Why American Women Don’t Like Asian Girls?
Any man who has dated Asian girls who live in the United States, has witnessed the wrath, jealously and prejudice of American women towards Asian girls.
The stereotypical has some merit: American women can’t compete against the Asians sexuality, American women feel threatened and some American women simply think Asians are stealing their men. These all bear some truth.
If we frequent a typical American club, I have had my dates threaten by American women in the restroom. In time, Asian clubs sprung up in the United States. At an Asian club, American women are welcome. I have never seen an American lady being threatened by Asians in a typical Asian club. It just isn’t their nature. The crowds in these clubs are usually Asian girls and American men.
They met in the Philippines, got married, and came to the United States with their military husband. Consequently, you’ll meet Asian girls in clubs who are married. If you mingle with Asian girls that frequent the clubs for any length of time, you will eventually meet ladies who are unfaithful.
This unfaithfulness is how Filipina girls are branded as whores by American women. This doesn’t carry the same stigma for American women who may do the same. Hypocrisy is always evident when behaviors of the two cultures are compared.
Asian dating sites have sprung up all over the internet. Some of these sites try to exploit the Asians sexuality. However, there are many Asian girls who want to meet a sincere gentleman for a relationship.
As attractive as Asian girls may be, American men are also captivated by the Asians behavior towards men. A man’s dream of having a wife who wants to please him, appreciates his love and treasures his efforts in making a home seems to have been found by American men in the Asian culture.
You’ll hear American men call these values traditional values because at one time these were the values that held the American family together.
In turn, these men are happy, want to provide for their wife and have no desire to look elsewhere for this appreciation.
It’s chemistry that once prevailed many years ago in the United States and has been lost in the myriad of women rights in American society.
Why do Filipina women want to marry a foreigner from another country? I’m not going to argue the fact that these ladies want a better life. It’s probably true.
I will argue that most women, no matter the country, want to marry in to a better life. Again, it is the hypocrisy of which you are that makes a behavior negative or not. Most women, in the United States, need to look in a mirror before judging ladies from other cultures. Besides wanting a better life, most Asian ladies want better treatment.
Here in the United States, most men come to expect a lady isn’t required to serve him, to want to please him, and love him for who he is. When an Asian girl does, his appreciation is certain.
For an Asian lady, the man doesn’t have to be super rich or look like a movie star, just treat her well and show his love. It’s a merry-go-round with respect and love as its focal point. She wants to please him, he loves her for pleasing him, and she loves him for showing he appreciates her love and so on.
All the above words, statements and my observations have their exceptions. There is no doubt; there are bad men in every country. There is no doubt that some women only are in it for the money or to get a free pass to the United States.
If a few instances define the standards, then just getting a marriage license in the United States should have a warning imprinted in gold. No matter if a couple met through the internet or at the neighborhood church, you have your share of scandals and mistreatment.
The last culture of experts that needs to be giving advice about how to meet and marry a woman is the United States “is there any other country whose divorce rate is higher?
The Philippines and Far Eastern countries do not condone online dating sites. For that matter, it is against the law. I’m not going to quote their law here, but it has to do with moral issues. Again hypocrisy!
I started this article to comment on why a lot of American women despise Asian girls. Not all American women, but a lot. But the discrimination doesn’t stop there. It is evident in the media, politics and indeed in their own country.
The people, who are forgotten, are the couples themselves. Why not just ask them? If two people who found each other are happy, in love and want to be together, why the media and politician think does they know better. Take your hatred, your narrow minded views and negative publicity elsewhere and let us find love “even if we find it on the internet.
Some Asian women subscribed to the Pinkerton syndrome (where Asian women look up to Caucasian men and think the world of them), and some don’t. Sure, there will always be some who marry to get a better life. However, with Asian and East Asian countries like Taiwan, Singapore, Hong Kong, and even China growing faster economically compared to the western world, this phenomenon of marrying “up and out” will eventually be a history. In fact, increasing we sees Western men marrying Asian women and choosing to stay in Asia.
Its not only money or a greencard and visa in the UNITED STATES that a FILIPINA like me wants.. Its what we called UNCONDITIONAL love.. that the white men can give to a filipina,,, they are not a demanding type ( SOME) .. A filipina is a sincere, loyal to her partner even if its American, Japanese, Indian and other race..
Filipina respect he partner and love him to the rest of her life……..
There’s one thing I find a bit suspicious. I seem to recall various Filipinos who seemed to if anything, ‘avoid’ the labeling of Asian. These were mostly Filipinos as in of course ‘males’. They always seem to want to separate themselves from any notion that they would have any relation to the typical Asian as one normally thinks (Japanese, Chinese, the basic Orient). However, with the advent of the internet, and a broader public acclaim from White men claiming to ‘love Asian women’, it seems ‘Filipinas’ are far more quick to jump on the ‘Asian woman’ bandwagon.
I am a young, sweet and pretty Filipina and I always find it attracted to American white. I do believe that not all Filipina marry Americans in pursuit for a better living cuz if it did, I would have just settled for a Filpino man here considering the fact that I am already financially stable in my job. Personally, I want to marry an American because I have a strong feeling that I am secured with them that no Filipino man can give to me in all aspects and forms.
What an excellent article.
As an Englishman I don’t have a great deal of experience dating Women from the far east as I met my partner (she is thai) and have never looked back since and I hope we are together until death do us part. We complement each other perfectly. She allows me to be a male in the relationship and she is the female (which I adore about her and as a result will do anything to protect her and make sure she is happy) - now before you all jump down my throat, this does not mean ’she knows her place’ or is chained to the kitchen - far from it, to make her unhappy would crush me, its just that she knows how to complement my male side and bring out the knight in shinning armor. I could not find this before.
I looked for this magic for 35 years in women from my own country and luck did not find me - I found the common thread was that she would want to be both the male and the female in the relationship - whereas I expected to adopt only more female traits.
Now I get a lot of my friends (well to do 30 year old males) asking me for an introduction to my partners friends or sisters after seeing what a pot of gold I have found and how happy I am now.
For the record as well folks - she has more money then me and we plan to live together in Asia and have lots of babies!
I know that your article is 100% true. When I left Clark Air Base with my bride and son, only my male friends and immediate family welcomed her to the USA. I would get looks and comments from American women, but I learned to ignore them. Now years later I am going to bring a new bride back from the Philippines and who is the number one objector? American women (who are all divorced) They say only bad things about them, very sad, because my woman makes me happy, and I expect to remain married forever, now that I have learned to share my feelings. Give her my love uncondionally
Great article!@!
I’m a Western woman and I beg to differ that I can’t compete sexually with Asian girls. I would rock your world if we were a couple. Maybe you should give redheads a chance too!!
Also Asian girls: date whoever you want. If white guys make you happy then go for it!! I don’t care. There aren’t enough happy marriages in this world and if being with a white man makes you happy then I could never dream of doing anything but encouraging that. Vice Versa to you Western men. I don’t like what this article says about Western girls being all jealous because I don’t fit into ANY of the generalizations it’s made.
Damzn…good article but wouldn’t it make sense to not tell western women to back off? That just sounds tooo immature. We know that most Asian men rejects asian women who married western men too? Acting just like the Western Women who views western men marrying asian. For the most part, I think Asian women are sex object in the western men’s eyes. Once the sex is no good, he is free to drop the ball and left the lady hanging…I’ve seen too many of them. Remember the movie Full Metal Jacket…”…me so horny…me long you long time” that’s the mindset that’s fed to American men…which makes SEX is the number one tight reason why they want Asian women. Because their petite body provide the best pleasure and their submissive personality….what a sick world we all come to…
I agree with the article. Every woman in this universe wants the best for themselves. Whether it be in Asia or in America, but there is no doubt that there are women out there who only want free access into the country. All I am saying is for the rest of those woman who are still loyal and true to themselves. They come here for a better opportunity, a better life and they will take that for granted, not take advantage of it. Husbands are husbands where ever you go, they are still your husband regardless of the color of their skin. They will still love and respect their husbands the same way. There is not a single soul who doesn’t want to have the perfect marriage, the perfect family, and the perfect life.
If you fall in love with an American man regardless of the color of his skin, and you love him. You too are as righteous as any other woman in this world. It’s not to say that women are not bad, there are woman who take advantage of it, because it’s something better, but there’s a few of those in every ethnicity.
I’m filipina and I’ve never had an “american” woman look at me with disdain, which I’m assuming you mean white woman. My best friend is white. Of course, I also am American born and raised so culturally speaking, I don’t really differ that much other than looks. I think alot of the filipinas that marry for passports, are the reason why there is some animosity, not because of race.
They marry the guy then they dump him a couple of years later.
I have seen so many americans here in the Philippines and 90% of them are consist of the following:
OLD american guys ages 50-80
Bald
big fat belly
Retired living in a pention
divorce
UGLY
This are the guys that cant get laid in the states even if they pay for it.
unlike america there are more women than men in the philippines. The ratio is 6 women to 1 men.
The Filipinas that they marry are:
Short- less than 5′2
either Thin or fat but both short
Dark skin
flat nose
UGLY
In short the girls who are destined to be single for the rest of there life if they dont go for american men.
The reality is
Ugly American + Ugly Filipina
= makes a Jessica Alba look a like baby
In My opionion and I dont mean to judge ..just telling the reality. No one should be jealous because we are getting your scraps from america and you are getting ours. In the end every body is happy and they make good looking babies toos.
this is a great article! i agree that there are some american women who look down on asian women (like me) but still, i know a lot who are sincerely friendly. i don’t think you can generalize it because as in every culture or race, there are a lot of differences in opinion. i think its also unfair to the american women to do that. at the same time i believe it’s not right that filipinas should be known as just women who marry western men so that they can have their visa and citizenship. to some, yes, they might have done that but i believe there is more to it than just that reason. an american man might have wanted a filipina because of her giving and caring ways. and in our side, we like foreigners because they expect equality and so, we feel that we can also be given the love and care that we long for . and when we do something for them which is normal to us but is more than what they expected, it is doubly appreciated.
as for the issue regarding filipinas having to work in america or other countries, i admire them because it takes courage and strength to go to a foreign place (esp by herself) and work hard away from their families especially their children just to give their kids a better opportunities in life. can you imagine only having to see your kids once or twice a year? to have them grow up and you are not even there? it is such a big sacrifice. i think it’s even harder being in the US because when you get home from work, you are still the one who has to cook, do chores and such while in the philippines a middle-income family can have at least 1 or 2 housekeeper/s because labor is cheaper there.
it might be hard for all cultures to get along well, but i wish we could all give and receive respect.
I’m a Filipina and I’m married to a very fine american guy. I never knew I would marry a white till I found him. I met a lot though. They were my friends. I got to know him and we dated for periods of time. Until he decided to propose. I told him about issuse like what have been discussed in the article…like Filipinas just want a better future, they want money or they need a visa to the US. I told him that it’s a false generalization. Maybe some do. But, I definitely don’t. I’m a professional. I graduated and I even have a license. Most people think that white guys choose nannies or low class women as wives… but, I’m not. some are not. I’m 22 when I got married and my husband was 25. So, we were young then and we still have so many options. My husband could have chosen to date someone in his country but chose to be with me…he travelled many times to be with me. It was tough for a young man like him to date and marry someone from my country. It’s too much pain in the pocket. But, he said, he would not want to spend his money any other way.
We got married after a year of dating. We’re happily married and our differences just make our relationship more interesting and exciting. I proved to him that not all Filipinas are like what most american women think.
even the military knows that asian women want to come to America and when they find out that the Soldier is not rich like the Hollywood Movie Stars once they get here they dump them break their hearts and our government pays for them to go to school. This why the military discourages these relationships.
This Mom says stay with your own kind and leave my son alone.
To be honest if a guy is enough of a fool to get scammed by an overseas girl he is just as likely to get taken for a ride and ripped off by a good ole home backed american ‘his own kind’ girl he is also entitled to half his livelyhood.
Please stop referring to Whites as American. You can say, European woman, as opposed to Asian women, or simply Caucasian women. You keep sayin American women, and you could be talking about Asian women when you say that.
I’m Asian and I am 100% American . . . duh!!!
I’m sorry but you’re way ahead of yourself.
I’m a white man and I find asian women to be repulsive looking. And the fact that they try everything in their power to have Caucasian women physical traits doesn’t make them look any better. Small eyes, boyish figures, too short, annoying voices. And they all look the same.
The only guys that are crazy about asian women are the geeks that can’t get any other girls.
Seriously, why are people saying that they prefer a spouse whose white, asian, hispanic, brown, black, native american, etc. If you’re looking for somebody to be with and have unconditional love, (that is independent of physical appearance, money, material things and lust) you should not care about that person’s race or ethnicity. But here’s my question to all of the Fillipinas and American men (I’m not American) who say that they want to date Asians/ whites for their personality and equality.:
If you came across another bloke who had these same personality traits, (but they were in your ethnicity or one different from Asian or white) would you still accept him/her? I completely understand why you’d prefer to date an Asian girl/ white bloke because certain groups of people on average share a common mentality (although there is a moderately wide standard deviation) and you may not like that average mentality. But it’s not good to reject a person because of their race or to like a person because of their race. So would you date a low-standard white/asian?
I’m a multi-racial bloke in my mentality and I do not conform to any single one. (although I steer far away from African American/ black culture which is very ridiculous and low-standard) If I were an organic molecule, I’d have many resonance structures with the African American traits being the minor contributor. I find it surprising to hear that Asian women (from East Asia) like non- Asian guys and I’ve always thought that the few couples who are seen were just rare cases. (and going by the large Asian population, the rare cases are noticeable) Anyway, my problem is that I’m always being given the third degree whenever I try to find a mate who I am compatible with and I think that it’s always race-related to some extent. (when it should be zero)
Moral of story: People who have strict preferences for a certain race should not be miffed if a bloke from that race has preferences that do not include you. I can guarantee that you will feel like a waste of atoms.
the white men go to us because we treat them the way a man/husband should be treated. we know our place as women and the white women constantly cry about material things like i want shoes, i want a haircut, i want a 400 dollar purse, i want makeup, i want this”. and american women secretly think they need to get a guy ‘wrapped around their fingers’ and try to take advantage. american women try way to hard, are way too competitive and i know this from conversations with my husband who is white and many friendly conversations with caucasian acquaintances. white women can continue their jealousy, it won’t get them the good white guys because the good guys go to the beautiful asian women who they find ‘exotic’ and ’sexy’.
Actually asian chikk there are quite a few varieties of relationships (including white guy/asian girl) where the girl is constantly demanding that he buy her designer goods. It really depends on the individual.
This isn’t a competition to see whose race makes a better spouse. Comments like yours that are vicious and generalizing only cause further deterioration in a world that is already characterized by tense racial conflict and prejudice.
There is no need to go to a great effort to try and prove that Asian women can compete with white women or this group of women is superior than that group of women. When I see people who are so outspoken about their own race/group’s supposed superior qualities I have to wonder if they aren’t doing it because they secretly harbor inferiority complexes and are overcompensating.
I feel that if a person is truly confident in who they are and what group they belong to, they do not feel the need to let everyone know how superior their group is.
Relax. There is no need to feel threatened.
As a white American woman I certainly don’t. I don’t get upset or jealous when I see white men with asian women (or women of any ethnicity) because I just don’t care.
And by the way I am very good to my man, and I buy every single one of my material possessions on my own (and even some of his!) He’s even been engaged to an Asian girl before me but had to break it off because she was just too selfish and manipulative. Good and bad relationships come in all shapes and sizes. And selfish bitchy women can be found in every race and culture.
asian women are looking for american men for an easy life and money. They run the show. American men who have a bad relationship with an american women go running thinking it will be better and easier with a trusting family oriented asian women, surprise surprise. Hope you dumb american saps have the money it takes to keep your litter asian women.
Who are asian women kidding, they marry american men, have at least one kid(so child support will be available for the future), get their citizenship to bring the rest of their family over here and get a divorce 5yrs later and take half of everything the poor american sucker owns. All these women have their friends are asian with american husbands and all striving to screw more american men.
These pathetic american guys think asian women are honest, non cheating, family oriented women and do not believe in divorce, hate to tell you a women is a women no matter what nationality. women cheat and so do men in all nationalities, wake up and smell the coffee honey.
I’m Black/white and honestly, pussy is pussy. it’s person and personality the pussy is attached to that matters.