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Archive for June, 2008

We decided to find out from some women what they find most annoying in men. One lady says she hates a man who is too weak and too submissive. “A man has to be firm and resolute no matter how much he loves a woman. Some men go to the extent of crying when women they love are not cooperating.”

That is absolute non-sense. It annoys me. I also hate men who are too submissive and are ready to do anything for women. This does not mean that I do not want a sensitive man who is open about his feelings, but it means that I want a man to be his own person, think for himself and claim what he wants from a relationship.”

Women hate a stalker. “I cannot tolerate a man who likes to follow me. I like those who have the guts to approach and talk to me”. Women hate a man who monitors her movement or who pesters her. “Imagine your husband calling you up every 15 minutes, when you are very busy in the office. Regardless of how much a man loves me, this can be irritating, as I always like a man to give me a breathing space.”

Men who indulge so much in alcohol put women off. “Everything should have a limit. But some men just never believe in limits. They make drinking a habit and cannot live without it. Alcohol addiction will be the first thing that will drive me away from any man”.
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Speed dating is a great way to meet new people. You know that everyone is single and people are actually paying to meet you! It sounds like a dream come true. Well, it is, but speed dating does not come without its own potential pitfalls. In this article, I will address some of these pitfalls and discuss how to avoid them. Less blunders equals more matches and dates after each event for you.

It stings when you speed date and you feel as if you have connected with a number of women during an event, but then find out a few days later that there are no matches waiting in your mailbox. When this happens, it’s easy to blame every woman that you met for not liking you or come to the rationalization that you didn’t like anyone at the event. It’s also easy to go into despair and think that no one likes you. I will offer you a much better solution by helping you spot your speed dating mistakes and getting you on track to not only meeting more women at each speed dating event, but also meeting women that you want.

I suggest arriving at the speed dating event a few minutes early. This way you’ll have enough time to grab a drink and feel more comfortable, instead of arriving a few minutes late and having to scramble to get to the event.

We tend to spend a lot more time focusing on our clothing when going on a date, but much less time devoted to focusing on our own mind set. This is probably the biggest mistake guys make because they are putting too much emphasis on dressing up and not enough emphasis on thinking positive and seeing themselves as fun and attractive. Women feel that if you are confident, then you are attractive. You should be well groomed because, let’s face it, in this day and age, it’s practically mandatory.
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Well, for one thing, they’re women. And women think and react with their emotions — at least more than men do, in general. But it’s really about testing us. And tests are ultimately all about control of the relationship. The typical guy is usually clueless about the mind games women play. But play them they will, so you’d better be aware of what’s going on.

Women are divided into two groups by men. The good girls and the bad girls. The problem is that no matter which classification women fall into they are berated for it. There is a certain level of embarrassment attached to sex brought on by environmental conditioning and religious belief. Women are conditioned since birth that if we have or enjoy sex they will contract diseases be ridiculed and/or go directly to hell. Finding a happy medium is tedious and difficult.

It is quite common to see the majority of society pretending they don’t like or want anything to do with sex. While the whole time STD and teenage pregnancy statistics rise daily. People are having sexual relations from early ages on up to those who invest in medical aids to keep it going well into their golden years. Right now as you read this someone, somewhere is having sex. We all know we desire it, in fact it is instinctual but we do everything within our power to hide that fact.

If a woman is forward and aggressive about sexual desire she is pooled into the bad girl category automatically. Groups of men speak amongst themselves and label her a pig. She is then treated differently by the group at large, generally with little to no respect. The way she is approached (if she is approached at all) is often disrespectful and seldom is she considered a prospect for a long term relationship.
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Many a men want to know how to approach women without fear, but very few decide to get to that point… most decide that you need to be born with it.

I have a buddy who will under no circumstances approach a woman he doesn’t know. It doesn’t matter if she’s making direct eye contact and sending him a “come seduce me” smile. He’s absolutely scared to death of making cold approaches. If you share his philosophy of fear, then you’re missing out on a lot of opportunities. It’s your job as a male to approach women and to show interest first.

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it? To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Think for a moment about how you feel if a perfect stranger compliments you. Have you ever had a woman smile and approach you out of the blue? Ever had a carload of girls drive by when you’re jogging and scream at you approvingly? It makes you feel great doesn’t it? It doesn’t even matter if she’s hot or not. If a woman shows interest in you, then you feel great inside.
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There is no better way today to meet new and interesting potential mates than through an Internet dating site. However, with the hundreds of sites available out there, how can you choose one that is best? Here are six steps to help you choose a good online dating service:

Know your budget. Remember that most dating sites charge anywhere from $20 to $30 monthly as fees for their services. Some charge you one-time membership fees. Make sure you have already set a specific budget that you want to devote for online dating then for a site that fits your budget well. There are free online dating sites available. You can check them out as well if you are out of budget.

Ask friends and family for recommendations. If you use a search engine to look for a good online dating site, be ready to get overwhelmed. If you want to skip having to look through pages of dating sites available all over the Internet, try asking your friends instead. For sure, you will know someone or someone who knows someone who have tried online dating. Ask them to recommend you a good dating site which offers great services.

Consider joining specialized sites. You can opt to sign up for a specialized dating site. If you have unique situations or special interests, you can look around for dating services which are concentrated on people like you. There are sites which are for customized audiences, which can include those with specific racial, religious, political or sexual preferences, among others. This way, you can find the dating site most suitable for you.
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Online dating can really be amusing. A lot of people even find it workable and gratifying. In fact, there are more benefits other people do not realize unless they try online dating themselves.

However, not all online dating escapades produce positive results in the end. There are instances wherein the expectations sometimes go out of hand when executed in reality.

Take for example the case of a person who was lucky enough to find somebody he thinks is the right girl for him. He replied on her profile and when he received an answer from the girl, they started to communicate frequently.

What happens on their online dating is a series of continuous communication, exchanging messages, chatting continuously, and spending hours over the phone.

Because of the instant chemistry that evolved each time they talk to each other, the guy had emotionally built up the possibility of having a true, and not virtual, relationship with the girl. That is why he decided to set up their first real date.

As they day came when they agreed to meet for lunch, everything seem to have crumbled into pieces. The girl appeared to be somewhat different what the guy had expected or recalled. What made the meeting even worse is that what used to be a cheerful, lively conversation they usually had whenever they talk on the phone or chat in the Internet suddenly becomes so stiff and strained.
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You might dismiss them as funny but one thing I will assure you is, they are not baseless. At least they are not myths but facts. Laugh them off but take them seriously. They give meaning to the world’s earliest game; sex. There are very many funny sex facts associated with the act of love making. One of them is, having normal nice sex burns around 360 calories. It is an exercise like any other game and it all depends on the energy you put in it. A rough sex game burns around 544 calories.

This means sex keeps you physically fit. Actually all the funny sex facts have health benefits. It is a funny sex fact that sex instantly stops headache or any mild depression. It is a painkiller since it causes release of endorphins in the blood stream and causes a sense of euphoria. At least you now know that headache is a lame excuse not to have sex.

Still on the medical field, it is a funny sex fact that plenty of sex unblocks a stuffy nose. The secretions produced during sex are natural antihistamine. No wonder married people appear healthier in more than one way. The more oral sex you do the better since it has its own funny sex facts. Giving services for oral sex massages the jaws. It also burns some calories so you are exercising too while giving pleasure. Another funny sex fact is that semen deals with bad breath better than mouth wash.

The cum actually adds vitamins to your body while swallowed and guess what? It is said to whiten your teeth. Take a lot and save a smile. Have you heard of edible underwear? They are becoming very popular. For instance where the whole underwear is made of candy. This is eroticism at its best. The most popular flavor of this edible underwear is actually cherry.
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Our sexual behavior expresses not only our psychosexual makeup but also the entirety of our personality. Sex is the one realm of conduct which involves the full gamut of emotions, cognitions, socialization, traits, heredity, and learned and acquired behaviors. By observing one’s sexual predilections and acts, the trained psychotherapist and diagnostician can learn a lot about the patient.

Inevitably, the sexuality of patients with personality disorders is thwarted and stunted. In the Paranoid Personality Disorder, sex is depersonalized and the sexual partner is dehumanized. The paranoid is besieged by persecutory delusions and equates intimacy with life-threatening vulnerability, a “breach in the defenses” as it were. The paranoid uses sex to reassure him that he is still in control and to quell is anxiety.

The schizotypal individual develops a fear of, strong objection to, or incapacity for social interaction, due to the sum of their past social experiences being negative in nature. As infants they do not learn how to interact with others, and as children and adults this inability quickly makes them a target for other people.

The patient with Schizoid Personality Disorder is asexual. The schizoid is not interested in maintaining any kind of relationship and avoids interactions with others – including sexual encounters. He prefers solitude and solitary activities to any excitement sex can offer. The Schizotypal Personality Disorder and the Avoidant Personality Disorder have a similar effect on the patient but for different reasons: the schizotypal is acutely discomfited by intimacy and avoids close relationships in which his oddness and eccentricity will be revealed and, inevitably, derided or decried.
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After summoning the courage, you finally land a date with the hot chick you’ve been lusting for. You show up at the door with flowers and candy, and think that you are about to score brownie points when she opens the door. I have news for you, buddy, because your date is probably thinking the exact opposite.

If you’re going to ask a woman out on a date, have a plan. Women love that and women love confidence. Ask open-ended questions. Rather than saying, “Where are you from?” say, “Tell, me about the place where you grew up.” That will keep the conversation flowing. Men, you should still open doors and pull out a chair for your date. These chivalrous things still make a good impression: Plan the date near her place, not yours. And most importantly, pick up the check.

Flowers and candy were once thought to be “romantic” or a “gentlemanly gesture.” That was also in the days of Leave it to Beaver. Times have changed, women have changed. Things that worked back then, just don’t work now. They don’t carry any merit, and in fact, they actually may hurt you. Let me tell you why.

What you thought was such a sweet gesture on your part, just told the woman you are taking on a date a very different thing. To her, flowers and candy represent a wimpy token of appreciation in hopes of receiving her attention in exchange. They are unoriginal, lack creativity, and are just plain cheesy. You might get a fake smile in return, and maybe a hug if you’re lucky, but they will both lack sincerity. Strike ONE!

Not only will they lack sincerity, but you have just lost any ounce of respect you were hoping to establish. Any ordinary fellow can pick up flowers, so you have to do something to set yourself apart from those other guys.
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