Why American Women Don’t Like Asian Girls?
May 23rd, 2008 | 
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Any man who has dated Asian girls who live in the United States, has witnessed the wrath, jealously and prejudice of American women towards Asian girls.
The stereotypical has some merit: American women can’t compete against the Asians sexuality, American women feel threatened and some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men. These all bear some truth.
If we frequent a typical American club, I have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American lady being threatened by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just isn’t their nature. The crowds in these clubs are usually Asian girls and American men.
They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United States with their military husband. Consequently, you’ll meet Asian girls in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian girls that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful.
This unfaithfulness is how Filipina girls are branded as whores by American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians sexuality. However, there are many Asian girls who want to meet a sincere gentleman for a relationship.
As attractive as Asian girls may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found by American men in the Asian culture.
You’ll hear American men call these values traditional values because at one time these were the values that held the American family together.
In turn, these men are happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere for this appreciation.
It’s chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a better life. It’s probably true.
I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of which you are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment.
Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an Asian girl does, his appreciation is certain.
For an Asian lady, the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round with respect and love as its focal point. She wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, and she loves him for showing he appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their exceptions. There is no doubt; there are bad men in every country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the money or to get a free pass to the United States.
If a few instances define the standards, then just getting a marriage license in the United States should have a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals and mistreatment.
The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advice about how to meet and marry a woman is the United States “is there any other country whose divorce rate is higher?
The Philippines and Far Eastern countries do not condone online dating sites. For that matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women despise Asian girls. Not all American women, but a lot. But the discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media, politics and indeed in their own country.
The people, who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to be together, why the media and politician think does they know better. Take your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let us find love “even if we find it on the internet.
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BTW, to anonymous.. WE DONT ENVY AMERICAN WOMEN… geez!! ur embarassing urself too. What is it that you have for us to envy you? Because you are living in America and us in the Phils.? it never even cross our mind.. come on gurl.. Walking around at the mall with American white husband twice our age whom we love so much is NOT just gratifying but PROUD as well.. aren’t you proud when you are walking at the mall with the man you love? hmm..
I am a filipina so I know how the filipino relatives or especially women here treated a foreign women or men.. probably u were acting like a bitchy gf thats why. And probably ur bro treated that filipina badly and acting like he is the superior and that filipina is his subbordinate. Marriage is an equal relationship…, Filipina gurls will love you if your good to them but can also kick some assess if your bad to them… We will not just say “yes” to our hubby or to everyone even they are wrong already.. if thats the case its not marriage.. it is a GAME.
I am a white american girl and my fiance is chinese (from china not american born) and he and i couldnt be more happier. i love how he treats me and how he is helpful, before i never got any help from these american men who think that its the womans job to do everything. When i went to china i couldnt believe how utterly rude the women there are and how masculine they really can be, they spit on the streets, yell loudly when they speak and the dont even shave! i was so surprised because hearing from some of these american men that apparently worship these masculine figures i was blown away and in shock when i saw differently.i can understand why he doesnt want such a creature,now as for pinays, they are the ones that are stripping on cam on programs liek yahoo and cam frog. i get many messages on yahoo from pinays who are looking for money and what not and it doesnt bother them to beg for it! my best friends uncle had an experience with a horrible pinay wife. the only thing i can say is i am happy with my asian fiance and asian male/white female relationships often end up better the other way around ends up nasty!
Oh and just to clear up the whole jealousy thing, american women arent jealous of asian girls we have nothing to be jealous about.They are always the ones wanting to look more americanized and we have no desire to look like them.American women are diverse and unique and all look totally different.American girls are nobody’s door mats and we would more then likely kick you out if you cheat on us! Asian girls are different, they will put up with more and they are more naive.If you treat an american girl right she will always stick by your side, you have to be nice to them for them to be nice to you!
hello…i liked asian women before i moved to asia. i had no problem with them.. however, while there i developed the “wrath and prejudice” you talk about because of their behavior…not because they were with an american guy..i’m western girl..they were so whinny..they played so many games..they had no respect …just “appearance” respect..totally superficial..highly competitive..and extremely vindictive…they got off on causing “wrong” to other women..it was a bit sick..of course..they re a few nice ones..but in general not..but im all for them hooking up with a white guy and moving to the usa…the women still are not treated that well over there..they have to tend to their husbands parents..and a lot of sacrifice is expected of them with out being too appreciated..the work place is not equal in the higher positions…and their husbands are always getting drunk all night with their buddys in establishments where there are “paid” women…so it sucks for the wives
Well said Rianne. You are on mark when you say that a marriage is an equal partnership. I couldn’t agree more. As an American male I believe we are easily fooled into marriage by American women who learn to manipulate us into marriage, them knowing divorce is always an option. Maybe its the American way. That is when the equal partnership is no longer equal. The man always loses in one way or another. “IT IS WHAT IT IS.”
The Filipina learns at an early age divorce is not an option and has the attitude to treat their men as the head of the house hold by not being his subordinate. She offers love and respect with a caring attitude for family with genuine warmth and retains her independence from her parents and siblings.
Go Philippines
“American women are diverse and unique and all look totally different.”
Absolutely right! There are white American women, Asian American women, African American women, Jewish American women, Arab American women, Native American women, Hispanic American women, etc.
Oh dang, that’s a whole lot of anger from anonymous. I agree with rianne on this situation. Marriage should be all about equality. I would hate to marry a woman who bitches a lot and somewhat enslaves me with her demands. (especially when she won’t do the same good deeds for me) I’m also a person who believes in treating others the way that he’d like to be treated so I won’t expect for my future wife to be overly submissive either.
A lot of you are right when you say that american women can be real bitchy because of this whole “women’s rights” ordeal. I’m all for women’s rights. However, I don’t like women who are overly feminist, and by ‘overly feminist’, I mean that they embrace feminism up to the point where they become paranoid. It’s really the paranoia that repulses most men. Although women may have rights nowadays, somehow they will always feel as if they’re discriminated against no matter how much gestures of equality is given to them. There’s always the possibility that these gestures are just fake ploys to shut them up. Sometimes these gestures are fake and sometimes they aren’t so I would not fault them as much for this distrust. Overall, it’s just really a matter of paranoia over whether they feel equal to men or not.
About most Asian women, you guys are right about a lot of them being brought up with the notion of being a submissive wife. (something which bothers me a whole freaking lot) From my point of view, I really think that a good percentage of them are just passive aggressive. Most of them probably secretly agree that marriage should be about equality and not about male dominance and female slavery.
Therefore, from a whole lot of men’s points of view, it is so much easier to obtain a happy marriage from Asia because of this cultural difference. It’s way easier to teach a formerly submissive woman to speak her mind and be at your own level than it is to calm a paranoid feminist. This is why white male/ asian female relationships work out well. A lot of white guys know better that they should not be rude to their wives. (all due to their upbringing in American society) However, they are still scared away by the white woman’s paranoia which is a really great push factor. At the same time, a lot of Asian women prefer the equality that American men offer rather than the male dominance that Asian men try to shove down their throats. It’s like freaking electromagnetism.
Lastly, before anybody types flame mail to this comment, I am aware that not every white male- asian female relationship is like this. There are good people and bad people everywhere. A significant percentage of the men who marry Asian women are just sexist pigs and a real good percentage of the Asian women they marry are just freeloaders. If these two kinds of WM and AF get together, the marriage is on the road to hell. If one of each is present in a pair, the relationship is still on the road to hell. However, if two benevolent people (one good WM and a good AF) then there should be nothing to fear. There’s a roughly approximate 1 in 4 chance that the marriage will last.
Please don’t bash on all of us. I’m dating an asian girl who’s the same age as I am. We are both currently pursuing higher education and we both know that there is absolutely zero social or finacial gain available if we marry each other. Yet we’re still together despite the fact that there is no material gain from this relationship. Otherwise, I’d have been dumped long ago. This proves that not all people are in it for the money or social status. I’d hardly say that there’s any social status gained since we’re probably viewed with scorn and contempt.
As I read the thread the comparisons mentioned were in an over all attitude why American women are or are not jealous. At the risk of getting too personal I think American women should be jealous. Asian women are more sexual and sensual than any American female I have been with and there have been plenty in my lifetime. I have dated Cheerleaders, law students and hard working country girls all American. Small medium and large women who have take pride in their appearance , but there is always an underlining odor that seems to follow intercourse. Asian women by far take care of themselves and their personal hygiene far better than American women. My girlfriend will wash several times daily and always is as fresh as spring rain. It’s not all about appearence geeze American females should take better care certain areas and American men may want to visit their more often.
Guys… before u say anything about Asian women and White women… u should think first. Not all people are same situation.. And DONT EVER COMPARE RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. If u want an Asian or white women to marry its depend on how u build trust and faithful..because trust and being faithful are good foundation of LOVE…. Dont say that ALL Asians are Gold digger of course NOT.. All people have different personalities and characteristics …and those asians who did that maybe they are not professionals OR maybe because the white men spoiled them in material way just to please and love them.. ALL women want to treat in a nice way..Dont ever think that women whos only stay at home and doing household things … Women is a lifetime partner and NOT a servant.. White men think that american women jelous in asian girls …I think its not.. because some american woman want to married an Asian man bec. they feel the importance of being a woman and sincerity of Love, and have an equal treatment… I think that personalities is lack in white men thats why the percent of divorce is getting higher.
MEN… TRy to lessen ur Ego its not Good in a relationship dont think that men always is a boss…. Relationship should be GiVE AND TAKE… BE SURE THAT YOUR FEELINGS IS REAL AND NOT INFATUATION …
HAVE A NICE DAY!!!!!!
Well, I can’t speak for most asian women but we have to keep one thing in mind. We should look not at a culture but the individual. Many asian women have no desire to marry a white men until they met the right one and that right one happened to be white. We should keep in mind not to shoot everyone just because a small percentage of the asin female popluation are that way. Same with the american women. Let’s face it, there will always be a small group that makes the rest look bad.
I’m black north east african i’d never marry a white american guy simply because i’m not dealin with the family it seems to me that minorities are alot more accepting then they are maybe if he was an italian or hispanic men it would be a tad bit better but def not american white, because of the prejudice of the family aka the females are by far the worse racists they feel unnatractive as it is your indonesian you girls are flyy very good looking along with spanish and women from my country are good looking soo that tells u
i am filipina 20 years old every time i see white guy i can’t stop myself looking at him i think American man are attractive if i marry American man not only for money because they are tall,white,pointed nose,English man and we can make a beautiful babies and i don’t need to find another man because i am fully satisfied with him…and all lady’s want a comfortable life’s and good partner who can help her and love and respect her…
I’m only in favor of Asian Females and White males – both in real life and in the media – ONLY if they’re roughly balanced out by Asian male/White female couples. Otherwise I have no choice but to reject and condemn them as symptoms of a violent, oppressive, and racist legacy that stems from a history going back the colonization of Asia: only now it’s a symbolic and ideological colonization of Asians’ MINDS via Hollywood images, and not their physical countries.
Some of you here – especially the Asian girls and white guys, will scoff at my suggestion as though I was a 9 year old boy keeping score.
But this is more than about bragging rights.
I’m simply not going to let your racism (both internalized and opportunistic) consume my life, but Asian men need to put their foot down immediately so that the cycle of self-hate and opportunism (which white males and Asian females themselves can’t even see in themselves) ENDS with your generation.
In reality, the “hate” isn’t at ALL in “jealous Asian guys” – it’s in YOU, the white male and the Asian female.
And that legacy of parasitism, hate, and racial opportunism – it’s all going to die with you, on the day you take your last breath. That’s the day Asian-Americans can rest easy, knowing that white male privilege can no long slip it slimy fingers around the community.
I refuse to just sit back and let my Asian or potentially half-Asian children inherit a world where they will be passed over simply because some white chode just happens to have European blood – in school, at work, and in love. The thought of that makes my blood boil, and I’ll fight for future generations of Asian-Americans to stop this racist cycle of race-privilege – at ALL COSTS.
Without the balance, a numerically inferior ethnic community (like Asians) literally starts to fall apart at the seams. And while we haven’t been broken yet as a whole, this can only go on for so long before it reaches a breaking point.
Thankfully, East Asia is on an upward economic trajectory, and with money there’s always power. I don’t have a shred of doubt in my mind that once Asia is on top, white men will gradually be forced to make concession and take an incrementally more submissive position in the global order. And the women, in seeing this, will naturally begin to feel the draw of Asian men. Just flip the current scenario on it’s head, and you’re getting the picture.
It’s not politically correct, but after women see the money, they automatically smell the power and influence – and of course that’s the ultimate aphrodisiac for any woman above the age of 23 who has the wit to see that looks or muscles can only get her so far in her social-climb toward the top.
Furthermore, whether a given population actually HAS those “good genes” is only marginally important or relevant in creating a racialized personality cult like the “Hollywood White Boy Club”.
All you need is the capital to fund such an enterprise in Asia, and the reputation of Asian men will soar in a short time – irregardless of whether such racialized praise and adoration is deserved.
Just ask any dorky white guy in Asia who currently has no problem finding an Asian girlfriend, and you’ll know what I’m talking about. They have Hollywood to thank for their good fortune – but they should realize that they’re living on borrowed time. Heh heh.
All you have to do is take that 2-5% of men with the ‘good genes’ in Asia, and put them on TV or film, then hammer it into the brains of women all over the world – over and over and over and over again, especially from a young age – and voila: you create this cult of illusion. That’s precisely what white men have done with Hollywood! Do you honestly think that the overwhelming majority of white guys look anything like what you see on TV? Most don’t, and that’s an irrefutable fact. But Asian women are psychologically beat down and conditioned by this ‘image cult’ of the White Male to the point that they’ll shack up with any white goober or chode, as long as he’s white – this same thing will eventually happen with Asian men and women all over the world, as long as Asia continues it’s economic rise and eventually overtakes the United States in about 25 to 30 years.
So the final question is: can Asian-American hold on long enough to enjoy the corollary benefits of East Asia’s rise to the top of the global economic and political hierarchy?
These women fantasize that a White man will give them a beautiful White baby. They desperately hide from the fact that these gorgeous White children can only come from 2 White parents. We have lots of talk about White women hating Asian women, but the truth is the Asian women very much resent White women, because only you can give a White man that gorgeous White baby. In terms of truly assisting a White man in continuing his genetic lineage the White woman trumps the Asian every time, be it in looks, creativity or intelligence of the potential offspring. Asian women are furious about this and can act very cold to White women as they ogle your man. In their pathetic jealousy they willfully refuse to understand that Asian women give white men Asian babies, that white men don’t give Asian women white babies. When I was a translator I used to see far too many lost white boys in Asia who had knocked up an Asian, often by accident. They had gotten caught up in some Asian girl’s “I’m having a white baby” fantasy, which is exactly that, only a dream. The foolish guy was stuck with the awful consequences–a very Asian-looking baby, his genes barely if at all apparent. He had terminated his own genetic legacy to spawn a Mongoloid. Just as with wf/bm mixing, there are no winners in af/wm procreation, only losers, especially the poor mixed kids. Asian women need to give up these delusions that they can give birth to nordic babies by hooking up with a White man. By pushing their Asian genes into our White gene pool they only destroy the very features they so covet. They need to get some pride already and find their own men in Asia once again.
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White woman’s post is full of racist drivel. Creativity or intelligent offspring? Try the inbred whites in the south and their academic achievement and after that try the intelligence of hapas in Hawaii and California..find out who is intellectually superior. Many whites cannot say 14-4 is ten without a calcualtor. Keep the drivel to yourself, racist inbred white lady!
To cheska040489:
You are very, very superficial. OK, I’ve been reading this forum for well over a year now and I’ve seen posts from all sorts of women. Your recent post is by far the most superficial one that I’ve seen. You’ve just basically proved everybody else’s point about Asian women being such materialistic, superficial freeloaders. Marrying a person because of his looks (which are attributed to his ethnicity) is a very wrong thing to do. This also applies to marrying somebody for money or social status.
However, I commend you on “at least” having some standards pertaining to your mate’s personality. But what if an asian man has the same personality (maybe even a better one), what if it’s the same way with an arab guy, a black guy or a hispanic guy. Would you reject them simply because they’re not a “tall, white, pointed nose, English man and we can make a beautiful babies”. Please re-evaluate your standards and morals before getting into a marriage. Damn, I am so grateful that my gf does not think like you do.
To Strong Asian man:
Based on what I wrote about cheska, you are so right about the illusions of Hollywood on women. However I do not agree with the idea of Asian men being portrayed in such a way. Such brainwashing is morally wrong and if Asian men start doing the same, then they are no better than the same white guys who do this stuff already. Also, I’ve noticed that a lot of men are also brainwashed by hollywood’s portrayal of various women. (in the exact same way) Who knows, maybe it’s hollywood that has white men so attracted to Asian women nowadays.
Can’t we all just see each other for our personalities and not on racial stereotypes. Every existing racial stereotype is very damaging to at least one person in the group that’s being stereotyped. Your preferred username “Strong Asian man” makes me assume that you’re a victim of the stereotype that Asian men are weak and effeminate. Maybe this makes it ever more difficult for you to attract any woman. On the other hand, I’m a victim of the stereotype that black guys are muscular, athletic and dangerous to be fighting with. I can’t even harm a fly yet people are afraid of me based on some myth. In terms of my personality and physical strength, I fit the wimpy white and/or Asian nerd stereotype more than anything. This just proves how damaging stereotyping can be. It prevents people from getting to know each other for who they are.
Wow, white woman. You are so racist it’s ridiculous. You make a lot of smart ass comments about the intelligence of Asian women and the genetics of their babies, yet it is you who is showing true ignorance.
oh people, you are so simple.
we asian dont act cold to you american (note the american) girls. blame the stupid american men for making you feel that way.
im asian, born in asia, and i now live in america. im a minority, thus i would get less chances of hooking up with an asian guy because there are more american guys to hook up with. now if you american women are in asia, more likely you’d date an asian guy because there are so many of them.
and to all you pathetic asian women who married guys twice their age: please stop. this is a form of slavery and dependency. if you want to make some money, go work hard, apply to school, get a scholarship, study abroad. dont just sit there in front of the computer for hours and hours each day hoping you’d get to chat with american men.
and as for you angry little american women, we are the same yet very different in some aspect, some of us are bitchy and some of us are plain doormats. not all of us asian women would take old american men crap. and sugar daddies are global too.
dear cheska who was born on april 4 1989, get some help. and probably look up dominant genes on the internet too while you’re still online.
After my last wife died almost 4 years ago I was devastated.I came home to find her dead of a sudden heart attack. I was shattered. We were married almost 14 years and happily so.A year later I tried dating. I even sent one lady flowers..only to find out that she was cheating on a boyfriend. The florist told me that the boyfriend was home when the flowers arrived. Anyway..a few months later I met my wife to be. She is from mainland China and is as sweet as could be. We were just married in September 2009. I bring her flowers just because..I sing to her..I buy her little simple gifts like a card or a little stuffed animal. When I am with her at home I pick her up and hold her in my arms and kiss her. We go for walks holding hands and listen to soft music at home.She is the love of my life.American girls cannot hold a candle to her and never will…..as my wife appreciates me and lets me know as I let her know the same and always will.