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So, whats wrong with sex before marriage? “A lot of people look for the correct person, but they don’t worry about becoming the correct person.”

Would you like your future life partner to be somebody who has slept with a numerous amount of people and knows the body and intimacy of those who will in the future become strangers in your relationship?

Or, would you prefer somebody who wants to have that experience with you and only you because they know that sex is something serious?

Would you prefer spending your life with someone who has been within 50 different relationships, or with someone who has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Does it not sound better if both can be able to learn form each others sexuality rather than permitting your partner to learn with others? Would it not sound better to be your partners first and last? Yours and only yours.

Not every body thinks this way. But be honest to yourself, isn’t this better than what common society tells us?

Now I understand that many might say that “nobody waits for marriage anymore”. But this is the exact same reason why we have so many problems when it comes to the topic of sex:
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Are you addicted to urgency? Signs of addiction include inability to make choice or slow yourself down, feeling compelled to act, ignoring other aspects of your life, and worry/guilt about your behavior.

When we feel restless when not working, function best under pressure, work through lunch, take infrequent breaks from work, and get used to the adrenaline rush from having to meet deadlines. Do you resemble those remarks?

I have to admit sometimes I do! My boy friend is the exact opposite, nothing appears urgent to him he is just so relaxed most of the time.

How do we combat this sense of urgency? The unexpected is to be expected in every project — even in a routine, well oiled lifestyle. And when that becomes a reality, effective crisis management becomes an essential skill and important best practice.

Sometimes the key lies in reacting quickly to a crisis and contain it before it does more damage. The problem surfaces when crisis management becomes the routine rather than the exception. Are you spending more of your time putting out fires than doing your work? If so, you are managing by crisis.

When crisis management becomes ‘normal’, it can easily lead to what Stephen Covey calls “Urgency Addiction.” People that are addicted to urgency enjoy the adrenalin rush, they like stepping in and handling problems, and at times they even get rewarded for doing that! They lack the basic incentive to avoid or prevent the fires because they see a payoff every time they put one out.

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Your phone rings when the caller wants it to ring, which means you have less control, however when it comes to answering emails you have a certain amount of control unless you prefer to lose it. For a maximum of efficiency and productivity (and a maximum of spare time) try to finish dealing with every new message the moment you see it first if this is at all possible.

If you think you cannot deal with a message at this time, do not open it. If you read a message but do not take care of it you will have to read it again when you do have the time to deal with it.

A curious feature of today’s business life is that the ‘emergency-crisis’ atmosphere has now taken over as the norm. You spend most of the day not only working at the computer, but poised on high alert, ready to put out those instant ‘brushfires’ that suddenly erupt – in other words, handling your e-mail, or more accurately, being handled by it.

There is an important difference between two kinds of working time – the constructive kind where you control the operation, and the disruptive kind where you are forced to break-off and respond to interruptions. Anyone who has studied time management would immediately identify e-mail as a major cause of the second one.

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