Understanding Mind Games Women Play
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Well, for one thing, they’re women. And women think and react with their emotions — at least more than men do, in general. But it’s really about testing us. And tests are ultimately all about control of the relationship. The typical guy is usually clueless about the mind games women play. But play them they will, so you’d better be aware of what’s going on.
Women are divided into two groups by men. The good girls and the bad girls. The problem is that no matter which classification women fall into they are berated for it. There is a certain level of embarrassment attached to sex brought on by environmental conditioning and religious belief. Women are conditioned since birth that if we have or enjoy sex they will contract diseases be ridiculed and/or go directly to hell. Finding a happy medium is tedious and difficult.
It is quite common to see the majority of society pretending they don’t like or want anything to do with sex. While the whole time STD and teenage pregnancy statistics rise daily. People are having sexual relations from early ages on up to those who invest in medical aids to keep it going well into their golden years. Right now as you read this someone, somewhere is having sex. We all know we desire it, in fact it is instinctual but we do everything within our power to hide that fact.
If a woman is forward and aggressive about sexual desire she is pooled into the bad girl category automatically. Groups of men speak amongst themselves and label her a pig. She is then treated differently by the group at large, generally with little to no respect. The way she is approached (if she is approached at all) is often disrespectful and seldom is she considered a prospect for a long term relationship.
Women are constantly judged by how many partners they have had and usually any number higher than one makes her ethics and morals questionable. If a woman has put her faith in a man and decided to explore her sexuality or even given in to a man to “keep him satisfied” and allowed multiple positions she is at risk of that man telling all his friends about everything that transpires between them. Once that happens they are judged regardless of whether the woman loves the man or believes him to be her lifelong partner.
On the other hand we have the good girls. Those who refuse advances and remain chaste. The good women can be brought home to meet the parents and appear in public with their partner openly, while this is conceived as the better of the two type’s women know this is not the case. The good girls are considered prudes and berated for not ‘putting out’ and therefore are seldom the first to get dates.
Men threaten to leave them on a regular basis if they demand value in the relationship and commitment to allow sexual relations on the basis that they are not fulfilling the mans needs.
Men use women’s lack of willingness to submit to spontaneity and creative sexuality as an excuse to cheat on them. As much as promiscuous women are berated they are far more popular because they tend to fulfill men’s desires though they are rapidly discarded afterwards. Naturally it is perfectly ok for a man to be promiscuous in fact the more women he has landed the more he is revered by his friends, however even women will shun other women who have poor reputations so as not to suffer death by association.
So why do women play games? To preserve their reputations and hopefully avoid being labeled into either category. Therefore women have to find an alternate route to simply saying they have the same desires and urges. Women have to make men chase them only to push them away so they appear neither easy nor frigid. If a woman can not learn to yo-yo a man then she risks disgrace, stereotyping, and the possibility of solitude. Women fall prey to the double standard imposed by men, so they “play games” because men make them.
All women are insecure, they may say that they are secure and confident and independent but, women need men to tell them they are beautiful, smart and not just objects.
when was the last time you heard a man ask his woman if he looks fat in those jeans? women like to nurture and make sure that their man looks good but, men don’t really care about the small things that women do unless they are gay.
Sure - life is hard and society is unfair to women, and that’s why they play games, in a totally understandable reaction to the unreasonable expectations of men.
I’m willing to believe that covers about 5% of it.
Cool, thanks for the insight. I always thought the yo-yo’ing was just her being slightly crazy/stupid.
Women are divided into two groups by men. The good girls and the bad girls. The problem is that no matter which classification women fall into they are berated for it.
BUT all men are unfaithful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Rosalie, I’m pretty sure that ALL of any group of people aren’t anything.
I won’t get too far into the nature vs nurture debate, but I think it’s fair to say that both impact our behaviour. Women and men may feel they are “good” or “bad” based on how they percieve themselves as fitting those societal norms.
It’s not a point of contention with me that we divide women into “good” and “bad” girls - I often place the same one in both categories over time (and back and forth - it’s fun, kind of like changing positions
It takes a grownup to realize that people aren’t that simple.
women play alot of mind games and i dont think that is good, like i will always say if you want some thing why dont you go for it
woman plays games all the time. a test to see what kind of man that they really are , silly but very effective. all mens out there watch out.
I believe it comes down to a science that really: women dont know what they want. Women can deny this all day but the truth is in the pudding. What they say they want is referring to what they “think” they want, because they havent been exposed to a man that they want yet.Regardless of how many games they play. Part of this article is true that women need to mind game a man to find out what she is dealing with. But what women dont understand is that when she makes a man chase her only to push her away, guess what she ends up with? NOTHING. Sometimes women dont know what they’re missing when they reject men. And besides, playing mind games only leads to drama.
Where is the woman who admits her sexuality in private but is unwilling to share it without a hell of a lot of love and romance first.
Even the so called good girls are just far too eager for their own good. In my humble opinion. Men should lead, yes. Press quite hard, yes. But find and bed a good woman easily, not.
Mind games be dammed, she should openly say “I want you to hear me screaming so loud the neighbours complain, but it will take you a year or two. Then in a month or so you are very flaterred.