Why American Women Don’t Like Asian Girls?
May 23rd, 2008 | 
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Any man who has dated Asian girls who live in the United States, has witnessed the wrath, jealously and prejudice of American women towards Asian girls.
The stereotypical has some merit: American women can’t compete against the Asians sexuality, American women feel threatened and some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men. These all bear some truth.
If we frequent a typical American club, I have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American lady being threatened by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just isn’t their nature. The crowds in these clubs are usually Asian girls and American men.
They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United States with their military husband. Consequently, you’ll meet Asian girls in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian girls that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful.
This unfaithfulness is how Filipina girls are branded as whores by American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians sexuality. However, there are many Asian girls who want to meet a sincere gentleman for a relationship.
As attractive as Asian girls may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found by American men in the Asian culture.
You’ll hear American men call these values traditional values because at one time these were the values that held the American family together.
In turn, these men are happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere for this appreciation.
It’s chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a better life. It’s probably true.
I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of which you are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment.
Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an Asian girl does, his appreciation is certain.
For an Asian lady, the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round with respect and love as its focal point. She wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, and she loves him for showing he appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their exceptions. There is no doubt; there are bad men in every country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the money or to get a free pass to the United States.
If a few instances define the standards, then just getting a marriage license in the United States should have a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals and mistreatment.
The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advice about how to meet and marry a woman is the United States “is there any other country whose divorce rate is higher?
The Philippines and Far Eastern countries do not condone online dating sites. For that matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women despise Asian girls. Not all American women, but a lot. But the discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media, politics and indeed in their own country.
The people, who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to be together, why the media and politician think does they know better. Take your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let us find love “even if we find it on the internet.
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I deal with facts, not speculation, nor assumptions. Fact: The United States has the highest divorce rate in the world, with some cities, such as Scottsdale, with 70% are divorced. Fact: The Philippines divorce rate is only 3%. Fact: American women file 400 to 1 petitions to divorce their husbands, meaning the U.S. woman no longer values church based family values. Fact: 86% of American men want to stay married, whereas, 86% of American woman are not happy in their marriage for the number one reason, of not having enough money or to little. Fact: American males get drafted ino the military, whereas, the women do not get drafted. And only 10% of the U.S, forces are women. If we are for equal rights, why then did American women defeat their own “EQUAL RIGHTS AMENDMENT, when they found out they were to be drafted? Fact: I spent many years living in the Philippines and here in America, and was reared in a Germany home, and it’s my pure observation that Asian women, especially from the Philippines, are taught by their parents, the Church, and their peer pressure to STAY MARRIED, and focus in on family, not other materialistic things, like a BIG house, 3 cars, new furniture, and fancier clothes. My parents, both American citizens, born as such, have been married for 65 years now, because both BELIEVED IN GODYY LIVING, OBEYING THE TEN COMMANDMENTS, of which state, “THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY, MEANING GOD HATES DIVORCE.” And, being that my parents prayed together, are best friends, forgave each other, believed in their forever marriage, and divorce was never an option, have now been married for 65 years. When my Filipno wife came over here to American, she honestly observed one thing among Americans, “Self reliant, aggressiveness and greedy.” In conclusion, I will let you figure out why American men are going overseas to marry Asians. I did, and I have NEVER regretted it, because our parents, the Church, and those peers of ours, who do not believe in divorce help keep our marriage strong. You guess it, I am married to an Asian women. Divorce is not the answer to a strong family. Marriage is a commitment for forever. Unfortunately, the majority of today’s American women no longer believe in marriage, but in divorce to settle the scores of wrongs they see in men, whereas, Asians do not. They believe in FAMILY. Finally, my facts and observations are based upon 5 years of study for the USAF on family values and divorce statistic here in the U.S. and in the Philippines. Dr. Axt, USAFR
I deal with facts, not speculation, nor assumptions. Fact: The United States has the highest divorce rate in the world, with some cities, such as Scottsdale, where 70% are divorced. Fact: The Philippines divorce rate is only 3%. Fact: American women file 400 to 1 petitions to divorce their husbands, meaning the U.S. woman no longer values church based family values. Fact: 86% of American men want to stay married, whereas, 86% of American woman are not happy in their marriage for the number one reason, of not having enough money or to little. Fact: American males get drafted into the military, whereas, the women do not get drafted. And only 10% of the U.S, forces are women. If we are for equal rights, why then did American women defeat their own “EQUAL RIGHTS AMENDMENT, when they found out they were to be drafted? Women want everything, but do not want to defend their own freedoms. Fact: I spent many years living in the Philippines and here in America, and was reared in a Germany home, and it’s my pure observation that Asian women, especially from the Philippines, are taught by their parents, the Church, and their peer pressure to STAY MARRIED, and focus in on family, not other materialistic things, like a BIG house, 3 cars, new furniture, and fancier clothes. My parents, both American citizens, born as such, have been married for 65 years now, because both BELIEVED IN GODYY LIVING, OBEYING THE TEN COMMANDMENTS, of which state, “THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY, MEANING GOD HATES DIVORCE.” And, being that my parents prayed together, are best friends, forgave each other, believed in their forever marriage, and divorce was never an option, have now been married for 65 years. When my Filipno wife came over here to American, she honestly observed one thing among Americans, “Self reliant, aggressiveness and greedy.” In conclusion, I will let you figure out why American men are going overseas to marry Asians. I did, and I have NEVER regretted it, because our parents, the Church, and those peers of ours, who do not believe in divorce help keep our marriage strong. You guessed it, I am married to an Asian woman. Divorce is not the answer to a strong family. Marriage is a commitment for forever. Unfortunately, the majority of today’s American women no longer believe in marriage, but in divorce to settle the scores of wrongs they see in men, whereas, Asians do not. They believe in FAMILY. Finally, my facts and observations are based upon 5 years of study for the USAF on family values and divorce statistics here in the U.S. and in the Philippines. Dr. Axt, USAFR
I work on a military base and let me say that I had seen lots of filipina married women who were dating other military guys while their spouse is away, and the thing that really pissed me off is that they are traitors. sorry to say that coz I’m a filipina too but I just can’t trust them. . well. . not all but most. I like American women better–they make good friends..
Well, this is all quite fascinating to me. I know two asian female white male relationships. Both males are professors. The first marriage is a nightmare. The wife cannot stand her husband and he barely tolerates her. She calls him frequently when he is away. She does not want him to come home. She only wants to make sure he is not having a good time. She is verbally abusive. He, also, has a stepdaughter who calls him up to call him names. He does a lot of jumping through hoops. He “explained” to me that “asian” women are very controlling, and not docile at all. He is unhappy because he thought he was getting a submissive wife. I don’t think it has anything to do with her being asian, and he got what he deserves for being a racist bastard. You can’t order a wife like you order furniture. Only the simple minded assume that one asian woman is representative of all of them good or bad.
The second relationship is very beautiful one. She was my language tutor. She is in a wheel chair, not sure if it happened before or after she was married. But the man is so sweet I don’t think he would have cared either way. I know why she married him. He is an interesting man and a sweetheart to his core. The way he watches over her makes me tear up. However, she is no docile submissive woman child. She is smart and witty, and bossy, lol. He wouldn’t have it any other way. And I happen to admire her quite a bit, she’s a tough cookie, lol. I would hope regardless of the ethnicity of a person people are smart enough not to make such crude judgments about someone making a good or bad wife based soley on ethnicity or culture. There are very few universals or absolutes in this world, and you may end up missing the love of your life because you are blinded by misconceptions. The part that I find so interesting is how so many men on here view themselves as more enlightened than American women. Having been raised by American women themselves, I would think there would be more respect. But I guess that’s just how I was raised. The American Female experience is greatly intertwined with the American male experience. The male and female behavior in a culture is not one-sided. Many American men don’t want traditional values. They want to taste all of the merchandise first. The average American woman is a good fit for what the average American man wants. If American marriage and love is messed up, we have no doubt made a mess of it together. It was not the women’s movement, it was the ushering in of the me first, keeping up with the Kardashians/Jones’, I want it all now attitude that so many have right down to the if you won’t be the wife I want I will buy one somewhere else mentality present in some of the posts. I have heard many men spout stereotyped virtues of asian women. Yet, in our culture a woman who is raised with those “values” may find herself victimized by men for those very things. I have a friend that behaved very traditional stereotypical ways (not asian) including waiting for marriage. She has a Master’s degree and is very smart. Size 0 and 5’9”, feminine and very open sexually. Her husband made her pay half the bills when she made a third of what he did. He bought cars and motorcycles and lived well. She bought diapers and could barely keep gas in the tank. He grew up with strong personalities. The result, her husband felt she was to weak. He needed someone who was a little more cut throat, less traditional, and more independent. He dropped her off at her parents with their two year old. She has only seen him twice in two years when he makes the forty-five minute drive once a year to see his kid and pat himself on the back for being a good father, American fathering 101? He is now married with a new wife and kid. He has lots of demands with the new wife, that’s what he wanted.
I am very traditional as well, taught that you should wait until marriage. However, if I hold true to that it might take a while. The American men I know have all told me my traditional values are a negative and a deal breaker.
I do find it funny in that “American” women/men seems to refer only to whites. Also, that white women are being crude about Asian women/American or White Males, as I see many love to play the patron saint of interracial love with black men, and they are not nearly as graceful as many Asian women about handling it. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard white women use racial slurs and think they get a pass for riding in on a black horse. Oh how many lectures I have heard them giving black women about keeping black men happy? Many relish the role, playing the consummate victims of white male supremacy/penis envy and black female jealousy. Pity we cannot see each other has human. I wish you all happiness.
PEOPLE JUST DON’T COMPARE…
@jenny: All I can say is POOR YOU!
@meg: ASIAN is a RACE. You guys are influenced by Confucius, we are influenced by Americans, Japanese and Spanish… well Spanish the most because we are conquered by them hundreds of years just like what you said. Just because we are influenced by another country and not Confucius VALUES and just because our country is in the pacific doesn’t mean we are not Asian anymore. What you are you talking about? Also, maybe you should check your map once in awhile especially SOUTH EAST ASIA LOLZ geez! You are still an Asian even you are born or now living in US. To tell you the truth they are not really literally talking to just PURE ASIAN in fact they are talking most about ASIAN AMERICAN or Asian people who are living there in US, I read blogs about Asian living there in US and maybe part of it is true coz of what you’re acting now.
There is nothing for you to be jealous and so we are to you. You are an Asian (even you are born or race there in US) and I bet Red is talking about American women… so why react on that part? As far as I know the “envy or jealous” thing was started by American woman here in this blog maybe you should read previous post. Red and Bill just answered what they said.
I dont know why American Women dont like Asian women but my husbands families (americans) and me, also my other asian friends are getting along pretty well… we dont have any problems because we dont throw words to each other. We dont mind being with other races. Like I said, as long as we keep our mouth shut and accept the fact that there are other races in our country I don’t think we will have a problem.
BTW MEg, Its not our nature to fit 1000 people in a mini van, you are generalizing. If u havent been here yet.. you should come here so you will see. Dont mystify CULTURES AND RACES… HUGE DIFFERENCE.
All of this race stuff is so silly. Racial differences are normal in humanity, just like there over 200 varieties of Orchards, every living creature has several species. Look up the word Species. So, there are several species of humans but all capable of interbreeding–its only the cultural, political, prejudicial or religious aspects which cause different species of humans to reject each other.
You think that Asian-White is a bad choice because then the kids will suffer–not White and not Asian–thats because other stupid humans reject them and make their lives difficult. Not because the interbreeding is bad or wrong.
Interbreeding between species or races has been going on since the beginning of Humanity. This is nothing new, so it so silly to be reading some people’s negative attitudes. I’ll give you so many examples–and I’m sure if you look into your ancestors genes you may be surprised to find that you, yourself are not PURE White or Asian or whatever.
Ancient Egyptian Empire—-Semitic peoples mixing with Black Nubians etc.
Roman Empire–lots of intermarriage between races–thats why Not All Italians, Sicilians, Spaniards are purely white. People from the entire Mediterranean area mixed. The Greeks mixed with the Persians who mixed with variosu other people. The Turks came from Central Asia and Mongolia and were not White. They assimilated people of different races all the way to Eastern Europe.
Central Asian tribes (Mongols and Turks) conquered all the way to Eastern Europe and Russia. Ever hear the saying; “Scratch a Russian and find a Tartar.”
Look at the people of Kazakhstan, Uzbekistan, Turkistan and you will find a wide variety of facial features blending East and West and some of the most beautiful and exotic looking women on the planet. Some have pure white skin and some have darker skin. Google and find out what mixed race people look like.
Half my family is mixed race now. Some of the kids look more Asian, some look more White. We have Black, Japanese, Malay, Chinese, German, Italian bloodlines now–original creaters–my Grandparents from China over a hundred years ago. One thing we all have in common is that we love Chinese, Italian, and Japanese food. Nobody cares about which race or species we came from but we are all proud of our various backgrounds and Grandparents.
Courting and Going Out.
Very little courting is done in the USA, It’s part of the dating tradition in PI.
You will find American Girls have had multiply Sex Partner by age 16, and published reports that 1 in 4 teenage girl in USA have had a STD.
Unlike in PI where the suitors meets the family and gets to know them first before asking a girl out on a date. And in USA parent don’t require a chaperone.
Meg, Guess what you are classified as an American, Cuz you were born in USA and raised with US Values
Your just like other classes who try to realign themselves like African American.
As far as your friends not considering Philippines part of Asia, come on don’t be ignorant. Look at any world map it will make you comments look stupid.
You will find out when you get older and unhappy like most American tend to do, you will wished you were raised with traditional Asian Values instead of the fast paced and progressive views that both Man and Woman have adopted in the USA
Rianne – what does 1000 people fitting into a minivan have to do with anything?? Philippines is part of Asia but because of so much intermingling over the centuries, they have become mestizos.
Red – you don’t know me so stop pretending like you do. Don’t make presumptions about how I was raised. Both parents were Asians and raised me with traditional values. I attended an Asian language school on Saturday and played the piano like a nice Asian girl is supposed to. I have a university degree and support myself very well. Well, it’s nice to hear a white guy interested in my culture – especially an Asian wannabe.
I agree with Richard. Just accept that there are other races in your country and there will be no problem.
Hello Jenny. I love your name. Sounds really hot. I love philippine women and I’m on an online dating site that does romance tours for a week in Cebu and Davao, not Manila. Why? because the site itself knows these filipinas the majority are more likely to be the americanized types. She can’t join the site if she’s active with a boyfriend or husband. If she finds a boyfriend she would be terminated from the site for her to lose hope to find that true western guy like me. Also they do background criminal checks on them. No membership fees, No false of self photos, No cons, hookers or shemales on the site. The guy can’t give out his contact information. I’m not a US military guy. You won’t find a US military guy prowling the streets of Cebu or Davao because the US military bases doesn’t exist there. If he is a member of the site he would do so only when the romance tours are active for a week. The US military guys don’t need to travel anywhere else but to stay there in Manila. As you know in Cebu and Davao everyone knows everyone but not so in Manila where you work at. That’s why you’ll find lots of filipina married women who are dating other US military guys while their spouse is away. The majority of Manila filipinas (mainly like where you work at) aren’t marriage potentials. They’re americanized. Easy to get into her pants. Just reporting the facts. One more part american women thinks that all filipina women are whores. Not true. You’re not one of them. If the promiscuous american woman were to prowl the streets of Manila and she seen one hooking up with a guy she won’t be so jealous but the reason why they don’t like asian girls is because the majority of them will never win the battle against the bulge on their bodies and they no longer carry the high values the asian women does along with feminity in the long run.
Well said Red!
Hey I am a poet and didn’t know it. Sorry, I couldn’t resist. The reality is American Society as a whole teaches us not to be happy. We should always be getting more, doing more. Have a couple of million, well you are going to get compared to the person who has a billion. It is hard to feel you are ever good enough, because you aren’t. I don’t care about who marries who, the divorce rate is going to be higher if they are in America. I disagree with Dr. Axt. It is not the fault of American women, and you cannot quote feelings as fact. The reality is many women file for divorce for a host of reasons. Domestic violence and sexual abuse is rampant in America. Yes, their are men who wanted to stay married, they may also want to keep the other women they are sleeping with, continue emotional or physical abuse or be free of any familial responsibilities. Women may judge men by material things, but that is all women. Reality is men judge a woman by their looks. Plus, men tend to value and devalue themselves and other men by this standard as well. Talking down to average joes who are not as educated or make as much money. Many assume that the only contribution they should have to make is financial. Everything else is a woman’s job. I see so many men who feel that if they bring home a check, they should be free to do as they please. Many women work, and come home to carry the full load of the family, unlike many other western men and some asian cultures. In china, I saw the most involved and loving fathers I have seen in my entire life. They helped in the house, and treated their children with such gentleness and affection. Unlike many stereotypes I had heard. I don’t see anything wrong with choosing a woman who has less and will think what you have is more than enough, foreign or local. But you cannot hold women to a higher standard than you hold men. There is a serious absence of men in the lives of their children even if the father is in the home in this society. The emphasis is always on money or fame and individual freedoms. It is ridiculous to discuss American women and not the effects American men have on them. Especially with estimates as low as 1 in 4 and as high as 3 in 4 American women being sexually abused or raped. With America being a source country for human trafficking of women and children as well as a major destination point for the trafficked it is obvious that the problem is well beyond American women. As I said before, few American men value women with virtue and integrity. They do not value virginity unless they get to take it and move on. I worked with pregnant young girls for many years, all of them gave it up to keep a young man they thought would leave if they didn’t have sex. They were in love with them and only found out these boys didn’t feel anything after. Many of the boys had second babies before the first was born. I have heard alot of complaining about promiscuous women on here, but I have read other sites that complain American women expect a relationship before sex, and that is why men are marrying Brazilian women. They are more sexually free. These things are based on stereotypes not reality. All of these sites are pushing the same thing every other media product is: your not good enough and you could be a rockstar. American women you are not good enough Men, you could be a rockstar someplace else. The other common attitude is its you not me. If you have such horrible experiences with the people you have dated, you should do a better job of picking. That’s what I tell my friends male and female. The common denominator is always you. If you have to go to another country to more clearly understand what a good one is, fine. But don’t turn around and disrespect the ones who are helping fuel the country you are bringing them back to and benefiting from the opportunities created by the women and men of that society. It’s called respect something society struggles with as a whole. After all, your daughters will be American and have to live through all the ignorance you help create with your stereotypes on either side. Will you feel the same when those American raised boys come knocking on your door asking for her? Will you think your daughter lacks values or will you think young men don’t value her? Just a thought. Peace
oh sorry to say but i agreed with them i dont see any jelouse on American Women side, to be honest they are prety good and very friendly, i went to hang out with american women and they are equally fair with asian women…so please respect them as what they are!!!!maybe you are the one who feels jelouse for what ever reason…be Contented ok….
men who marry foreign women, Asians or Eastern Europeans are those weak, mach-minded, self-centered men looking for a female-servant. A man with high self-esteem, self-respect, who values himself would not be intimidated by an American woman. It is accepted worldwide that the most sexy, hot, smart, educated, the most powerful women in the world are the American women, that’s why women all over the world try to immitate them. American women are the gold standard and those men who looking for slave-women, servants who will serve them and obey them are those weak, losers, unable to deal with strong women. I don’t hate Asian women, we hate what is better. But shortly these women or their daughters will adopt American standards and they will not settle for some kind of a beta-male. American women don’t accept to settle for “beta-males” because they have learned to value themselves. I don’t think that knowing who I am and value myself makes isa wrong. May be it is in the eyes of the loser.
men who marry foreign women, Asians or Eastern Europeans are those weak, macho-minded, self-centered men looking for a female-servant. A man with high self-esteem, self-respect, who values himself would not be intimidated by an American woman. It is accepted worldwide that the most sexy, hot, smart, educated, the most powerful women in the world are the American women, that’s why women all over the world try to immitate them. American women are the gold standard and those men who looking for slave-women, servants who will serve them and obey them are those weak, losers, unable to deal with strong women. I don’t hate Asian women, we hate what is better. But shortly these women or their daughters will adopt American standards and they will not settle for some kind of a beta-male. American women don’t accept to settle for “beta-males” because they have learned to value themselves. I don’t think that knowing who I am and value myself makes me wrong. May be it is wrong in the eyes of the loser.
@meg. LMAO! Read ur comment again maybe u will remember why I said “we dont fit 1000 people in a minivan” if u havent been here yet dont say things about us. Ur generalizing us. If ur a well educated as what you said you are… u should know that CULTURE and RACE is different. Ur saying we are not Asian.. why? Because of so much intermingling? LMAO! Or.. because we are not influenced by confucius? LMAO! U know nothing so please just keep ur opinion about us urself. And as far as I remember the only country that hasnt conquered by anyone is Thailand (Land of the Free).
Like I said, we have nothing to be jealous to american women and so does american women to us. My family in husbands side are so good to me. We get a long pretty well. They accept me and I accept them we dont have a problem.
Tracy – American women are not the “gold standard” of women. The Eastern European girls you hate so much are now considered the most beautiful. They are drop dead gorgeous and a lot thinner than most American girls. U.S. girls look phony with too much plastic surgery. These girls make plastic surgeons some of the richest doctors in the U.S. Also, Asian girls are not “submissive” as you like to point out. They are attractive, educated and classy. Asian women look stylish. They don’t wear clothes from Wal-Mart due to a large waistband. Maybe American guys are choosing Asian women because they know how to take care of a man. Also, Asian girls are THIN and keep their shape well into middle age and beyond. Oh yeah, another thing – we don’t go under the knife because WE DON’T HAVE TO!!!
i agree american women are among the most educated and having the highest level of freedom…but where do all those privillages take american women to ? a life in which they visit man to man get laid down and carry their ill legal children or die old on the streets drunk,or having a society in which fathers and uncles rape their own kids…where being naked is normal? plz signify ur advancements..at least asian women which include not only phillipines but china,india,pakistan,iran etc etc still hold the meaning and dignity of a women and hold the family together ..they give love and recieve love which makes them although among the poor maybe but the most happy in the world
First, as a Native American, the assumption being made that American automatically equals white is disturbing.
Second, in my culture, the women are the heads of the family, not the men. If that’s something white men can’t handle, they have Europe to go back to.
This is an interesting thread and I do enjoy reading all comments excluding derogatory comments concerning people of different races. Being an Ex Marine who served a 2 years in Operation Iraqi Freedom. I am blessed to have the opportunity to visit The Philippines on my R&R’s. It changed my life. I have been divorced for 5 years because of the infidelity of my American wife. I didn’t expect to be another marriage. The Filipino culture changed this way of thinking.. These people have earned my respect and adoration. they are not spoiled in the way of Americans. Sometimes there is no electricity or municipal water and they go on being happy and appreciate the little things life has for them. American women freak out if they don’t have a blow dryer or curling iron so they will look better than other American women or to get a man to pay attention to her. Oh and if they don,t drive a new expedition OMG !!They will find a man who has a bigger better deal and out the door she goes. American woman need to change there priorities. Put love first of all and they will find true happiness you can,t buy that at Wal-Mart or a dealership.
A little side note: If you have never lived in another country or even experienced the way another culture lives day in and day out first hand. You are acting as a fool by commenting about things you don’t know from experience. You can’t find these things at the mall or a catalog. So shut the hell up!!!
Thanks and have a nice day.
Ayesha, you’re right about what you said. However, you shouldn’t use the word ‘privilege’. Women do have fundamental rights. However, a lot of people abuse their rights. (that sounds almost oxymoronic) Asian women (from Asia) have less rights than American women in their own country and it does lead to better lifestyles in a lot of cases. However, from what I’ve seen a lot of Asian men are also rude to their wives and the wife is almost always passive aggressive for the sake of holding a family together. This makes it really difficult to tell whether or not any Asian woman is truly happy with how they’re treated by their own husband.
I wonder if Asian women would be the same way if they were given the same rights. (by law of course)Well, let’s first look at Asian Americans. They’re pretty much the same as American whites (in the manner that you’ve described) if they were brought up with Enlightenment principles instead of Confucianist ones. Well there are other factors which cause deviation but I won’t go into those.
On the other hand, modern-day Japanese women are the most westernized in Asia and I’d put them as a little more than halfway between Enlightened and Confucianist. The situation that you’ve described is less severe than in America but more severe than in other parts of Asia. So I guess that this proves that you’re kind of right about the rights/privileges of women being a factor in that kind of behavior.
However, men also carry a great deal of the blame since they’re the ones who choose to treat women that way. In Asia, men would be looked down more severely than an American would if he commits adultery. (whether it’s before or after marriage) There’s a real lack of commitment on both sides which contributes a lot to what you’ve said. Women are just affected by it more since the men can leave before the children are born and the woman has no choice but to stay with the child.
Rights are sacred and really shouldn’t be abused. As far as I’m concerned, sex outside of a firm marriage is really self-centered (even if both people consent) simply because others can potentially be affected by it in a negative way. When anybody chooses to have sex, they’re carrying the lives of other people in their hands and don’t even realize it. When I refer to life, I’m not just restricting to abortion vs keeping the child because a lack of good parenting can also affect a person’s overall behaviour which in turn can affect other people. (and worse, it may also perpetuate the cycle)
Does there exist suh a culture that does not abuse it’s own principles? Westerners abuse their rights in the way that ayesha said yet eastern men abuse their ‘privilege’ of male dominance in the family. Here’s the solution; THINK MORE FOR YOURSELF AND NOT LET CULTURE RUN YOUR LIFE. Culture is only a guide to how a person should live and you don’t necessarily have to agree with it. Westerners, please start thinking more about the effect that you have on people live. Easterners, please embrace Enlightenment principles but use them wisely. Doing things out of conformity can be a very bad thing.
Why the HELL would American Men want liberal, feminist, american women??????
Why the HELL would American Men want liberal, feminist, american women??????
I agree that the term “American” is used too many times to refer to the Anglo Americans, and this just isn’t true. In fact, to be an “American” is as simple for us as just being born here…with that said, and American man can be from any ethnicity. Okay, what I will say about American women of all races, is that they have lost that “traditional” value system that was once in place. Also, it is getting to a place where we can say that “the cat is out of the bag.” It’s like this, there was a period of time where American women could hide behind the image that was set for by their predecessors. That time is up, and everyone is starting to take note of the lack of quality in American women, and I dare say it…especially in white, mainstream America. I will go as far as to say that even though it may be improper to judge, I will say that the average American women is such a disappointment. There isn’t a country on this planet that has such spoiled people as the women of America. Until this changes, men are going to continue to disrespect women here…looking at them like they are only good for sex. Let’s face it, that is how many women portray themselves…like a piece of ass. Then they turn around and act offended when a man wants to get some. Men want ladies, not whores to marry…women of America, get your acts together or you’re all going to watch the sail ship without you. And what’s up with all the bitching from American women? Shut the hell up you ungrateful, spoiled little bitches!
Another thing, Asian women right now are riding this huge wave of stereotypes and they are eating it up and all these white men are buying into them. Some of the things that are said are true, but let’s face it, stereotypes can only hold so much water. Soon that wave will come crashing down when people realize that people are people…f*ck how somebody looks, it’s how somebody acts. Personally, I like Asian people…and actually find the Filipinos to be the most respectful of other races than ANY other Asian group. And YES, Filipino people are Asian…like it or not. Chinese people usually walk around like their shit doesn’t stink. How is this for a stereotype? See, you have to take the good with the bad. One last thing, I love how a lot of Asian women try to act like they don’t like black guys. Don’t tell me you haven’t seen a brother and lusted over him, thought about the stereotype of a black man having a HUGE d**K and wondered about that…only to find yourself turned off because your family/friends wouldn’t accept it or because you feel that society would rather see you with a white guy. Next time you feel yourself getting wet over a brother, do yourself a favor and do something about it!
I am a white male who married a Filipina. However, my wife was born in the US by parents who came from the Philippines. Her parents are educated (her mother a chemical engineer and her father now works for the Postal Service) and as a rule, are the perfect immigrants. They hold true to their heritage bu made the effort to understand the culture and politics of the US.
My wife is Americanized, obviously, and a Californian at that. She is no way submissive and doesn’t need me to speak for her. She prefers to share duties broken down by traditional roles to make sure we play to our strengths. She is sweet, affable, and intelligent. I simply could never find these qualities in a white or black woman.
I’m not saying these kind of women don’t exist, but I find white/black women suffer from some kind of entitlement complex. It could be from living in the US for so long, being multi-generational, that they forgot to be thankful for what they have. I find asian women to work hard, value education, value family, and have high expectations for their men. It works for me. All generalizations, of course, but it has been my experience.
Drake, I completely agreed with you during the first time with your posts but the latter post really offended me. You contradicted yourself on the issue of stereotypes by referring to black men as those who have huge penises. Since it’s very unlikely that anyone on this site knows who I am, I’ll admit the following; “I am a black dude who does not fit that stereotype.” My penis is only 4 and 3/4 inches and I really dont care if you’re laughing your ass off in front of your computer right now.
Going back to the issue of your contadiction, you first implied that people should not look at the Asian stereotype but that they should rather look at personalities. I agree with you 100% on that issue. But at the end, you implied that Asian women should get laid with black guys if they feel turned on by the stereotype of a huge penis. What you’re doing is picking and choosing which stereotypes favor you and trying to “ride the wave” just like Asian women are. I thought that 2 wrongs didn’t make a right. Wrong only add, they don’t cancel each other out.
About the penis issue, I really think that the idea of a huge penis really turns some people off from black dudes. Heres an arrow diagram of why:
black guy -> huge penis -> wild in bed -> dominant partner because of size -> agressiveness in bed (in a thrilling way) -> agressive and dominating personality combined with cockiness -> will eventually fuck you up and abuse you if you ever marry him. (this includes potentially raping you)
Plus the portayal of black people in the media as angry, criminalized douches who have no respect for women only adds to this negative image. Moreover, a lot of “niggers” like you try to perpetuate this barbarian-like stereotype in the manner above. This just gives them even more reason to keep promoting negative images of blacks. Stereotypes only become true when people choose to follow them.
Yes, I said nigger, deal with it. According to niggers, I can say it because I’m a black dude. Furthermore, I don’t even agree with that idiotic rule. Wasn’t the word invented by white Europeans during the Sugar Revolution? Anyway, let me not go too far with this issue since this is a thread about white American girls hating Asian girls. But I hope that you can now see why Asian women have some bit of reason not to go for black guys. (even if your penis is huge) It’s because stereotypes are willfully perpetuated by most.
@DONALD very sweet!
@JENNY cheating happens everywhere! come here i will show you what my culture is. i traveled around my country. now i am in angeles and have seen what americans did to my country. NOT ALL AMERICANS but the ones who were based here during fucking war. our ex-president asked them to leave our country. one of the reason is prostitution. and yes they did but still coming back here i wonder why. but i do things in mind on why.
cheating doesnt happen only to asians omg… you just dropped your brain. dont mean to be rude or what.
@tracy
hahahahahaahahahaha think think think!!! you just a multi-millionaire marrying a filipina.
@ayesha
i know how to spell privilege
hey max,i appreciate that u understood whatever i said, im not personally against any race but it just makes me sad what the western women have turned them into..ur right eastern women many times are ill treated by their husbands but this is also a fact that the ones who support the wife against her husband are the inlaws..it is true that if asian women had equal rights or equal freedom they might be the same as westerns proving that a lot of freedom can be bad for anyone..asians understand this thats why they are content with their limited freedom and know the limits of their boundaries
for Tracy who ever u r!!!!i respect ur opinion but onething not all is like what u said so please dont generalized Asian women as a slave….i am married to american man and he respect me in many ways he didnt treat me as his slave…..and his family is all good too…and for sure my husband is not a loser or a man who cant deal with american women they just want to happy!!!! a happy family for ever like what Filpino Family had….onething i wanna know why u hate Asian Women????if u only knew that Filipino Women can stand on their own way of living and they are well educated, As a Asian women i cant accept what u said because we are not like that ok….if u hate us maybe theres something wrong abour YOU!! so please beware if what your talking about…
hey,
me Abu, Asian male. fell in love with an American white. How can I tell her what I feel about her?
im with jenny on this one — im filipino as well & i think american women make better friends, normally. though i do have a few good asian friends.
Well ayesha, I hope that you do have some degree of freedom. (not the thermodynamic kind) Freedom isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It depends on whether you abuse it or not. Asian society is flawed in the sense that it constrains people’s free will and this means that you can never see the “truth” in people due to such conformity. The basic purpose of Confucianism was to rationally bring all people together to do what is right without having to use coercive laws. Instilling the fear of being ostracized in people counts as being coercive. Maybe it’s impossible to build the type of society that Confucius intended to. However, I still think that it’s better for people to fully embrace their freedom. I’d feel 10,000 times better knowing that a girl loves me because of her own free will and not because of some archaic custom.
@tracy.
I pity you. Sorry woman but you have confidence issues yet I agree with some things you pointed out. To start with, I was born and raised in the Philippines. I have a University Degree with High Honors(Cum Laude) and now taking my MBA in Atlanta. I am 23 years old, I have traveled the world, I have seen and experienced other culture, one of them is the “american culture”, if there’s such. Do you think an educated, sophisticated lady like me wants to marry a “white american guy” who is, for argument sake, looking for a submissive wife? Not a chance.
Please check my facebook account and see it yourself, i’ll bet you’ll be as envious like most “white american women” I have met here in the states!
http://www.facebook.com/#!/wes.apple?ref=profile
In Southeast Asia we value education more than anything thus, our culture and tradition. You dont have that in the US. You are insulting a huge percentage of the male population in the US, no wonder “White American Men” does not like you.
Alot of white guys, so as black, have told me-they dont want to settle for less when they can go out of the US and see beautiful women from different countries. They said american women after giving birth dont take care of themselves anymore. Or just look older than their age,have ALOT of confidence issues, insecurities (surgeries, uhm-duh! cant live wihtout it in the US now)eating unhealthy foods, its so pathetic that the obesity rate is so high too! Why do you think scientist/chemist has to research the formula of weight loss pill? Hello US of A!!! “White American women” don’t age well, its a fact.
Have you gone out of the US? I bet not. Too bad you have limited source of information.
American women hates Asian because, as known, they are SMART, DIGNIFIED, BEAUTIFUL and to mention DECENT. We dont curse like you do. To speak for myself I dont even swear. I present myself to people with high manners and sophistication. My advise, act like a lady so whoever you are with, though I dont think so, will treat like one.
I didn’t realize we hate Asian girls…I’m a black woman who dates black men, and there’s not a lot of Asians around me. But thanks for letting me know who to hate.
Dummy’s Guide to Asian Girls with White Fever
The WHIGGIE (White Guy Groupie)
A brief profile of Asian girls afflicted with “White Fever”
ORIGINS: A subset of women of Asian ethnicity, usually found residing in major U.S. cities, although they have been known to appear overseas occasionally. Closely related to their cousins, Yellow Cabs (Japan), Gwei-Po’s (Hong Kong), Sarong Party girls (Singapore), Twinkies and Bananas.
NOT TO BE CONUSED WITH: Intelligent, emotionally-secure women who are free of identity problems, self-hate, racial prejudice and chips on their shoulders.
CHARACTER TRAITS
- Poorly developed self-identity. Pathetically insecure with themselves and their ethnicity.
- Resentment of father’s traditional, authoritarian upbringing (whether real or perceived).
- Brainwashed into believing that they, as AF’s, are more desirable than other women in exotic lotus blossom kinda way. Willingness to pander to western media sexual stereotypes of AF’s, which they perceive as marketing advantage.
- Thoroughly whitewashed. Desperate need to fit into “mainstream” (i.e. white) society and to distance themselves from their Asian heritage. Racial inferiority complex.
- Feigned air of superiority when dealing with members of own race and any other minority groups. In need of major attitude adjustments.
- Exaggerated, whiny, Encino-esque valley girl accent.
- Delusions of grandeur… “I want it all…and that begins with the right (i.e. white) guy…” Asian-American princess complex.
- Uncanny ability of determine one’s nationality, occupation, earning capacity and make of auto within three minutes of commencing a conversation.
- Exaggerated perception of white males’ value in increasing AF’s social status.
- Ignorant and narrow-minded, eager to adopt and perpetuate fallacious western media stereotypes of Asian men.
- A compulsion to trash Asians, particularly Asian men, in order to justify their autoracist tendencies, placate their guilt and bolster their self-esteem.
- Extremely shallow, self-centered, argumentative and boring.
- Disdains ethnic studies; regards it as a major threat to her carefully constructed, self-deceptive whiggie identity.
- Despises all Asian men, with the occasional exception of their brothers (after all, they share the same genes.
- Believes that racism does not exist because she, as an AF, has never experienced it first hand, or is too dense to realize it. Besides, those Asiaphiles are so nice to her (while plotting to get into her pants.
- Gets a warm fuzzy feeling when watching The Joy Luck Club, while snuggled up to her geeky Asiaphile boyfriend.
- Believes that the only reason an Asian person would disrespect her is because they are racist.
- Has lost count of how many WM’s she’s done this month.
- The wet-dream come true for socially-handicapped Caucasian nerds who are unable to attract Caucasian women.
- Threatened and insecure in the presence of any culturally-perceptive Asian person or any AM not fitting her stereotype of the quiet , marginalized, “model minority” geek.
- Fundamentally insecure, utterly confused, lacking in self respect.
- Many aging whiggies, after being used and abandoned by WM’s in favor of younger, more nubile whiggies and being rejected by AM’s who see through their transparency, develop a bitterness towards all men, period.
- Denial of all of the above.
FACIAL EXPRESSIONS: a) Look of contempt when eyes meet those of any non-white male, converting to beaming grin upon sighting of WM victim/target; b) terminal pout or c) bimboish expression that defies deep thought.
TYPICAL ATTIRE: Anything trendy, mainstream-looking and seductive (especially if it’s black and tight). Big hair (perhaps their most valuable asset) tossed with hand every 15 seconds. Wonderbra. Fanatical whiggies have been known to undergo certain procedures such as eyelid surgery, breast augmentation and vaginal tightening operations in order to increase their marketability to WM’s. Blue contact lenses and bleached blonde hair have even been sported on occasion. Note: Attire may vary depending on the specific type of WM being targeted.
I.Q: Too low to measure.
NATURAL HABITAT:
Personal ad columns (“exotic, slim, SAF seeks successful, generous SWM”), cheerleading squads, sorority houses (role: token “oriental sisters”), T.V. newsdesks, B-grade Kung-Fu flicks, trendy nightclubs (usually found necking with aging WM’s), Chinese restaurants (slumming with the WM and demonstrating that she’s “in touch with her heritage”), anywhere else frequented by White males.
TYPICAL WHIGGIE QUIPS:
Age 10: “Mom, why do we have to be (Chinese/Japanese/Korean)? Do you have to dress like that? And what’s with Dad and his accent?
Age 12: “Mom, I want an eyelid job for Christmas, okay?
Later on…
“I’ve always only dated white guys. I don’t know why, I just have.”
“Race doesn’t matter. I just happen to like white guys. It’s just a preference.”
“We are the world, we are the children…We…”
“I’ve gone out with all kinds of guys…Dutch, English, French, German, you name it. Even went out with a Jewish guy once! After all, love is color blind.”
“Eeeew, Jennifer, how could you go out with that (insert minority group here) guy!?” Totally gross!
“Oooh Roger, you’re like soooo strong and intelligent. Did you say you drive a beemer? Kewl! (giggle).”
“I want to learn English better…you maybe teach, handsome man? Are you U.S. citizen?” (Yes FOB’s can be whiggies too!)
“Like why would I want to go out with an Asian guy? They don’t own me or anything. Uhh, and besides they are all male chauvinist …and domineering too…yeah that’s it! Didn’t you see The Joy Luck Club?”
Like, I’m dating *out* of my race, so how can I be racists?!! Duh!!
CLOSELY RELATED TO: Racists, bigots, wannabes, ho’s, chameleons, white supremacists, a fish out of water.
MEDIA REPRESENTATION/ROLE MODELS: Connie Chung, Amy Tan, Lisa Ling, Margaret Cho, Sheryl Wu Dunn, any of The Joy Luck Club protagonists (except the one who married an Asian dude).
NATURAL COUNTERPARTS: Asiaphiles…who else?
Wow, I had never heard of this before. My Asian friends never even bring anything like this up and we speak candidly with each other all the time…..hmph.
Maintain working ,nice job!
I’m an asian guy and I remember when I was at a bar with my sister and her boyfriend who is white, my sister decided to leave early because she was tired. As soon as she left, a white girl came up to my sister’s boyfriend and kept saying over and over “that Chinese girl” and my sister’s boyfriend would tell her “she’s not Chinese,” and he told her that three times. Both my sister and I are of Japanese descent. I’m not bothered she didn’t get our ethnicity right, but I’m kind of angry by the fact that she kept saying over and over “that Chinese girl” when she could’ve said “that girl” instead, even after my sister’s boyfriend told her she’s not Chinese more than once.
I do not think that all “American women” hate us Asians as I have found good friends in them.
I am a Filipina who recently got married to an American man who loves me as much as I love him. He chose to travel 9,000 miles to be with me and my family; and eventually marry me because he believes I am the one for him. I believe that too.
It is not being submissive to want to take care of your husband as it is expected. Why is it such an issue for us to want to please our partners anyway? I think all women (and men) should concentrate on doing exactly that and remain faithful.
And on a side note, honesty is not a matter of race. When you all start building relationships, regardless of skin color, make sure you are honest with each other. That’s what would tie you together.
If you are happy, let the haters hate. You are not hurting anyone.
Hipocricy is all we can say,i am a filipina married to an american who’s so different from the most,finacial perce’i need to make my own money,in 2 years time i got 2 jobs to help him pay bills,came here with my own expense too(i bought our wedding rings and spend my own money for my papers and medical,he took responsible of my 1 way ticket)which is no big deal coz that’s love for-i never wanted to be a burden in a way.it’s gotten abused tho but i try not to take it so seriously for i am hoping in god’s time we will going to discuss this in a way to solve my querries.i belong to a hardworking family,born to parents who were being dignified as the most responsible ever i’ve known,gave us education and taught us to live simple and not to clamour on luxuries that would lust for a while.contradictory for my 1 year and 10 months of stay her in the u.s i observed that we are being observed easily nor noticed easily like being cheaters and users, social climbers.one reason i know is that we are the minorites,,,one rotten tomatoe will always affects the whole basket of tomatoes,This is not a beg on my part but rather use a keen observer’s eyes that not all filipinas are ideal wife same with not all foreigner husbands are responsible,most of us came here with the bold reason of LOve some maybe for convenience(no offense meant) what ever their reason is should be respected and not to be teased at and made it as trademark for everyfilipinas ,endeed it was great being a filipina, with pride and dignity can shout at the top of my voice i’m not a user and never did plan to cheat and never was a social climber.
This made me smile and hopefully after your last post it will do the same for you:
You are depriving some poor village of its idiot.