If you are disconnected at present then when you do make contact you will cry for a week and after that you will certainly be in love with your own little boy or girl inside and from then on you need never look back ever.

Will you then easily find that special person? I don,t know that one but at least you can spare yourself from the time and heartache wasted making love with zombies. You could also show every person you meet how to be healed and my guess is that if you do that you will have a hard time to steering clear of bliss.

3 months ago I was doing some eft to help a close woman friend (never a girlfriend) to come to terms with the horrid way her son was treating her. We found she could not say “I truly love and believe in myself”. Well nothing new there, she is after all sick and that’s why she needed her friend.

So two weeks ago I was driving my car, two ladies were in the back and Tess’s husband who I never met before was sat beside me in the dark as we drove across the Cheshire plain to a Tango dance party. This guy is an experienced life coach. We chatted about therapies and I mentioned the friend who could not love herself or even say the words. This guy said that almost all the people he saw could not say that, but the spooky thing was that this so called sorted mature life coach guy was in effect telling me he could not say that either.

So bingo! Eureka, now I know why my life has not been working right since I left my first wife 25 years ago. When I seduce a girl or make love to her I am communicating directly with the little girl in the core (or soul or heart or whatever you like to call it). So I am making passionate love to an entity that may not even be known to or loved by the outer shell woman. So of course every time I feel this I leave politely and quickly. It usually takes 10 weeks to get close enough to know.

SO MEN AND WOMEN NEED TO KNOW THAT MAKING LOVE WITH ANOTHER WHILE ONE DOES NOT EVEN LOVE ONESELF IS A CONTRADICTION IN TERMS AND A PRIMARY ABUSE OF THE PERSONS.

I can bet you $100 (or whatever your currency is) that you will have at least told one woman: “I want a relationship” and then a bit later: “Sorry, I’m a bit busy now”.

So many women I know are frustrated with the hot/coldness and flightiness of men – it has even happened to me.

However, I admit that perhaps some women are like this too. It is a human problem my friend.

Treat women with dignity and expect the same from them. Treat women with sensitivity.

However, if your upbringing has taught you that women don’t deserve this and are somehow lesser beings, then you will be damned to a life of taking women for granted and annoying them . This article cannot help you.

But hey, nothing in life is easy.

Attracting and keeping a MAN is not easy! So why would men expect women to be?

Try to think about what you would want from a woman and mirror it.

You don’t want a woman who is calling you every minute of the day, but you also don’t want a woman who only thinks about herself, flirts with other men etc.

From that point of view it is simple.

From personal experience, I don’t think it is easy to create a relationship for either of the sexes, but then again, nothing worth it is easy.

Try — “business” “never ask me about my business again”.

I found that taking great care with car door opening etiquette really works for the woman, but stranger still it really works for me too, down boy!

All a man can do is be himself and of course strive to be sensitive, honest, loyal, brave, clean and on and on ad nausium. Today….women are big into “DEMANDS” because they are still attempting to find out “who-they-are”!! So we all have to get over ourselves and let the chips fall where they may.