Why American Women Don’t Like Asian Girls?
May 23rd, 2008 | 
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Any man who has dated Asian girls who live in the United States, has witnessed the wrath, jealously and prejudice of American women towards Asian girls.
The stereotypical has some merit: American women can’t compete against the Asians sexuality, American women feel threatened and some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men. These all bear some truth.
If we frequent a typical American club, I have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American lady being threatened by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just isn’t their nature. The crowds in these clubs are usually Asian girls and American men.
They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United States with their military husband. Consequently, you’ll meet Asian girls in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian girls that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful.
This unfaithfulness is how Filipina girls are branded as whores by American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians sexuality. However, there are many Asian girls who want to meet a sincere gentleman for a relationship.
As attractive as Asian girls may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found by American men in the Asian culture.
You’ll hear American men call these values traditional values because at one time these were the values that held the American family together.
In turn, these men are happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere for this appreciation.
It’s chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a better life. It’s probably true.
I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of which you are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment.
Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an Asian girl does, his appreciation is certain.
For an Asian lady, the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round with respect and love as its focal point. She wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, and she loves him for showing he appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their exceptions. There is no doubt; there are bad men in every country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the money or to get a free pass to the United States.
If a few instances define the standards, then just getting a marriage license in the United States should have a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals and mistreatment.
The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advice about how to meet and marry a woman is the United States “is there any other country whose divorce rate is higher?
The Philippines and Far Eastern countries do not condone online dating sites. For that matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women despise Asian girls. Not all American women, but a lot. But the discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media, politics and indeed in their own country.
The people, who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to be together, why the media and politician think does they know better. Take your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let us find love “even if we find it on the internet.
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Some Asian women subscribed to the Pinkerton syndrome (where Asian women look up to Caucasian men and think the world of them), and some don’t. Sure, there will always be some who marry to get a better life. However, with Asian and East Asian countries like Taiwan, Singapore, Hong Kong, and even China growing faster economically compared to the western world, this phenomenon of marrying “up and out” will eventually be a history. In fact, increasing we sees Western men marrying Asian women and choosing to stay in Asia.
Its not only money or a greencard and visa in the UNITED STATES that a FILIPINA like me wants.. Its what we called UNCONDITIONAL love.. that the white men can give to a filipina,,, they are not a demanding type ( SOME) .. A filipina is a sincere, loyal to her partner even if its American, Japanese, Indian and other race..
Filipina respect he partner and love him to the rest of her life……..
There’s one thing I find a bit suspicious. I seem to recall various Filipinos who seemed to if anything, ‘avoid’ the labeling of Asian. These were mostly Filipinos as in of course ‘males’. They always seem to want to separate themselves from any notion that they would have any relation to the typical Asian as one normally thinks (Japanese, Chinese, the basic Orient). However, with the advent of the internet, and a broader public acclaim from White men claiming to ‘love Asian women’, it seems ‘Filipinas’ are far more quick to jump on the ‘Asian woman’ bandwagon.
I am a young, sweet and pretty Filipina and I always find it attracted to American white. I do believe that not all Filipina marry Americans in pursuit for a better living cuz if it did, I would have just settled for a Filpino man here considering the fact that I am already financially stable in my job. Personally, I want to marry an American because I have a strong feeling that I am secured with them that no Filipino man can give to me in all aspects and forms.
What an excellent article.
As an Englishman I don’t have a great deal of experience dating Women from the far east as I met my partner (she is thai) and have never looked back since and I hope we are together until death do us part. We complement each other perfectly. She allows me to be a male in the relationship and she is the female (which I adore about her and as a result will do anything to protect her and make sure she is happy) – now before you all jump down my throat, this does not mean ‘she knows her place’ or is chained to the kitchen – far from it, to make her unhappy would crush me, its just that she knows how to complement my male side and bring out the knight in shinning armor. I could not find this before.
I looked for this magic for 35 years in women from my own country and luck did not find me – I found the common thread was that she would want to be both the male and the female in the relationship – whereas I expected to adopt only more female traits.
Now I get a lot of my friends (well to do 30 year old males) asking me for an introduction to my partners friends or sisters after seeing what a pot of gold I have found and how happy I am now.
For the record as well folks – she has more money then me and we plan to live together in Asia and have lots of babies!
I know that your article is 100% true. When I left Clark Air Base with my bride and son, only my male friends and immediate family welcomed her to the USA. I would get looks and comments from American women, but I learned to ignore them. Now years later I am going to bring a new bride back from the Philippines and who is the number one objector? American women (who are all divorced) They say only bad things about them, very sad, because my woman makes me happy, and I expect to remain married forever, now that I have learned to share my feelings. Give her my love uncondionally
Great article!@!
I’m a Western woman and I beg to differ that I can’t compete sexually with Asian girls. I would rock your world if we were a couple. Maybe you should give redheads a chance too!!
Also Asian girls: date whoever you want. If white guys make you happy then go for it!! I don’t care. There aren’t enough happy marriages in this world and if being with a white man makes you happy then I could never dream of doing anything but encouraging that. Vice Versa to you Western men. I don’t like what this article says about Western girls being all jealous because I don’t fit into ANY of the generalizations it’s made.
Damzn…good article but wouldn’t it make sense to not tell western women to back off? That just sounds tooo immature. We know that most Asian men rejects asian women who married western men too? Acting just like the Western Women who views western men marrying asian. For the most part, I think Asian women are sex object in the western men’s eyes. Once the sex is no good, he is free to drop the ball and left the lady hanging…I’ve seen too many of them. Remember the movie Full Metal Jacket…”…me so horny…me long you long time” that’s the mindset that’s fed to American men…which makes SEX is the number one tight reason why they want Asian women. Because their petite body provide the best pleasure and their submissive personality….what a sick world we all come to…
I agree with the article. Every woman in this universe wants the best for themselves. Whether it be in Asia or in America, but there is no doubt that there are women out there who only want free access into the country. All I am saying is for the rest of those woman who are still loyal and true to themselves. They come here for a better opportunity, a better life and they will take that for granted, not take advantage of it. Husbands are husbands where ever you go, they are still your husband regardless of the color of their skin. They will still love and respect their husbands the same way. There is not a single soul who doesn’t want to have the perfect marriage, the perfect family, and the perfect life.
If you fall in love with an American man regardless of the color of his skin, and you love him. You too are as righteous as any other woman in this world. It’s not to say that women are not bad, there are woman who take advantage of it, because it’s something better, but there’s a few of those in every ethnicity.
I’m filipina and I’ve never had an “american” woman look at me with disdain, which I’m assuming you mean white woman. My best friend is white. Of course, I also am American born and raised so culturally speaking, I don’t really differ that much other than looks. I think alot of the filipinas that marry for passports, are the reason why there is some animosity, not because of race.
They marry the guy then they dump him a couple of years later.
I have seen so many americans here in the Philippines and 90% of them are consist of the following:
OLD american guys ages 50-80
Bald
big fat belly
Retired living in a pention
divorce
UGLY
This are the guys that cant get laid in the states even if they pay for it.
unlike america there are more women than men in the philippines. The ratio is 6 women to 1 men.
The Filipinas that they marry are:
Short- less than 5’2
either Thin or fat but both short
Dark skin
flat nose
UGLY
In short the girls who are destined to be single for the rest of there life if they dont go for american men.
The reality is
Ugly American + Ugly Filipina
= makes a Jessica Alba look a like baby
In My opionion and I dont mean to judge ..just telling the reality. No one should be jealous because we are getting your scraps from america and you are getting ours. In the end every body is happy and they make good looking babies toos.
this is a great article! i agree that there are some american women who look down on asian women (like me) but still, i know a lot who are sincerely friendly. i don’t think you can generalize it because as in every culture or race, there are a lot of differences in opinion. i think its also unfair to the american women to do that. at the same time i believe it’s not right that filipinas should be known as just women who marry western men so that they can have their visa and citizenship. to some, yes, they might have done that but i believe there is more to it than just that reason. an american man might have wanted a filipina because of her giving and caring ways. and in our side, we like foreigners because they expect equality and so, we feel that we can also be given the love and care that we long for . and when we do something for them which is normal to us but is more than what they expected, it is doubly appreciated.
as for the issue regarding filipinas having to work in america or other countries, i admire them because it takes courage and strength to go to a foreign place (esp by herself) and work hard away from their families especially their children just to give their kids a better opportunities in life. can you imagine only having to see your kids once or twice a year? to have them grow up and you are not even there? it is such a big sacrifice. i think it’s even harder being in the US because when you get home from work, you are still the one who has to cook, do chores and such while in the philippines a middle-income family can have at least 1 or 2 housekeeper/s because labor is cheaper there.
it might be hard for all cultures to get along well, but i wish we could all give and receive respect.
I’m a Filipina and I’m married to a very fine american guy. I never knew I would marry a white till I found him. I met a lot though. They were my friends. I got to know him and we dated for periods of time. Until he decided to propose. I told him about issuse like what have been discussed in the article…like Filipinas just want a better future, they want money or they need a visa to the US. I told him that it’s a false generalization. Maybe some do. But, I definitely don’t. I’m a professional. I graduated and I even have a license. Most people think that white guys choose nannies or low class women as wives… but, I’m not. some are not. I’m 22 when I got married and my husband was 25. So, we were young then and we still have so many options. My husband could have chosen to date someone in his country but chose to be with me…he travelled many times to be with me. It was tough for a young man like him to date and marry someone from my country. It’s too much pain in the pocket. But, he said, he would not want to spend his money any other way.
We got married after a year of dating. We’re happily married and our differences just make our relationship more interesting and exciting. I proved to him that not all Filipinas are like what most american women think.
even the military knows that asian women want to come to America and when they find out that the Soldier is not rich like the Hollywood Movie Stars once they get here they dump them break their hearts and our government pays for them to go to school. This why the military discourages these relationships.
This Mom says stay with your own kind and leave my son alone.
To be honest if a guy is enough of a fool to get scammed by an overseas girl he is just as likely to get taken for a ride and ripped off by a good ole home backed american ‘his own kind’ girl he is also entitled to half his livelyhood.
Please stop referring to Whites as American. You can say, European woman, as opposed to Asian women, or simply Caucasian women. You keep sayin American women, and you could be talking about Asian women when you say that.
I’m Asian and I am 100% American . . . duh!!!
I’m sorry but you’re way ahead of yourself.
I’m a white man and I find asian women to be repulsive looking. And the fact that they try everything in their power to have Caucasian women physical traits doesn’t make them look any better. Small eyes, boyish figures, too short, annoying voices. And they all look the same.
The only guys that are crazy about asian women are the geeks that can’t get any other girls.
Seriously, why are people saying that they prefer a spouse whose white, asian, hispanic, brown, black, native american, etc. If you’re looking for somebody to be with and have unconditional love, (that is independent of physical appearance, money, material things and lust) you should not care about that person’s race or ethnicity. But here’s my question to all of the Fillipinas and American men (I’m not American) who say that they want to date Asians/ whites for their personality and equality.:
If you came across another bloke who had these same personality traits, (but they were in your ethnicity or one different from Asian or white) would you still accept him/her? I completely understand why you’d prefer to date an Asian girl/ white bloke because certain groups of people on average share a common mentality (although there is a moderately wide standard deviation) and you may not like that average mentality. But it’s not good to reject a person because of their race or to like a person because of their race. So would you date a low-standard white/asian?
I’m a multi-racial bloke in my mentality and I do not conform to any single one. (although I steer far away from African American/ black culture which is very ridiculous and low-standard) If I were an organic molecule, I’d have many resonance structures with the African American traits being the minor contributor. I find it surprising to hear that Asian women (from East Asia) like non- Asian guys and I’ve always thought that the few couples who are seen were just rare cases. (and going by the large Asian population, the rare cases are noticeable) Anyway, my problem is that I’m always being given the third degree whenever I try to find a mate who I am compatible with and I think that it’s always race-related to some extent. (when it should be zero)
Moral of story: People who have strict preferences for a certain race should not be miffed if a bloke from that race has preferences that do not include you. I can guarantee that you will feel like a waste of atoms.
the white men go to us because we treat them the way a man/husband should be treated. we know our place as women and the white women constantly cry about material things like i want shoes, i want a haircut, i want a 400 dollar purse, i want makeup, i want this”. and american women secretly think they need to get a guy ‘wrapped around their fingers’ and try to take advantage. american women try way to hard, are way too competitive and i know this from conversations with my husband who is white and many friendly conversations with caucasian acquaintances. white women can continue their jealousy, it won’t get them the good white guys because the good guys go to the beautiful asian women who they find ‘exotic’ and ‘sexy’.
Actually asian chikk there are quite a few varieties of relationships (including white guy/asian girl) where the girl is constantly demanding that he buy her designer goods. It really depends on the individual.
This isn’t a competition to see whose race makes a better spouse. Comments like yours that are vicious and generalizing only cause further deterioration in a world that is already characterized by tense racial conflict and prejudice.
There is no need to go to a great effort to try and prove that Asian women can compete with white women or this group of women is superior than that group of women. When I see people who are so outspoken about their own race/group’s supposed superior qualities I have to wonder if they aren’t doing it because they secretly harbor inferiority complexes and are overcompensating.
I feel that if a person is truly confident in who they are and what group they belong to, they do not feel the need to let everyone know how superior their group is.
Relax. There is no need to feel threatened.
As a white American woman I certainly don’t. I don’t get upset or jealous when I see white men with asian women (or women of any ethnicity) because I just don’t care.
And by the way I am very good to my man, and I buy every single one of my material possessions on my own (and even some of his!) He’s even been engaged to an Asian girl before me but had to break it off because she was just too selfish and manipulative. Good and bad relationships come in all shapes and sizes. And selfish bitchy women can be found in every race and culture.
asian women are looking for american men for an easy life and money. They run the show. American men who have a bad relationship with an american women go running thinking it will be better and easier with a trusting family oriented asian women, surprise surprise. Hope you dumb american saps have the money it takes to keep your litter asian women.
Who are asian women kidding, they marry american men, have at least one kid(so child support will be available for the future), get their citizenship to bring the rest of their family over here and get a divorce 5yrs later and take half of everything the poor american sucker owns. All these women have their friends are asian with american husbands and all striving to screw more american men.
These pathetic american guys think asian women are honest, non cheating, family oriented women and do not believe in divorce, hate to tell you a women is a women no matter what nationality. women cheat and so do men in all nationalities, wake up and smell the coffee honey.
I’m Black/white and honestly, pussy is pussy. it’s person and personality the pussy is attached to that matters.
I like asian women for their tightness. Tight and little mmm.
I like asian women because it is simply a change. Too, America has no morals, so piss on the whole lot. I do not want my kids reared by an American whore with aspirations of wealth and fame, black nor white.
You go to work, you pay your bills, everybody in the house is eating, healthy and getting educated and the asian woman appreciates you and loves your brains out when you get home. The American woman bitches because she ain’t got more or because you asked her to clean her tampons out of the bathroom trashcan…whoops, did I say thot out loud?
I will die alone, rather than have a relationship or kids with an American woman. Yeah, Lisa, I am like the guy in The Italian job and the dogs…I had a bad experience, bad enough to burn any sympathy for American women right out of my brain. So, go be equal, tell me how you ain’t going to be told shit by no man.
Be happy, die childless and alone. No one cares.
Long, obsidian hair, almond eyes, gold to mohagany skin, and voices like crystal windchimes in the breeze, and they actually WANT KIDS, what is not to like?
Besides, LOL, guys who get burned generally go looking for girlfriends who will screw their brains out on night one and then get surprised when she ain’t faithful. A stranger flies halfway around the world to meet some woman, she sleeps with him in the first week, and she turns out to be unfaithful. Well, duh. You only deserve laghter and derision, not sympathy.
Good luck with that being the same as men thing. I will chooe somene who is a Lady, myself.
Caveat: I am not entirely unsympathetic to the dozen or so good women left in the States Most Ameican men work 8 hours a day and then come home, hit the lazyboy with the built in remote and act as though they have put in a full day’s effort while sucking the equity out of the house to pay for his toys. Maybe the bad moon rising right now will get them both to wake up. I doubt it.
Jon, you are an idiot.
What you said in your post is so blatantly stupid and untrue as to make me wonder if you are not actually a woman posing as a man to make a point.
Then again you may be a male posing as a man, so ain’t much difference. You are probably one of those males who demands benefits from the government because you cannot compete on your own, LOL.
Tom,
its a free country and you can do whatever you want. In my experience when I have come in contact with asian women it has been always the same. I have worked with many asian women in Florida and now again in another state. My sister in law is asian. My fiancee was married to one and it is always the same, all about the money honey,green card and running the show. They have a stack of relatives living in a two bedroom apartment, they love cash, they will do anything whoever to get ahead. All these asian women I know are married to white american men who are so pussy whipped and are the minorities at their little parties. The women actually look for other single american men to hook their friends up to bring them over from Asia.
My fiance brought one over from Asia and after 5yrs of marriage, a citizenship,and a kid(guaranteed child support or rent) she left him and now is married to her asian high school sweetheart who she brought over on a fiance visa who now has a green card and they are a happy little family. Initially it was all about how “asian women are all about family and don’t believe in divorce”. Hmm funny that an american citizenship and easy money made her think of her asian lover. She never worked a day in 5yrs but walked away with half his house,child support and his retirement. Not bad for playing house for 5yrs years with an american man. Now she is living life with her asian husband with 50k cash in her pocket, our welfare system put her through school and paid for everything so she can get a college education and make 60k per year. Boy what a deal.
So white american men you get spurned and swear off american women to marry asian because they are about family, etc.. well guess what a women is a women and every nationallity has bad ones that will screw you but all the asian women I know are about the money and using their man to get ahead regardless of consequences. I am sure there are asian women happily married and love their spouse and are not looking for a citizenships, easy money, etc.. I just haven’t met one yet. Its your life and its a free country. Asian women can do as they please also.
I’m a professional woman and I have had 2 very bad experiences with loser white american men,supporting them, paying for everything, cooking,cleaning,etc and guess what brush yourself off and try again or live alone and love it.
Tim,
The tampon ex sounds like a horrifying crazy bitch. I’m embarrassed to be a part of the same culture/country as her. And yes I agree with you, having kids with a girl like that is a bad idea. In fact I pity society if she EVER has any kids.
While there are some major problems with American culture, American women only deserve half the blame. I’ve about had it with American boys (except my wonderful man of course). They all seem so emasculated, pussy-whipped, and lazy. None of them are real men who have any strength of character. Don’t even try to tell me that it’s the feminists’ fault. If American boys were real men to begin with, they would never have allowed themselves to be dominated and cowed the way they have.
As the exception to the rule, my man believes what he believes , allows his masculinity to show, and expects mature behavior from me (and I from him) regardless of what anyone might say.
While yes, there are a lot of nasty spoiled american girls giving american boys a hard time…its a two way street and those little pussy american boys are the ones allowing themselves to get all taken advantage of and butt-hurt over and over again in their relationships rather than standing up for themselves and tolerating no childish behavior.
So the point is, I have a lot of grievances with American men the same way many of you seem to have issues with American women and I’d love to see more American men grow a pair.
Ok Im in the military, I married a filipina. Weve been married for 1 year and 1 month. We have a 4month boy. I will tell you this, I would NEVER go after a another american woman. My wife treats me like i treat her, I mean do you actually get that with american girls? Im 23, and so is she. I’ve had my shares of american women. And no thanks. Yeah there are some really great american girls. but s**t, there gold diggers too. My wife has NEVER asked me for a dime. So i dont know what asians you all are finding, but there are good ones and bad ones JUST LIKE AMERICAN GIRLS!! Its just if you can find them.. and I found one.. a great one, I’ve been to the philippines 2 times for 30 days each visit it was both times staying with my wife and her family, not girl hunting. I will be going back next month for 15days, and i ‘ll tell you what its the best time ever. dont dis filipinas intil you’ve actually been there and see how they have to live day to day, i”ll tell you what you would look at your drinking water different, you would be so lucky you have that SIMPLE pleasure in your house. But whatever if your married to flip. (thats what i call my wife jokingly.Love her and she’ll love you. To the rest of you that dont like asains, go find an american girl, … and im sorry…
I have been thinking about this quite a lot since the comments here are sent to my email address.
Myself I am not American (I am a Brit) and also not female, so I may not best placed to answer the Original question. However, a question I believe I can answer though is why more Western guys are getting it together with Asian Women which then in turn become strong family units.
Here are my perceptions (wrongly or rightly for you to decide)….
1. Asian Women seem easier to approach.
• I find that Asian Women are much easier to approach. If they do not find you attractive, they will let you know in a more subtle, kind manner and help the male ‘save face’ (if you don’t know about ‘not losing face’ in Asian culture then learn about it), if you don’t know how brittle the male ego is then just look at the lengths we will push to restore it. This does not mean that she won’t put someone offensive or gross into the dog house (some of the girls can be tough when needed and very far from the delicate flower image shown in the media).
• Most Western women (granted, not all) can be very harsh in how they let a male suitor know they are not interested to the point of shaming the poor guy in front of her friends or by just giving him a aggressive, stern look. I have had this and seen it happen to numerous friends. It gets to the point that you really do lose interest yourself. To add to all of this I have western girlfriends who now complain that men just don’t come up and talk to them anymore, whilst they stand around with their friends in bar with the backs acing outwards like the wagons are circled. On the whole Asian women have a less defensive persona and I personally feel a lot more comfortable starting a conversation with an Asian girl then a lot of western girls (I may be wrong, but ‘burnt fingers’ experience has burnt this into my consious mind). Even Kim’s Marlboro man will tire of this behavior eventually, us ‘healthy’ guys deep down don’t like tests or confrontation as its hardwired as a fight or flight danger.
2. The family is more important in Asian culture.
• An Asian Women (Asian society on the whole even) is more likely to see the family as one unit rather then a group of separate individuals. Everyone has there place and duty in the family and males duty is clearer then in Western relationships where it has become more abstract and ever changing.
• Asian Women on the whole are quite happy to be the ‘Mother’ of the family in the more tradition view that has predominantly existed in human society. She is happy to be the sole carer for the Children and run the household with the Male being the sole provider. She does not feel ‘chained down’ or ‘restricted’ its the framework which glues society together. She will also have a large existing family structure to provide support.
Kim,
Don’t disagree with you on any particular point. I agree that 90% of American males are whipped from any number of viewpoints.
Yell sexism or racism or intolerance or whatever and one group or the other will immediately cower in fear of lawsuits and ask for sensitivity classes rather than jail time and fines.
Whether it is preferring to WATCH sports from a lazyboy as they pack on the beer bellies to actually PLAYING sports to blaming women and feminists for their woes, “Honey? Can I be charge today? No, dear, Cosmo says I have to act as an empowered woman or you won’t respect me. Hmmm…the plumbing no longer works like it used to, I want a divorce,” the American male now, same as women, wants the government to manage their lives and their expectations in life. Sickening.
I guess my turning point was my fourth not quite relationship after my divorce. Over dinner she proceeded to start laying out how the relationship was going to run because her ex was such a this and that. I called for the check and told her I could take home or she could call a cab. I realized that screw everybody, even the entire planet if they didn’t like it, I was going to call how my life is lived with no nods whatsoever to what society did or did not approve of and that meant I wanted a woman who wanted me as I WAS, not some freaky metrosexual supposed sensitive male.
As for American men growing a pair, didn’t they pass a law against it? LOL. I guess mine makes me an outlaw.
See, being nice to an American woman almost never pays off in my experience. They do not understand simple human kindness (I mean, hellfire, look at the abortion rate in this country for a baseline reading of the value of human kindness or the mindset of motherhood here.) They prefer the badboy to sleep with because he is exciting and then, after he has beaten her brains out one time too many, they want the nice guy to protect them. Sorry, you gals are on your own…I have busted m knuckles in your defence for the last time.
American society is laughable on so many issues, feminism, consumerism (don’t save, SPEND!, BORROW!…idiots), dropping testosterone levels in western men, rising depression levels in the female sector and suicide rates amongst kids, bailoutism….nah, I am checking out. I know what I need to retire and when I got it, I am returning to the farmlands. CYA!
Since I am an American MAN who wants his kids to be reared by a woman with the same viewpoints as I have about how life is to be lived, I will look elsewhere for a wife and companion as well as a place to wind up when I retire. One with whom I can live with on a lot less than I earn and one who understands that the damn kids do not need $150 tennis shoes no matter how much money I make.
American women are entirely entitled to live as they see fit. They will do it without influence on me or mine for as long as I am able to prevent it even if it means I no longer live in what was once a Constitutional, representative republic
Thanks for supporting my viewpoint. I am sincerely glad you found a good one. I wish you as many happy kids as you like. God knows someone needs to rear decent American kids for the future because it will not be me nor mine if I can help it.
Guys, anytime you want to get made a little stronger in your decision to marry outside your country, watch either the Real Housewives of Atlanta or Orange County. Look at the wives, look at the kids, look at your best friends’ marriages in light of those shows (they are reflections of what society wants to see, yes?), and then look at your buds with asian wives.
I know when I went to the Philippines for a while, I have been homesick ever since.
Tim
Well, my Chinese boyfriend treats me better than any America man did…hmmm. He said he’s tired of Asian girls: “All they want is money”. His dates would grill him relentlessly on how much money he made and whether or not he had his own apartment and car.
Meanwhile I, a white American girl, never once asked about any of that [and nor do I care]. He loves me for who I am and I love him for who he is.
And when we’re out, do we get some nasty looks from the expat guys [I live in China]. They are so rude. Some British guy came up to us and said “oh, you realize all those Chinks got small willies, eh?” apparently assuming my boyfriend didn’t speak English. I’ve never wanted to pee on a grown man until that moment.
In summary, Asian girls: take the white guys! Take them! Enjoy! And I’ll live happily ever after with my own Asian sweetheart. ^_^
Edit: I meant “American man”. Can’t type tonight.
Tim,
You’ve totally got me on the whole lawsuit point. Actually I have personal experience with the men in my life being railroaded into quitting jobs or unfairly terminated because they weren’t the “freaky metrosexual sensitive male”. There was NO sexual harassment or inappropriate behavoir of any kind, but the these guys were up against catty female coworkers who had nothing of value going on their lives so they had to create new drama to keep occupied and a system already so biased against men that they had no chance. It was horrible and so unfair. I work in an office now with about 14 guys and I am the only girl along with one other (who is not american incidentally). It is the best job I’ve ever had.
It seems like you’ve made your decision to stay away from American women based on a lifetime of experiences. I actually would probably do the same if I were a guy and in your shoes. I never thought I’d say that.
I must admit that I my studies involve Asia and I’ve spent a siginificant amound of time living in Japan. I was jealous at first because I felt worthless because I was ignored by all these western men who only wanted asian chicks. But I’ve gotten over myself and love life in asia. If I am ever single again I will definatey be down with dating asian men (if any of them are interested) because many are very attractive and in the past my Japanese male friends have been very kind.
When you talked about returning to the farmlands a lot of what people are saying here made more sense to me. I’m from the farmlands and I love the life. One of my big fears right now is that my guy and I will settle together and he will move me away from Montana to the city. I don’t encounter the kind crazy psycho overly-domineering american females described by so many guys here. Maybe they exist more in the big cities? It just seemed at first like all the guys here were whining…but maybe some have more valid points of referrence than I originally thought.
Life in my state is a lot like life in America 30-40 years ago. I feel like an old maid because I am the only one of all my female relatives not to have married, settled down, and had 2-3 kids (and I’m in my early 20s!)
Anyway, good luck to everyone in finding happy relationships with solid and caring partners!
Kim:
Thanks so much for your comment.
Lots of white guys like asian girls simply because they are different. Kara’s comment on an expat is not without merit. There are more than a few expats in various places that, feeling so worthless here, feel a need to put down asian men wherever they wind up.
Seems like a stupid thing to do to me. Like I told a fellow who thought he was gifted, if she is only with you because of the equipment, she is always on the lookout for someone who is a bigger operator…kind of like the retard men that go to strip bars and stare at women who have had operations and can barely walk upright because of the load.
What he said was incredibly rude and unfair and I for one am sorry you had to go through that. He probably has a weenie willie himself so I would put it out of my head because the man is too stupid to understand the insult if your WERE to actually pee on him.
I just happen to like smart, good hearted, petite, pretty women who want kids with just a touch of fire…a description which many Asians fit and most Americanas do not.
I am also fortunate enough to have realized that this society controls us by what we are afraid to lose. This epiphany came right after I realized that not one single THING I have ever worked overtime for, saved for, or done without for gave me any kind of the satisfaction i thought it would. The best things are a nap on friday evening with the fan running and the thunder booming, cranking out pages on a laptop in a swing chair at the botanical gardens, or carb loading on Ramen noodles.
Anyways, thanks Kim and sorry to Kara. That Brit is probably shunned by most other expats, too.
If white women weren’t so stupid and didn’t let black people convince them that they should hate themselves. and didn’t go out tanning, filling there lips with botox, acting black, and stop thinking that black men are perfect and can do no wrong because there ex slaves. they think that the black man gave them freedom. no you need to understand that in america and europe women of all races have more freedom then any were else in the world. and it just so happens the white devil as we are called own and operate these countries. and these white men created documents that say all men are created equal and liberty and justice for all. those are the words that martin luther king spoke. these words came from a white mans mind. and that’s what changed your mind for ever and don’t forget it! you have the choice to hate white man. just like we have the choice to love asian women!!! got it?
Mike:
Dude, do not let these women get to you man. Let them go. You don’t want them anyway. The ones that think black men are so perfect are generally silly anyways the same way some redneck men think a woman with big breasts are hot no matter what those breasts are attached to. Think about it, even assuming the myths were true, would you want a woman who measured men this way? I don’t think so. Besides, I was a prison guard for a while. The myths are not true, everything averages out. Besides, it is just people seeking out something that is different. In this case it is often nothing more than wanting to piss daddy off.
I also think it is funny that some of my black friends steer clear of white women after dating a couple or three. I just laugh at them and say, “See? Told you.”
Put those women out of your head and let them go their own way. Their children will grow up as wards of the state one way or the other not because of their race, but because of the culture they have chosen to embrace, what with its violence, dependency on the state, and ostracizing those who do well academically.
My choice of asian women is not just an appearance thing. It is their culture AND the fact that they encourage their kids to be educated in my experience.
“Why American Women Don’t Like Asian Girls?”
You mean white women? Because they want pure white Aryan babies and fewer mixed babies in this world and more white men dating white women means fewer potential mates and fewer pure white Aryan babies.
Nah…the sisters (sistahs?) are just as hateful to the issue. Lots of black women date white professional men, too, just in order to hook up with someone who is as educated as themselves.
The disparity in education between black men and black women has always been a puzzling thing to me.
Snide remarks I hear come from both black and white women.
Weird. Why would they care so much about who other guys date? For the most part many American women wouldn’t give most of the guys who like to date asian girls the time of day anyway. I think they just want to be the most desired women by all guys, but wouldn’t consider actually dating most them. Or if they did they would expect to guy to feel privileged and lucky.
I think that is a tendency in almost all girls. I definitely catch myself becoming very offended when a male acquaintance says something which may possibly be construed as him not being very attracted to me. Then I catch myself and wonder “why do I even care if he is or isn’t attracted to me. we would never work out together anyway. Is he even obligated to find me attractive.”
It’s definitely a natural tendency among women (or maybe its just rich and pampered women) to come to expect that all men must find them desirable and to bring righteous punishment on men who don’t.
It’s a privilege, not a right, to be considered desirable.
“and more white men dating white women means fewer potential mates and fewer pure white Aryan babies.”
I meant more white men dating Asian women..and yes if more white men date Asian women, most of the US will start looking like Hawaii.
money and sex are the most important thing in this life. Without money a human won’t survive and without sex human species won’t survive. It just that in this current time best money come from american and best sex come from asian. men like sex, women like money, so most of happy marriage come from asian/american marriage…
LOL, Kim, it is just not true that American women wouldn’t give American men who prefer Asians the time of day. That actually made me laugh out loud.
As for Johnny’s remark that women only want money and men only want sex? Dude, I cannot believe you actually wrote that in a public forum. I feel badly for you because of the glasses you must see the world through. Sadly, most Americans see life that way.
Money and sex are the least important things in life. I myself am looking for the girl who is looking for me, for the one that were she to be wheelchair bound, I would rather sit with her and hold her hand more than be with any other physically whole woman on the planet.
You live a lonely life, I am sure.
Oh ok.
That was just my guess. glad I could make you laugh at least : )
Hay Tim, Kim is right about one thing…..white women do have a fear that asian women will take there place as the most desired women! and Johnny , is also correct in saying that money and sex is driving most of interest of asian women wanting to marry white men. lets not kid our selves! ask your self this.. if you were a young white man in a third world county with no way of taking care of you and your family. and a fat ugly women from Japan came to you and said she would take care of you and your family if you marry her….what would you do?
oh yea! and as fare as American asian women go…. I couldn’t tell you… because I don’t make enough money for them to even acknowledge my existence!!!
I guess it is just that I am 46 and since I was 39, I have dated women of all stripes and shades since I got divorced, ranging in ages from 20 to 42. Oddly, maturity of thought seems somewhat disconnected from actual age. I did not realize so many are driven just by the things they can accumulate, emotion never even entering into their choices. Age nor race has a lot to do with that.
Many American men are slackers and many American women are golddiggers This is a BAD combination.
Do I want my daughters to have no consideration as to how well a man could provide for her? Pretty stupid not to do so if you ask me. The fellows who argue that Asian women are just after money are insecure about their ability to make a living. I have no problems with the issue because 1) I make a good living and 2) it is my MY JOB to make a good living for my family.
As to whether I would marry a rich Japanese fat ugly woman if I could not make a good living? Well, if you cannot make a good living why would you get married at all? Women have a right to support from their husbands and those who act as though they do not are simply not reading from the same playbook as I.
You do not have a right to drag someone else into your poverty just because you have an itch to scratch and if more men would focus on establishing themselves and their ability to provide, then perhaps we would not have the tension we have in this country with regards to marital financial stress and doubts.
I am indeed determined never to marry an American woman. This decision is not the fault of women, though. It is the result of the decisions of men who came before me who have turned my country into a nation of whiners and complainers who march in the street demanding all sorts of benefits from the government instead of going to work and building something. Also, Americans see themselves as individuals in a search for individual happiness, while children are an afterthought. I see myself as a man in seach of woman to build a family with and my happiness depends on the success of that family. It kind of changes the pic of the woman I am in search of. She may or may not look good in a bikini (lots of men’s brains turn off at the sight of a snug bikini bottom, LOL.)
There is no guarantee I will succeed in forging a new family out of whole cloth with a traditional asian woman, certainly. There is almost a certainty of failure with an American woman who was reared int his country under NOW, the liberals, and this idea that all things flow from the state.
Hope all are well and hope you find what you are looking for.
I like all people and don’t care about the race as long as they are good people.
In my mind, white girls are really attractive and beautiful!
So, let’s like each others!!! Don’t hate asian girls!!!
i never thought it’s true until today. I met an American girl who are so bitch! She made me face the terrible thing. And when I told American guy who work with her. She just said she didn’t do that. What the f_ck!
I could’t believe it.
Don’t judge all the people just by someone. Anywhere has the good one and bad one.
In most situations, be kind to others, others will treat you the same.
I am a black american female who had the luxury of living in an asian country for while. I don’t have anything against asian women. However, while I was there, I repeatedly would hear them degrade american women and how we carry ourselves. They would talk about how asian women are better for american men. Granted, it was not all asian women stating this, just a few. I did become a little bitter at one time while was there, because of bad encounter I had. I date predominantly outside my race, and while there one of the guys I dated was a white american guy. I’m a pretty successful female just as he is a successful male. We got along great, well he had a asian female friend that he had known for a few years. She hated our relationship and did everything possible to break us up. She would start arguments and bring her random asian girlfriends to hang out with us and try to set them up with him. She said one night while we were out as a group that he would be so much happier with an asian girl. We eventually broke up and he begin to go out with the asian girls she introduced him too. As far as culture differences, alot of countries have begin to become westernized. Look at what happened to me. I don’t dislike all asian women for what happened to me, but it angers me when american men act oblivious to the fact that women or women regardless of background. Asian women along with all women play the same games. It’s just that they tend to hide that side of themselves from american men. Women will never treat other women the same way that they treat men. For years, women have competed against each other for the right man. So I don’t think it has much to do with jealousy or culture, but a drive to get and have the best. Of course, I will never like the woman that came between me and my bf, but I still like asian women (just not her). Granted, it’s obvious he wasn’t really in to me, due to how quickly he left me when she presented her friends to him. I agree with the others, that for the most part you get treated based on how you treat others.