never marry a white american guy simply because i’m not dealin with the family it seems to me that minorities are alot more accepting then they are maybe if he was an italian or hispanic men it would be a tad bit better but def not american white, because of the prejudice of the family aka the females are by far the worse racists they feel unnatractive as it is your indonesian you girls are flyy very good looking along with spanish and women from my country are good looking soo that tells u
i am filipina 20 years old every time i see white guy i can’t stop myself looking at him i think American man are attractive if i marry American man not only for money because they are tall,white,pointed nose,English man and we can make a beautiful babies and i don’t need to find another man because i am fully satisfied with him…and all lady’s want a comfortable life’s and good partner who can help her and love and respect her…
I’m only in favor of Asian Females and White males – both in real life and in the media – ONLY if they’re roughly balanced out by Asian male/White female couples. Otherwise I have no choice but to reject and condemn them as symptoms of a violent, oppressive, and racist legacy that stems from a history going back the colonization of Asia: only now it’s a symbolic and ideological colonization of Asians’ MINDS via Hollywood images, and not their physical countries.
Some of you here – especially the Asian girls and white guys, will scoff at my suggestion as though I was a 9 year old boy keeping score.
But this is more than about bragging rights.
I’m simply not going to let your racism (both internalized and opportunistic) consume my life, but Asian men need to put their foot down immediately so that the cycle of self-hate and opportunism (which white males and Asian females themselves can’t even see in themselves) ENDS with your generation.
In reality, the “hate” isn’t at ALL in “jealous Asian guys” – it’s in YOU, the white male and the Asian female.
And that legacy of parasitism, hate, and racial opportunism – it’s all going to die with you, on the day you take your last breath. That’s the day Asian-Americans can rest easy, knowing that white male privilege can no long slip it slimy fingers around the community.
I refuse to just sit back and let my Asian or potentially half-Asian children inherit a world where they will be passed over simply because some white chode just happens to have European blood – in school, at work, and in love. The thought of that makes my blood boil, and I’ll fight for future generations of Asian-Americans to stop this racist cycle of race-privilege – at ALL COSTS.
Without the balance, a numerically inferior ethnic community (like Asians) literally starts to fall apart at the seams. And while we haven’t been broken yet as a whole, this can only go on for so long before it reaches a breaking point.
Thankfully, East Asia is on an upward economic trajectory, and with money there’s always power. I don’t have a shred of doubt in my mind that once Asia is on top, white men will gradually be forced to make concession and take an incrementally more submissive position in the global order. And the women, in seeing this, will naturally begin to feel the draw of Asian men. Just flip the current scenario on it’s head, and you’re getting the picture.
It’s not politically correct, but after women see the money, they automatically smell the power and influence – and of course that’s the ultimate aphrodisiac for any woman above the age of 23 who has the wit to see that looks or muscles can only get her so far in her social-climb toward the top.
Furthermore, whether a given population actually HAS those “good genes” is only marginally important or relevant in creating a racialized personality cult like the “Hollywood White Boy Club”.
All you need is the capital to fund such an enterprise in Asia, and the reputation of Asian men will soar in a short time – irregardless of whether such racialized praise and adoration is deserved.
Just ask any dorky white guy in Asia who currently has no problem finding an Asian girlfriend, and you’ll know what I’m talking about. They have Hollywood to thank for their good fortune – but they should realize that they’re living on borrowed time. Heh heh.
All you have to do is take that 2-5% of men with the ‘good genes’ in Asia, and put them on TV or film, then hammer it into the brains of women all over the world – over and over and over and over again, especially from a young age – and voila: you create this cult of illusion. That’s precisely what white men have done with Hollywood! Do you honestly think that the overwhelming majority of white guys look anything like what you see on TV? Most don’t, and that’s an irrefutable fact. But Asian women are psychologically beat down and conditioned by this ‘image cult’ of the White Male to the point that they’ll shack up with any white goober or chode, as long as he’s white – this same thing will eventually happen with Asian men and women all over the world, as long as Asia continues it’s economic rise and eventually overtakes the United States in about 25 to 30 years.
So the final question is: can Asian-American hold on long enough to enjoy the corollary benefits of East Asia’s rise to the top of the global economic and political hierarchy?
These women fantasize that a White man will give them a beautiful White baby. They desperately hide from the fact that these gorgeous White children can only come from 2 White parents. We have lots of talk about White women hating Asian women, but the truth is the Asian women very much resent White women, because only you can give a White man that gorgeous White baby. In terms of truly assisting a White man in continuing his genetic lineage the White woman trumps the Asian every time, be it in looks, creativity or intelligence of the potential offspring. Asian women are furious about this and can act very cold to White women as they ogle your man. In their pathetic jealousy they willfully refuse to understand that Asian women give white men Asian babies, that white men don’t give Asian women white babies. When I was a translator I used to see far too many lost white boys in Asia who had knocked up an Asian, often by accident. They had gotten caught up in some Asian girl’s “I’m having a white baby” fantasy, which is exactly that, only a dream. The foolish guy was stuck with the awful consequences–a very Asian-looking baby, his genes barely if at all apparent. He had terminated his own genetic legacy to spawn a Mongoloid. Just as with wf/bm mixing, there are no winners in af/wm procreation, only losers, especially the poor mixed kids. Asian women need to give up these delusions that they can give birth to nordic babies by hooking up with a White man. By pushing their Asian genes into our White gene pool they only destroy the very features they so covet. They need to get some pride already and find their own men in Asia once again.
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White woman’s post is full of racist drivel. Creativity or intelligent offspring? Try the inbred whites in the south and their academic achievement and after that try the intelligence of hapas in Hawaii and California..find out who is intellectually superior. Many whites cannot say 14-4 is ten without a calcualtor. Keep the drivel to yourself, racist inbred white lady!
To cheska040489:
You are very, very superficial. OK, I’ve been reading this forum for well over a year now and I’ve seen posts from all sorts of women. Your recent post is by far the most superficial one that I’ve seen. You’ve just basically proved everybody else’s point about Asian women being such materialistic, superficial freeloaders. Marrying a person because of his looks (which are attributed to his ethnicity) is a very wrong thing to do. This also applies to marrying somebody for money or social status.
However, I commend you on “at least” having some standards pertaining to your mate’s personality. But what if an asian man has the same personality (maybe even a better one), what if it’s the same way with an arab guy, a black guy or a hispanic guy. Would you reject them simply because they’re not a “tall, white, pointed nose, English man and we can make a beautiful babies”. Please re-evaluate your standards and morals before getting into a marriage. Damn, I am so grateful that my gf does not think like you do.
To Strong Asian man:
Based on what I wrote about cheska, you are so right about the illusions of Hollywood on women. However I do not agree with the idea of Asian men being portrayed in such a way. Such brainwashing is morally wrong and if Asian men start doing the same, then they are no better than the same white guys who do this stuff already. Also, I’ve noticed that a lot of men are also brainwashed by hollywood’s portrayal of various women. (in the exact same way) Who knows, maybe it’s hollywood that has white men so attracted to Asian women nowadays.
Can’t we all just see each other for our personalities and not on racial stereotypes. Every existing racial stereotype is very damaging to at least one person in the group that’s being stereotyped. Your preferred username “Strong Asian man” makes me assume that you’re a victim of the stereotype that Asian men are weak and effeminate. Maybe this makes it ever more difficult for you to attract any woman. On the other hand, I’m a victim of the stereotype that black guys are muscular, athletic and dangerous to be fighting with. I can’t even harm a fly yet people are afraid of me based on some myth. In terms of my personality and physical strength, I fit the wimpy white and/or Asian nerd stereotype more than anything. This just proves how damaging stereotyping can be. It prevents people from getting to know each other for who they are.
Wow, white woman. You are so racist it’s ridiculous. You make a lot of smart ass comments about the intelligence of Asian women and the genetics of their babies, yet it is you who is showing true ignorance.
oh people, you are so simple.
we asian dont act cold to you american (note the american) girls. blame the stupid american men for making you feel that way.
im asian, born in asia, and i now live in america. im a minority, thus i would get less chances of hooking up with an asian guy because there are more american guys to hook up with. now if you american women are in asia, more likely you’d date an asian guy because there are so many of them.
and to all you pathetic asian women who married guys twice their age: please stop. this is a form of slavery and dependency. if you want to make some money, go work hard, apply to school, get a scholarship, study abroad. dont just sit there in front of the computer for hours and hours each day hoping you’d get to chat with american men.
and as for you angry little american women, we are the same yet very different in some aspect, some of us are bitchy and some of us are plain doormats. not all of us asian women would take old american men crap. and sugar daddies are global too.
dear cheska who was born on april 4 1989, get some help. and probably look up dominant genes on the internet too while you’re still online.
After my last wife died almost 4 years ago I was devastated.I came home to find her dead of a sudden heart attack. I was shattered. We were married almost 14 years and happily so.A year later I tried dating. I even sent one lady flowers..only to find out that she was cheating on a boyfriend. The florist told me that the boyfriend was home when the flowers arrived. Anyway..a few months later I met my wife to be. She is from mainland China and is as sweet as could be. We were just married in September 2009. I bring her flowers just because..I sing to her..I buy her little simple gifts like a card or a little stuffed animal. When I am with her at home I pick her up and hold her in my arms and kiss her. We go for walks holding hands and listen to soft music at home.She is the love of my life.American girls cannot hold a candle to her and never will…..as my wife appreciates me and lets me know as I let her know the same and always will.
By the way anyone who has made a RACIST statement like I see here REMEMBER this….ADOLF HITLER thought the same thing….his plan failed and his pathetic regime collapsed.
I’m an asian and I have to tell you, you hate people when you don’t like them. Even in your own race, you’ll hate someone, so hate happens when you don’t like them, right.
I don’t want to look westerners, but cardigans are so comfortable and that’s why we wear them. So, let’s say, changes comes when we start to globalization. Isn’t it everyone’s dream to be “the same”?
How about we all comes to a term where we share what we have? Then, everyone’s the same but you hate people who are looking the same like you.
There it goes again the word hate. If someone whose the same colour as you wears exactly the same like you, you will still dislike the person.
The point is, hate what’s bring us apart, not the person.
And love is blind. It hits you like you only have a white and black vision.
So, what are you guys arguing about? Don’t you love yourself for who you are? Not eyes or skin colour.
Peace for you all. I hope my little voice gets somewhere.
To emily. huh? are u out of your mind? i’ve been to yahoo chat many times and not just pinays who are asking money in there haller? wake up! maybe ur dreaming… dont generalize us. I am not stripping or perhaps ur in a cam frog because YOU are stripping. hmm..
We are not naive we are not just like you guys who are kicking husbands assess without even thinking the consequences. You are not even thinking what will be the cause of ur actions to your children. Most of the time if you decide to divorce your husband because you think he is cheating you u just go go go! You maybe are telling yourself, you cheat on me then I will kick you out. Did you ask your children what they think? NO. Whatever you decide, sometimes its not for your family’s good anymore but just for your own good because of your pride. Your culture are used to do that kicking husbands asses without even trying to resolve the problem first. Without even talking about it first. Without even asking yourself what mistake have you done? BUT NOT in our culture.
We treasure our family a lot. Everybody deserves a second chance.. we are not pefect.. NO one is perfect.
To white woman:
The only reason that I married my white man is beacause I LOVE HIM not because I fantasize to have a gorgeous white baby.. haller? Can anyone of you knock this woman’s head pls? Even I will marry a co-filipinO I am 1000% sure I will still have a gorgeous baby…
When an asian woman gave birth to a baby who’s father is a caucasian white man… usually the skin is white.. its not gray, its not black, its not brown… IT IS WHITE. So dont say that gorgeous White children can only come from 2 White parents. We have lots of gorgeous half pinays here in PI… and I bet if you come between them I am 100% sure you just look like a dilapidated house between palaces.
Why would anybody envy anybody. Jealousy is a bad thing, not just for me but it applies to everybody. Asian woman doesn’t care if american woman tries to threaten them. We Asians will always try to be friends with everybody. Jealousy is a very bad thing for any religion and race.
FOR THOSE WHO THINK ASIANS OR ANY OTHER RACE WANTS OR TRIES TO BE WHITE IS A IGNORANT MOTHERF&%#ER! IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT RACE YOU ARE FOR YOU TO ACT, DRESS..ETC THE WAY YOU DO. IT’S WHO YOU ARE. THERE ARE AMERICANIZED ASIANS OUT THERE, NOT FOR THE WHITE MEN BUT BECAUSE WE ARE BORN AND RAISED IN THE U.S. THIS GOES FOR EVERY RACE TOO. ANYONE THAT HAS NEGATIVE THINGS TO SAY ABOUT THIS ARE JEALOUS DUMBFU*@S! IT’S YOUR WAY OF TRYING TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER BECAUSE YOU’RE THREATENED. IT SUCKS TO BE A PERSON LIKE YOU.
Please, step back for one second. Now, do you see what is being said and how one things a person can say can cause such an uprore. The tongue is vey small but just see the damage and strife it has caused in such a very lkittle time.
Really think about what we are saying here fellow humans. We are all equal and we all can love who we would like to love. That is how simple it is.
Don’t worry about who is doing what. We have our own business to tend to and things to work out. Worrying never helped a thing. We reap what we sow.
So sow good seed and you will reap good things. Plant weeds and weeds will grow. Say and do good things and you will truly be acting out love.
Life is not a game as sopme think it is and we don’t have all the answers. As soon as we can put the dice down and walk away from the table we can start seeing the good that we can do. Put stock, time and effort into that.
We all have the chance and ability to do this. Act wisely as we all have to answer for our actions eventually. Why should we pay for bad when we could have produced good? So now, what positive things can be said about each other? And let each person work out his or her faults as we all have them.
I only hope this helps…
are you out of your mind cheska?!! you want to mary a white guy for the sake of having a beautiful baby. That was not love..its just an imagination, fantasizing…revew your biology girl!
I’m on neither sides. I’m a 34 years old asian woman with a 4+2 years college degree and this is just a ridiculous blog. From what I’ve seen, most asian women that are with the white men are not at all attractive. The white men are trashy. When the Asian women reach my age, they can look like lighten struck 100 times. There are asian sluts, African American sluts, white women sluts… Everybody is a critic. I color my hair brown and have no accent, but I get comments from Asians and white people that I’m trying to be “American.” That’s just fine and I’ll take it… I love the ‘me love you long time’ picture of a white guy with that ugly asian girl. See, even I am a critic and can be narrow-minded! It’s human nature. No one can deny that part is in them, some of us don’t blog about it. My sister is 10 times uglier than me and she went with an old American guy (true slut). She’s uneducated and me so desperate typical kind. The woman has always been jealous of me and wants to be taken care of. Her two marines and air force boys hates her and we all hope she falls off the face of the earth.
im asian and i was just shocked why this people argue who is the most better wife or some stuff! whether you are white,black or brown no matter where you are race it is not a big deal when you are already in love and planning to get married as long as you are prepared to be faithfull to your future mate… it is just a simple thing LOVE IS COMMITMENT.. broken family is the result of unfaithfullness divorce is not just a problem of american people that is all over the world if you found your self in love to an asian girl go for it and if you truly in love with a white girl fight for it and if you are in love with a black don’t hesitate to love her.. everybody deserved to be love and be love.. just always put this on everybody’s mind don’t ever judge the book it’s cover because you gonna learn when you gonna start to read you will find something there that you would never learn by your self and remember TRUE LOVE WAITS..
TO TLW
Yep you are right that broken family result with unfaithfulness divorce but not all the time. SOmetimes they just divorce because of what they call “in differences” or sometims divorce happened because the husband battered his wife. Too many reasons.
We asians, we are not naive especially when it comes to our family. Asians number 1 rule “family comes first” one mistake your fault, 2 mistakes my fault, three mistakes thats stupidity. Let say he is the best husband for you, provide everything u need, but he made a mistake one time cant you guys talk about it? Of course I know the saying “once he do it, he will do it again” but when it comes to your family sometimes you need to eat your pride especially when there are children involve.
Marriage is not a game. Thats why when you get married you need to think hard if that person is really the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with because once you decide to marry that person, you are also marrying responsibilities with him, you are also marrying all the things like attitude/character etc of that person.
There is nothing to hate about wether white, black, hispanic, asian, caucasians (I am also wondering) but my bestfriend’s experienced “attitude” from american girls the moment she lay her feet at the airport and they’re looking at her and her husband as if they will eat them alive lolz and she heard them hersay she is so ugly for him (lolz my best friend is not tall she is just 5′3″ typical height for us but she is pretty and sexy)
When you meet the right person, you just dont choose it just happened.
American Woman are very jealous of Asian Woman. I see it almost daily.
Me I am 44 years old, my wife is 21 from Philippines. I courted her almost 2 years before she graduated from college, and we did her K1 (Fiance) Visa to come to the USA.
I still get rude looks for Woman in the malls, and even had a couple of my buddies get jealous cuz I married such a beautiful and lovely lady.
They are married to older and fat woman, and seem to be not very happy in their marriage.
We have been married a little over a year, and my wife is the “Best Thing” that has ever happened to me, she really is fantastic wife.
As far as White Man and Asian Female having babies, they do make some of he most beautiful kids in the worlds, especially if mix American and Filipino.
What I don’t understand is why more American Men don’t go to Asian countries like Philippines and find soul mates over there.
For me I am mid 40’s, and I am like a Rock Star walking the streets of Philippines. I can have my pick of woman over there, and I can have a woman between 18 to 25, and they will still be a Virgin and probably have a Bachelor Degree (Nursing) so she can come over to the USA and make lots of money.
Two of my friends at work got women from Asia to marry, one from the Philippines and the other from Japan. They love it, I’ve been debating if I should look over there to get married also. Don’t get me wrong, there are alot of women here in the US. The problem is to me has to do with many of the women in the US being just outright nasty in attitude. I mean once I start to get a nasty attitude from both men and women I tend to get away from them because I don’t want to deal with their issues. Also this is a tribal thing, because American women see an American man with a foreign woman and start to think that this is one less man that has been taken out of the pool to marry.
Why I’m happy with my fiance Frances. As far as her beauty, yes she’s the most attractive woman I’ve ever been with…and let me make it clear why I bring this up. I’ve dated every color known to man. For me the whole racial thing is bologny. But one of things I am proud is that my fiance is the most beautiful woman I come across and I am happy and see it as God’s gift to her and to me and probally our children. Here in the United States due to what Corporate TV and Capitalist values have done to our society American women have become ungrateful and unsupportive. I don’t mean to disrespect those of other religions but ultimately men do (atleast I do) want to marry a woman with religious values and a supportive family background. In marriage these words are shared, “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.” Before I met her I feared getting married. I didn’t value marriage one bit because I too was cought up in the whole marriage is a business deal because ultimately there’s tons of divorces. It’s a freaken shame. I didn’t want to be a part of it especially how my American Ex would share with me she wanted a huge rock on her finger. Her family wanted a huge wedding. Don’t get me wrong I want those things too but for me it’s not about the ring to show off or how many people you feed in the wedding…it’s the vows, the support, the family meals, going to church because you actually really want your children to be raised with the best values. American’s live in a fantasy world now…with fantasy values. I was once dumped by a beautiful stuckup American and I never dated a beautiful woman again. My next girlfriends had their flaws but I wasn’t attracted to them although I did love one genuine and saw past that. I learned to find her attractive because she was a good person. She was my bestfriend so I thought. At the end I became very ill, hospitalized more than 6 times. My Ex abandon me at the hospital. I poured myself to her, dedicated myself to her and at the end I was left for dead because she became embarrassed of my illness and lost faith on my recovery. I’m glad I didn’t marry her. My filipina fiance is supportive. A plastic wedding ring makes her happy yet I got a huge rock for her. She doesn’t want a big wedding yet I’ll give it to her God willing. She’s the most supportive person I’ve ever met. If I quit my corporate job to see my kid at a school play she won’t hold it against me if I immediately get a job at McDonalds to bring food for the family. This is the kind of women real men want in their lifes. Someone supportive that takes marriage seriously for it’s religious vows not a mere rat race for her friends! You only find these values in the old world but no longer here in America.
Well, not quite enough. Boy, do most of these men get a rude awakening once the ring’s on her finger AND she has her green card. By that time, at least from the couples I’ve known, the wife is definitely ruling the roost. An “old-fashioned” foreign girlfriend is WAY different than she is once she’s a wife. And if you have children together, you may as well accept that she will be more devoted to them and see you as the family paycheck way more than any American women I ‘ve ever known.
And then my American male friends are all “What happened? She was so sweet.” WAS is the operative word here, guys. Funny – you don’t see those men posting on most of these forums. Their wives are too busy making sure they’re working their arses off to buy them the American Dream.
You guys can get mad and post that your relationship isn’t like that all day long, but I’ve seen too many of these relationships to believe it. If you want to an insanely jealous, tremendously insecure, very vengeful wife, then don’t marry American. Marry a traditionally born and reared Asian or Russian woman. LOL I figure they got what they were looking for. LOL
In response to Red, you may be a “rock star” in the Philippines but in the U.S. most American women probably won’t give you a second look. You are a rock star in a backwards third-world country. I’m sure your Flip wife is happy. She gets a green card and her entire family can immigrate to America and pretty soon you will be supporting her relatives too.
My personal experiences/observations:
A very intelligent Chinese Suzuki instructor married to a white psychiatrist who was an awful doctor. Her own words about him once “He not too bright.” That was an understatement. My husband and I still use that as a catchphrase sometimes. She was not a pretty woman, but very nice and highly educated. Still, she cared for her father in her own home while teaching Suzuki and raising two young children. Her husband never helped with either. Her brother, also a physician, had an Asian wife who homeschooled their children. They were more affluent, yet never aided in any way with the father’s care. It was assumed to be the daughter’s responsibility. Everyone in her life took advantage of her, IMO. When she had barely entered remission from breast cancer, they all still expected her to assume her previous roles. She was dutiful and bore it.
A friend with a long string of failed relationships with American women finally married a quite younger, educated Russian teacher. Despite their having a young son and despite his affluence, he made her work the night shift at the grocery store. She hated this and was very verbal about it. He was the quiet, shy, really neurotic type with all of us, but not with her. He really lorded his power over her.
Until she got her green card and could teach. Boy, did their relationship dynamics change. Now, she works him to death. He is frail – diabetic, missing one kidney – but he works fulltime and then all weekend renovating their home. She bosses him around like you would not believe. But, she is definitely much happier these days.
Another friend who travels overseas in his engineering work for a computer company married his Chinese colleague (she was his inferior, however) when she became pregnant. She’s 33 years old, very plain, 15 years younger than him, and basically waited him out.
He slept with her whenever she travelled here or him there and despite having secured her a Fiancee Visa for her trips here, continued to have relationships with American women in the hopes of marrying one. He’s been married 3 times already and guess what? His relationships never last.
Still, she just waited and did whatever he wanted whenever they were together. He planned to break it off with her and then she became preganant. Now he’s married her and he’s miserable. His daughter hates her and sees her as a sex object (which she essentially was. That and an ego booster/stroker). Besides being pregnant, he said another reason he was willing to go ahead and marry her was because she would be less likely to divorce him due to her culture. Now, he only wishes that she would go ahead and just divorce him! LOL I kinda see that as poetic justice. She nags him endlessly, alienates all his friends and relatives, is always upset about something, usually a Chinese custom he’s forgotten to observe. He’s in a living hell.
The baby’s cute enough, but he is funny looking to be honest. I’ve never seen a curly haired Asian before and he is a chunk, so he’s going to look like Sean Lennon if you put a curly wig on him. Not so bad, but he will definitely stand out in a crowd.
A colleague’s son basically ordered a Filipina bride. He was a very shy, but highly critical computer wonk who had a string of failed relationships. They’re still married. She tried to get him to bring her whole family over to live with them, but he refused. She’s extremely ambitious materially and academically, to the point of annoyance to all but the most ambitious/social climbing American women. They seem happy enough together.
I wouldn’t call any of these particularly inspiring or uplifting examples. Granted, the same can be said for many same culture relationships, but on the whole from what I’ve seen, same culture relationships fare better and have a lower divorce rate. I believe statistics still bear that out. And I’ve yet to know a white guy marry a foreign girl who was not very awkward socially, to the point of being noticeably different by American women. Those are simply my observations.
“same culture relationships fare better and have a lower divorce rate. I believe statistics still bear that out.”
Evidence….stat please!
This is funny. American women jealous? OK. I found this because I was just in a conversation and it made me think. My opinion: Asian women are far less vocal and independent as American ones and THIS is what some men prefer. Silence. Obedience.
In Response to Meg, Your reply is the typical “Knee Jerk” American Woman thinking.
My wife comes from a upper class family, The majority have white collar jobs in PI, Like Lawyers, CPA’s, or Doctors. Her sister is a lawyer, and has moved to Canada with her Filipino Husband who is a Engineer. Her family has plenty of money, We don’t send money to PI. But your thinking that Pinays marry Americans Men for their money is typical, but also incorrect.
Immigration for her family. Let me bust that myth for you as well. I can’t petition her family, no such Visa’s exist. My wife can peition them, but it will take her over 3 years from arrival date before she can get her US Citizenship, You must be an American Citizen before you can Petition USCIS for a visa.
My wife could petition her mother, but it would take her 3 plus years and the wait time after doing a petition is about more year, But her mother has a successful import/export flowers/fish in Palau, which is another Pacific Island that US has pledge 50 years of protection, Research it on the Net. My wife father has passed away.
She does have another sister in Philippines, but it takes around 10 years processing time for a sister or brother to get approved, Check the USCIS Website to confirm what I am saying, they have timelines.
No way any other family members can come to USA, Sorry to blow that myth out of the water also.
Support to her family, We don’t send money back they have plenty. But I am willing to bet my young wife makes probably double or triple your salary and she’s just 21. We live in nice neighborhood, in affluent city, and we have a grand and beautiful house. Cuz we both work hard, and both make good salaries.
You think “American WOman” wouldn’t give me a 2nd look, Wrong again. But I do find them now of day pissed off cuz they see me walking hand n hand with my lovely Pinay wife and they get angry cuz they see a man in love with his wife who is happy, and a couple who are happy being together
Why American Woman Don’t like Asian Girls?
Article Written by Fred Reed
There is near me an Asian sushi-beer-and-dinner establishment that I´ll call the Asia Spot. The region is urban, so the clientele is a mix of some of just about everything, but the waitresses are all Asian, principally Japanese, Indonesian, Vietnamese, and Thai. The Spot is a neighborhood bar. A large after-work crowd, many of them regulars, gather at happy hour. The social dynamics are curious. It would be an exaggeration to say, as someone did, that the black guys come to pick up white women, and the white men come to get away from them – but it would be an exaggeration of an underlying truth. The waitresses are a large part of the Spot´s appeal.
A common subject of conversation among male customers is how very attractive these women are when compared to American women. It is not a thought safe to utter in mixed company. It is a very common thought. American women know it.
Why are the Asians attractive? What, to huge numbers of men, makes almost any Asian more appealing than almost any American? The question is much discussed by men at the Spot. (I should say here that when I say “women,” I mean the majority of women, the mainstream, the center of gravity. Yes, there are exceptions and degrees.)
American women of my acquaintance offer several explanations, all of them wrong. For example, they say that Asian women are sexually easy. No. American women are sexually easy. The waitresses at the Spot are not available. They date, but they cannot be picked up.
Another explanation popular among American women is that men want submissive women, which Asians are believed to be. Again, no. For one thing, submissive people are bland and boring. In any event the waitresses aren´t submissive. Many compete successfully in tough professions. Among Asian waitresses I know I count an electrical engineer who does wide-area networks, and a woman with a masters in biochemistry who, upon finding that research required a Ph.D and didn´t pay, went back to school and became a dentist. Both of these wait tables to help out in the family restaurant.
At the Spot I know a woman waitressing her way through a degree in computer security, a bright Japanese college graduate making a career in the restaurant business, and the manager of the Spot – not a light-weight job. Submissiveness has nothing to do with their attractiveness.
Why, then, are they so very appealing?
To begin with, look at the American women in the Spot. Perhaps a third of them are stylishly dressed. The rest of the gringas run from undistinguished to dumpster-casual: baggy jeans, oversize shirts — often male shirts — with the tails out. They seem to affect a sort of homeless chic, actually to want to look bad, and do it with more than a touch of androgyny. A high proportion are at least somewhat overweight. (So are the men, but that´s another subject.) The Asians, without exception, are sleek, well-groomed, and dressed with an understated sexiness that never pushes trashy.
Further, the Asians are what were once called “ladies,” a thought repellant to feminists but very so refreshing to men. Listen to the American women at neighboring tables, and you will frequently hear phrases like, “He´s a f—ing piece of shit.” In what appears to be a determined attempt to be men, they have adopted the mode of discourse of a male locker room and made it their normal language. The Asians, classier, better students of men, do not have foul mouths. They presumably know about body parts and bathroom functions, but do not believe that a woman raises her stature by referring to them constantly in mixed company.
Men at the Spot, I have noticed, instantly understand that colloquial commentary is not wanted, and don´t engage in it: In the presence of the civilized, men adopt the standards of civilization. Men also tend to think of women as women think of themselves. The Asians, without displaying vanity, clearly think well of themselves. And ought to.
All in all, they give the impression that they do not want to be one of the guys. They want to be one of the girls. Here we come to the core of their appeal. Let me elaborate.
The default position of American women is what men refer to as “the chip,” a veiled truculence, mixed with a not-very-veiled hostility toward men and a shaky sense of sexual identity. The result is a touchiness reminiscent of hungover ferrets. There is a bandsaw edge to them, a watching for any slight so that they can show that they aren´t going to take it. They are poised to lash out in aggressive defense of their manhood.
As best as I can tell, they don´t like being women. Here is the entire problem in five words.
The Asians at the Spot show every indication that they do like being women. They do not seem to have anything to prove. Being happy with what they are allows them to be comfortable with what they are not – men. They are not competing to be what they can´t be with people who can´t be anything else. They don´t have to establish their masculinity because they don´t want it. They do not assume, as American women tend to, that femaleness is a diseased condition to be treated by male clothes, gutter language, and bad temper.
I´ve spent many dozens of hours chatting with the gals at the Spot, and never seen a sign of the chip. For a man, the experience is wonderful beyond description – smart, pretty, classy women, who are women, and are not the enemy. As long as American women carry the chip, the Asian gals will eat them alive in the dating market.
Note that the espousal of hostile obnoxiousness as a guiding philosophy appears to be an almost uniquely American horror. It certainly isn´t requisite to independence or self-respect. I recently met a quite attractive blonde who, among other things, was smart, a long-haul motorcyclist, a student of the martial arts out of sheer athletic enjoyment of it, and an excellent marksman. She was also heterosexual, feminine, delightful company, and had no trace of “the chip.” I was astonished. How was this possible, I wondered?
She was Canadian.
You all can say anything you want to say but when love struck you… thats it! no matter what country you are, no matter what race you are it doesnt matter because when you are in love all you see is the person ur in love with.
I am a filipina fell in love (and still soo in love) with my american man. I did marry him because I want to go outside the country nor want to bring my family outside the country. I did not marry him because of his money. I met him when we have 5 bed room house, a car, helper, renting apartment (15 doors) a bulding apartment, etc. I can go anywhere. I married him for one reason and one reason only – I LOVE HIM. We had lots of experiences together both good times and bad times but still we are together.
It doesnt really matter where ur from, what races or culture, the important thing is you respect and love each other, making everyday a special day, showing each other how important you are to each other and everything will be ok.
I’ve seen lots of relationship but since I am a filipina, I’ve seen mostly american, european married to a filipina. And all I can say… they are contented, satisfied and very very happy.
I’ve never been to US because I wanted to go to Europe and stay there but since I am married to an American and my visa is already in process so will go there this year. But my co-filipina, and my male american friends married to filipina warned me about this – american women even my husband warned me too. I guess they’ve experienced a lot.
There are lots of whores all over the world, lots of hypocrites, and naive but we should not point out specific country like us filipinos. Try to see first your own country. If your country is drug free, whore/slut free, club free, or crap free then you can point out but if not well THINK!
I dont know the real reason why americans, europeans women dont like asians (even though my friends and my bestfriends experieced attitude from this country and kept telling me about it) but I believe that as long as we keep our mouth shut and accept the fact that there are other races in our country I think we will not have any problem.
My Observations:
The quality of American Women has declined drastically for a few reasons:
1. American women have this belief that they must try to be men. (ie being vulgar, masculine…) and carry if to the extreme with repeated tough talk and inferiority complexes.
2. The new American women at college:
“Oh I will go to college and party abroad for a year and party more on campus and then graduate with some BS art or humanities degree on my parents dime or student loans since I deserve to be edjemicated…then I will say Im goint ot law school but just become a teacher after 4-5 years of that…)” – quite a plan!
3. The new American Women on dating:
“I will date you until I get bored of you after a week but until then I expect you to pay for absolutely everything I want and adore everything I do including the chip on my shoulder, flirting with other men, burping, smoking pot, lack of manners and treating you like trash and if you lose your job during this time its over….)
4. The new American Women in Marriage:
“Dont expect me to contribute to much, I mean I worked my butt off partying my parents fortune away in college and got this teaching and real estate (more common in so cal) as a last resort!…Since my student loans for partying abroad are now due and I still dont have my act together I expect you to provide for me and do all of the above until I find someone more successful to support my habits…and dont even think about losing your job, car or not providing me with a house or Im gone…B*tch!”
5. The new American Women at Work:
“I will talk about my coworkers and arrive 15 mins late and leave 15 mins early because I’m worht every penny with my 5 years of college partying and screwing around! And just remember what happens at work stays at work! So dont worry about my husband because he knows his life would be miserable if I left…so excuse me while I manage the phones, smirk at more successful people and chat with people on yahoo!”
wisefemale and Meg are just bitter and jealous american women
I am a Filipina. Well, don’t think everyone in Philippines think that it is an honor to have ab american hub/bf beside you. no… some say she is lucky some say she needs him for money…. different perceptions towrd fil-am relationship.
if you are in angeles cty phils they would probably conclude you are just a hooker found by this guy and made you his wife.
i dont really think all white girls envy asians… or vice versa. to tell you honestly, women in philippines are respected. we know who are sluts and unedcated. we respect woman with honor. we value education and women here are are mostly smart.
well i cant deny that they look up to americans but not all of us. most of filipinos are still traditional and conservative that is sucks sometimes!
i like the article.
As a white woman, I wouldn’t call it jealousy, because I don’t think asian women are any prettier or any smarter or any better. But it does get really old when you see shit-articles about “how much better/superior asian women are”, which is just complete BS, because they really aren’t any better than any other race. However, I am dating a wonderful Korean-born Korean man, who is better than any white guy I’ve ever dated. I don’t understand why asian women flock to white men more than their own, because white males aren’t all they are chalked up to be, and frankly, my boyfriend is far cleaner, more respectful, more affectionate, and more caring than the white men I’ve dated. Unfortunately, the asian women I have met (not all, i’ve met some nice ones) have not been the nicest people and have been down right passive aggressive, cold, snobbish, and they act like (because there aren’t a lot here) that they’re the best damn thing since sliced bread and it’s a real turn off. The Korean females I’ve met here, through my boyfriend, (the majority, not all)have not been nice to me because I’m dating “one of their own”, and have been very cold to me and have made a point to not include me, despite how nice I’ve been (When I first started dating my boyfriend, one them had the nerve to ask him “why are you dating her and not me?”, in which I made a point to make sure that she was never included or around again). I’ve gotten a few nasty stares from complete strange Korean girls when they see me with him (by the way they like to stare to the point that it’s just rude, especially the ones that just came here). I also find their passive aggressiveness really irritating, because they’ll say something mean and just snide but in a “sweet” way and it is ***** irritating. My boyfriend doesn’t even like Korean women, because of how gossipy they are and how snotty and spoiled and materialistic and childish. They also like to make a lot of comments about everyone’s weight, despite how rude it is in American culture. I’ve heard a lot of Korean women just go on about “how fat” or “how much weight someone’s gained” (I even had one, who barely knew my boyfriend, come up to him, hit him on the chest and say “you’ve gotten fat” and walk off for not damn reason at all other than to be *****) and it’s just rude and gossipy for no point other than to be like that. My boyfriend assures me that there are a lot of nice Korean women in Korea and I believe him (he just tells me the ones here are just spoiled arrogant brats that think they’re the hottest thing ever and are so petty), it’s just my current experiences with them are bad. But I have faith that when I go to Korea in the next year, my opinion on them will be better. I hope at least, I’m trying to stay open minded.
Surprise Red and Bill Church!! I’m not a white American girl like you assumed. I’m Asian American and 100% proud of it. Among my Asian friends who are mostly Japanese or Chinese, we don’t consider Filipinos to be Asian. They are actually closer to Pacific Islanders and mixed with Malay and Spanish blood. I’ve known many Filipinos. Their family structure is a lot closer to Mexicans. They have large extended families and take their entire brood everywhere like Hispanics do. I’m totally not “jealous” of Filipinos. Most Asian culture is dominated by Confucian values. Filipino culture has been influenced by hundreds of years of Spanish colonial rule. Huge difference.
@KATESTAR… any smarter??? hahaha reflect on that a million times
@ I CAN’T SPEAK FOR YOUR IGNORANCE ANYMORE…
i am asian and i have an americn boyfriend and we both wants to get married soon… but even if how much we love each other there is a certain point that we have a problem that sometimes it is end up on being emotional we have lots of differences in all aspect but as much as possible we don’t want that to affect on our relationship.. honestly what i love about him is how he is being proud of me when he is introducing me to his friends even on his american women friends and they are all excited to see and meet me in person.. they are all friendly and sweet …thats why i am thinking that not all american woman is not like the others maybe i am just lucky that my boyfriend’s family and friends is really perfect i love them soo much as i love my fiance….. it is not about the race guys it is about what kind of People are you……
im a filipina… 17years old.. living in san diego for almost 2yrs was born and raised in the philippines.
can i ask you guys what “GOING OUT” means to you?
cuz some guys have asked me if i wanna go out with them… and i wasn’t sure what going out means and then i realized that going out means like going steady. a guy here never courts a girl here. in some cases they Do court a girl, for a day.lol
for example, if a guy here likes this girl, the guy would simply ask the girl if the girl wanna go out with him before knowing each other… and